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How to Write a Eulogy for a Brother: 12+ Examples

Updated 05/10/2022

Published 11/11/2019

Kate Wight, BA in English

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Preparing a eulogy can be a heartbreaking challenge — particularly when you’re writing one for your deceased brother. Maybe you’re not a trained writer and you’re asked to write something interesting and moving.

And on top of that, maybe you aren’t a trained public speaker, either— and you’re asked to deliver words in a way that’s clear and not rushed. Furthermore, you’re asked to do these things as you deal with profound grief.   

Jump ahead to these sections:

• Ste p 1: Gather and Organize Stories and Memories

Step 2: Consult with Other Family Members

Step 3: set a theme, step 4: write and polish, step 5: get feedback, step 6: get it in writing, step 7: practice makes perfect, short sample and example eulogies for a brother.

Sure, you might be experiencing grief, but you can still write and deliver a powerful eulogy. Here are some steps to get you started.

Tip: If you're not sure what tasks to take on next after the loss of your brother, our post-loss checklist can help. 

Step 1: Gather and Organize Stories and Memories

One of the easiest ways to capture the character of the deceased is by telling a memorable anecdote about him. Spend some time thinking about your brother.

What ice-breaker stories bubble to the surface? What story might your brother have wanted you to share? What are your personal favorite memories? What treasured stories are told time and time again at holidays and family gatherings? These are great ways to start building your eulogy. 

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Are you having a difficult time pinning down one specific story to share? Ask other family members about their fondest memories. This will help other people feel invested in the process and it will also give you the opportunity to make sure the material you’re putting together will resonate with your audience. 

It’s not as difficult as you might think to bring a sophisticated narrative structure to a eulogy. Select one major characteristic of your loved one and tie in a few different stories or memories related to that characteristic. Did your brother love to cook? Start off with a funny story of how your brother almost set the kitchen on fire as a young child.

Then, talk about how he became a good cook and would even help you prepare meals to impress dates and let you take all the credit. Then list some of his accolades as a renowned chef. Finish by saying that even in hospice, when he could no longer eat, he would still critique everyone’s meal choices.  

A theme allows you to weave humor into your eulogy. It also allows you to list the deceased’s accomplishments. This simple rhetorical tool is a very effective way to organize the points you want to make.     

No piece of writing is perfect on the first pass. Take your time and know that you may have to go through a few rewrites before you feel confident delivering your eulogy. It’s okay if it’s not perfect right away. In fact, it’s okay if it’s never perfect. It’s more important that it’s from the heart. 

Part of the editing process should involve reading your eulogy out loud. This will help you get a feel for the rhythm and cadence of the eulogy. Words often feel different when you say them out loud versus reading them in your head. This will help you make sure there aren’t places where you stumble.

Get input from people — it’s always an integral part of the writing process. Select a few trusted people to give you feedback, preferably people who knew the deceased. They should be able to help you fine-tune any details you might be missing.   

Don’t worry about trying to memorize your eulogy. No one will mind if you need to refer to notes or a printed speech. Delivering a eulogy while you’re grieving puts you under emotional strain.

Your capacity for memorizing may not be up to your usual standards — and that’s okay. 

Even the most experienced public speakers practice before a eulogy or any other kind of speech. Practicing helps you identify the perfect spots to breathe. It also helps you determine how slowly or quickly you should speak.

Most importantly, it helps the eulogy become second nature to you. If you feel confident and comfortable in your delivery, so will everyone else. 

There is no relationship quite like the one between siblings. We’ve compiled some brief eulogy samples specifically geared toward the brother or brother-type figure in your life.  

From a sister

• “So many of my friends growing up had older brothers who would threaten to beat up any prospective suitors. This was their way of showing love. Jack was different, though. Instead of letting his fists do the talking, he was a big fan of talking about your feelings. I asked him why that was once. He said he would never want me to date someone who thought violence was an acceptable way to resolve things. That was Jack — he always led by example.” 
• “When Sam was born, I thought he was great for about the first three hours he was home. But soon the thrill wore off, and I asked what the return policy was on new babies. In my defense, I was five years old and up until then, had always been an only child. Ultimately, I’m glad the hospital had a terrible return policy because I wouldn’t trade the thirty years I spent with Sam for anything.”
• “The first time we knew John had a knack with animals, he was eight and won a goldfish at the fair. We warned him that they rarely lived for more than a day, but John kept that fish alive for four more years. He also smuggled several stray animals into the house to recuperate over the years. The most memorable one was the raccoon, of course. It was no surprise to us that he decided to become a veterinarian.” 

From a brother

• “Mark was 15 when I was born. A lot of teenagers wouldn’t have been too interested in such a younger brother. But some of my earliest memories are of Mark. He was always willing to play hide and seek or teach me how to build a tree fort. He was the best big brother anyone could ask for.”
• “When most kids skin their knees, they go to their moms to get fixed up. But I always went to Teddy. Even though he wasn’t much older than I was, he was so good at taking care of people. It is no surprise that he grew up to be a beloved pediatrician.” 
• “Growing up, Stephen’s happy place was always our grandfather’s workshop. It wasn’t unusual for him to disappear for a while and come back with his hair filled with sawdust. The times he spent with Grandpa inspired him to begin designing and building furniture and selling it to put himself through college, and most of the family supported him by buying his work. Stephen may no longer be here, but when we sit at the tables he crafted, we’ll always feel like we’re close to him.” 

From a brother-in-law

• “I never thought anyone would be good enough to marry my little sister. But when she met Nick, I could tell he was someone that would treat her well. I was right. He really was almost the perfect gentleman, even if he did have terrible taste in football teams.”
• “Lucas and I met in the second grade when his dad’s company transferred him to us. He and I became immediate best friends in the way that only 8-year-olds do. The first time he came over to our house, he was excited to discover I had a sister. He told me one day he’d marry her and then he and I would be brothers. I’m not saying that’s why he actually married my sister 20 years later. But I’m not saying it’s not why, either.” 
• “Not long after we met, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my wife. And when I met her family members, I immediately fell in love with them, too. I remember hitting it off with Danny from the moment we met. He wasn’t my brother just because of a happy accident of marriage. He was the brother of my heart.” 

From a friend who was like a brother

• “When I first left for college, I was nervous that I wouldn’t get along with my roommate. I had always been a nerdy, introverted outcast. Calvin was the complete opposite. He was gregarious and outgoing. But despite our differences, we immediately clicked. He was the yin to my yang. Calvin never met anyone he didn’t consider to be a good friend. I’m grateful to be counted among them.” 
• “Many of you know that Scott and I first met in kindergarten. What you might not know is that we didn’t like each other at first because I peed on his sandcastle. I was just trying to create a moat — and after I told him, he thought it was a great idea. We became best buds after that.” 
• “Many of you know that Bobby and I played high school baseball together. What you might not know is that we go back even further than that. We played on the same t-ball team. We were both pretty terrible. I would daydream in left field, and when he did manage to hit the ball off the tee, he’d always run the wrong way around the bases. But our skills grew, and over the years our friendship did, too.”  

Writing a Eulogy for Your Brother 

Writing a eulogy for a brother is an emotionally complex task. It can be tricky to navigate the process of writing a eulogy when your emotions are heightened.

But being able to successfully move and inspire other mourners can also be tremendously cathartic. Above all, remember to speak from your heart.

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Eulogy examples to help you write a eulogy for a memorial service

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How do you begin to write a meaningful eulogy?

And how is it possible to say everything you want to about a person's entire life story in a few, very brief, minutes?

Both those questions are natural responses to having a eulogy to write for a funeral service.

Grief, together with the desire to honor your loved-one the best way you can, and the pressure of a tight timeframe, can make it feel like an almost insurmountable challenge. 

That's why reading what others have written in similar circumstances helps a great deal.

What's on this page:

Access to 70+ eulogy examples, the whys and wherefores of the collection: its background, a submission form to use if you want to contribute a eulogy and links to other useful pages on my site.

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I am fortunate to be able to make available to you a large, and growing, collection of funeral speech examples. 

They've been written by people from all over the world, who are just like you and me. They too have family and friends whom they care for deeply.

Look and you'll find examples of eulogies for mothers, fathers, grandparents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, mentors, colleagues, a close friend..., in short: loved ones.

The people who've written them have shared them to help people like yourself. Because they've been where you are now with a funeral speech to prepare, they know how it feels to be searching for inspiration, trying to find a starting point.

Some of the speeches are short. Some of them are funny. All of them are heartfelt, and they appear in the order I received them.

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If you're looking for an example of a eulogy for a particular kind of person, and don't want to browse your way through the chronologically ordered list below, use these links to go straight to a collection of:

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I've grouped all the speeches I've received through this page according to their type on a new page here: sample eulogies . Whenever a eulogy is submitted, I add its link to the category it belongs to.

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It began with two funeral speeches  I had written. 

Almost as soon as I put them online, they attracted an enormous number of visitors.

It was then I realized the need for more.  

I also knew my examples would not answer everybody's needs.

The one for my sister was different in approach.

The one for my friend and next-door neighbor was not what a grieving person with a eulogy speech to write for a close family member really wanted to see. 

My two were definitely not enough! 

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To be really useful there needed to be a wider variety of funeral speeches. We needed eulogies for mothers, fathers, sons, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, colleagues, friends, people who died unexpectedly and suddenly...

And we needed them to reflect the diverse countries and faiths of the people visiting the site.

I decided to ask for more. Lo and behold, they began to arrive through my   eulogy submission form below.

Help to make writing a eulogy easier.

After you've read a few eulogy examples, and you want help to prepare your own speech you'll find it here:  how to write a good eulogy .

The article has step-by-step instructions, examples, a very useful free 15-page printable eulogy planning template to download , as well as comprehensive answers for 13 FAQs about eulogies :

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Why do people share a deeply personal speech?

The people sending their eulogies to me to publish fully appreciate that writing a funeral speech under pressure can be a difficult, sad and lonely task - sometimes one of the hardest things they've ever done.

They know from experience having examples to read can lessen that burden. It's a good way of starting to find the right words to tell their own personal stories and share their favorite memories about a person they have loved.

Theirs is a kind and generous act, one that's been repeated over 70 times already. 

Wonderfully, some of the people who've come searching for help to write their own eulogy, have returned to share what they've written.

(Read Craig's comment below his eulogy for his Grandmother, Bertha  or Byrona's below her  eulogy for her Dad  for verification.

Both were helped by funeral speeches they found here and wanted what they had written to assist others in the same way.)

So, if you've written a eulogy...

Would you consider sharing it?

It would help others enormously.

Every day people look for tips on how to a write eulogy or to find  eulogy examples  to read. I know because I see it reflected in my website visitor statistics.

I also know because of the comments people leave under speeches.  They are so very grateful to have found a eulogy expressing how they feel.

For instance, see the comments on Eulogy for my Son , on Eulogy for my Grandmother - Bertha , or Sharon Catley's poem for her Mother,  Journey's End .   

You know how it generally is with a speech of this sort. Typically, there is not much time to prepare, and you want to get it right.

Reading what others have done helps in the best possible way.

These eulogies inspire and give people the courage to do what they need to do.

Despite our differences what we all have in common is the desire to speak about our loved ones the very best way we can. 

The more examples we have, the more likely a person is going to find a speech that resonates and meets their needs.

You too could help by submitting the eulogy you've written. It's very simple to do.

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Writing a Heartfelt Eulogy for Your Brother

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Writing a eulogy for your brother is a special way to honor his memory. Composing a eulogy can take time, but can be a lot easier to do if you stay organized, ask for help if needed, and use simple tips to help guide your process.

How to Write a Eulogy for a Brother

As you begin the eulogy writing process, be sure that you are in the proper headspace to do so. If you need a break, or need to resume at a different time, that's totally okay. To begin the process:

• Jot down favorite memories and stories- can ask family members and friends for help.
• Set the tone (serious, lighthearted, appropriately funny).
• Write a rough draft that includes an opening paragraph, special memories, and closing thoughts.
• Revise your work and proofread.
• Practice the speech in front of someone who will give you honest feedback.
• Once finalized, continue practicing.
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How Do I Start a Eulogy for My Brother?

The opening of the eulogy often includes a welcome to those attending the funeral, memorial, or celebration of life service. It's best practice to focus the opening of the eulogy on your brother, rather than yourself. The start of the eulogy may include:

• State relationship to the deceased individual and use their name in describing the relationship. For example, "(Deceased individual's name) was my (older or younger) brother."
• Share a few sentences about your relationship with your sibling. You can touch on a brief childhood memory here, but think of it like a snapshot.
• You can mention those that your brother was closest to in the family, as well as best friends.

How to Introduce Yourself in Your Brother's Eulogy

Many eulogy speeches have the speaker introduce themselves after they welcome those who have come to honor the deceased individual. Examples of eulogy introductions for a brother include:

• "Good morning and thank you all for being here today to honor (insert deceased individual's name). I'm (insert your name), and (insert deceased individual's name) was my brother."
• "Thank you all for coming out today to celebrate the life of (insert deceased individuals' name). My name is (insert your name), and (insert deceased individual's name) was my brother."

What Should be Included in My Brother's Eulogy?

All eulogies will be unique and what's included or excluded will depend on the speaker's style. In addition to the standard information included in eulogies , your brother's may include:

• A brief snapshot of your childhood with your brother
• A brief mention of those who your brother was closest to in the family, as well as friends
• Sharing a special, poignant, or appropriately lighthearted memory that captures the essence of your brother
• A summary of your brother's positive personality traits and how that played out in his life
• His personal accomplishments and proudest moments
• A poem to honor your brother

Short Eulogy Examples for Brother

Reading sample eulogies can help you create a template for your own, unique eulogy speech for your brother. Some short eulogy examples include:

Eulogy Example for Brother-in-Law

"Hello and thank you all for being here today. My name is (insert name), and (insert deceased individual's name) was my brother-in-law. (Insert deceased individual's name) was an incredible partner to my sister and fit into our family perfectly. To me, we felt like brothers from the second my sister started dating him. He was warm, kind, and always ready to have a good time. Over the years, we all watched in awe as he excelled in his career as a (insert career), but always managed to remain humble. He has always been an incredible support system for all of us, but especially my sister. I remember him dropping everything and driving cross country to comfort my sister when her best friend got into an accident. That's just the kind of guy (insert deceased individual's name) was. (Insert deceased individual's name) will be missed by many, but we will never forget the love we all shared as a family. Thank you all for being here today."

Eulogy for Estranged Brother

"Thank you for being here today to honor, (insert deceased individual's name). I'm (insert name) and (insert deceased individual's name) was my older brother. (Insert deceased individual's name) and I didn't always get along. In fact, it was rare that we saw eye to eye- nevertheless, he was my brother and will always have a place in my heart. (Insert deceased individual's name) was a passionate, brilliant, and curious person, and had been so ever since we were little. As an adult, he was highly accomplished, and extremely driven in his line of work. (Insert deceased individual's name) loved to hike, spend time with animals, and read anything he could get his hands on. He was especially passionate about volunteer work, and even in the last years of his life, he dedicated himself to helping others. He has touched so many lives and will be missed by many. Thank you all for coming out to honor him today."

Eulogy for Brother With Alcohol Use Disorder or Other Difficulties

"Today we are all here to honor (insert deceased individual's name). My name is (insert name) and (insert deceased individual's name) was my younger brother. I want to give a special thank you to the aunts, uncles, and cousins who flew quite a long distance to be with us today- know that it is appreciated. As many of you know, (insert deceased individual's name) had his struggles, and tried for quite some time to overcome them. Despite what he was dealing with, (insert deceased individual's name) was a courageous and kind soul who went the extra mile for those he cared about. As a kid, I remember him so lovingly saving a baby bird who had fallen out of its nest, and as an adult, he kept that same, gentle spirit. He will be deeply missed by many- I love you (insert deceased individual's name). Thank you."

Eulogy From a Sister

"(Insert deceased individual's name) was my younger brother and I know he would have been happy to know that all of you are here to honor his life today. My name is (insert name) and I've known (insert deceased individual's name) my entire life. When (insert deceased individual's name) came into this world, I knew my life would be forever changed. I loved having a brother more than anything and often pretended to be his mom growing up. Although we all feel (insert deceased individual's name) was taken far too soon from this world, I know that he lived a beautiful life and has changed the world for the better. I will miss (insert deceased individual's name) every day for the rest of my life and feel so lucky to have shared such incredible memories with him. Thank you."

Eulogy From a Brother

"Today we are here to honor (insert deceased individual's name), my brother- I'm (insert name). Having a brother growing up wasn't always the easiest, but as we got older, I realized I truly had a partner in crime, someone to always have my back, and support me. (Insert deceased individual's name) was generous, loving, and dedicated to his family. He was always there, at the drop of a hat, if you needed anything. I remember him flying me to New York, when I went through a rough patch. That's just who he was- always thinking of others, and always there, especially for his family. The world will truly never be the same without (insert deceased individual's name), but I will hold the memory of him close to my heart for the rest of my days. Thank you."

Eulogy From a Friend Who Was Like a Brother

"Thank you for being here today. I am speaking on behalf of the (insert surname) family. My name is (insert name), and although (insert deceased individual's name) and I weren't technically blood related, we might as well have been. We grew up next to each other and for as long as I can remember, (insert deceased individual's name) has always been there for me- every special memory, every breakup, every misstep, every success- (insert deceased individual's name) was there. I don't have the words to express quite how heartbroken I am about this loss, and I don't know what life will look like without (insert deceased individual's name), but I do know that I have been incredibly lucky to have shared such amazing memories with this person. Thank you."

Ask For Help

Writing a eulogy can feel daunting and can be especially challenging to put together while you are grieving. Know that it is totally okay to reach out for help with writing the eulogy, as well as for grief support . Grief can cause mental fogginess and general fatigue, on top of other uncomfortable and/or emotionally draining symptoms, so be sure to listen to yourself, take breaks when needed, and reach out for appropriate help if you are struggling.

What to Write About Your Brother

Writing a eulogy for your brother may feel like an overwhelming task, especially if you are in the midst of grieving. Take your time, reach out for help if you would like some support, and write from your heart.

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Eulogy for a Brother

We are gathered here today in the memory of my brother, Darrell, so that together we may acknowledge and share both our joy in the gift that his life was to us, and the pain that his passing brings. In sharing the joy and the pain together today, may we lessen the pain and remember more clearly the joy.

Darrell was just 67 years old when he passed away on Tuesday at St. Peter’s hospital. He was born on June 16, 1938 here in Springfield to Vernon and Emily (Thatcher) Green. Darrell spent his life in Springfield, farming for over 40 years.

Darrell was very close to his family, to his friends, and also his beloved cat, Crackers. Growing up with Darrell as an older brother wasn’t always easy for us. He would pick on us constantly, but let anyone else even look at us funny, and Darrell would be on our side, whatever may come. Darrell was good to his friends and employers, the Edwards family, and they were good to Darrell – their care and support during his last years especially, is very much appreciated by all of us. As a farmer, Darrell worked hard, but he also enjoyed his life. He loved to fish, and hunt deer, turkey and geese. There are a lot of stories about us hunting up North together, but I’m afraid that that those stories will have to stay up North. Sometimes it was suspected that Darrell may have found a nice spot under a tree and maybe did more napping than hunting. Darrell had planned to retire up North, and though that didn’t end up working out, he will be going back this spring when we scatter his ashes up at Marshall Point where he loved to hunt and perhaps nap.

There were other things besides hunting and fishing, Darrell collected farm toys- and we’ve brought some in today. He loved playing cards and going to the casino. He especially liked to play poker. Darrell loved to watch westerns-especially John Wayne Westerns, he enjoyed both kinds of music, Country and Western. A favorite was Singing Cowboy Gene Autry’s ‘Red River Valley’.

Many of you will recall Darrell’s huge garden. He enjoyed working in his garden and enjoyed sharing his produce with many of his friends in town- beautiful homegrown tomatoes. Darrell was a man who didn’t have a mean bone in his body, a warm friendly man who made his mark in the world not with grand gestures or fancy titles, but by the basic goodness and generosity of his character, by the quality of his involvement with his fellow man, and how he brought out these qualities in others.

There is a poem that speaks to these qualities ‘The House by the Side of the Road’ by Sam Walter Foss

There are hermit souls that live withdrawn

In the place of their self-content;

There are souls like stars, that dwell apart,

In a fellowless firmament;

There are pioneer souls that blaze the paths

Where highways never ran-

But let me live by the side of the road

And be a friend to man.

Let me live in a house by the side of the road

Where the race of men go by-

The men who are good and the men who are bad,

As good and as bad as I.

I would not sit in the scorner’s seat

Nor hurl the cynic’s ban-

I see from my house by the side of the road

By the side of the highway of life,

The men who press with the ardor of hope,

The men who are faint with the strife,

But I turn not away from their smiles and tears,

Both parts of an infinite plan-

I know there are brook-gladdened meadows ahead,

And mountains of wearisome height;

That the road passes on through the long afternoon

And stretches away to the night.

And still I rejoice when the travelers rejoice

And weep with the strangers that moan,

Nor live in my house by the side of the road

Like a man who dwells alone.

Let me live in my house by the side of the road,

They are good, they are bad, they are weak, they are strong,

Wise, foolish – so am I.

Then why should I sit in the scorner’s seat,

Or hurl the cynic’s ban?

Let me live in my house by the side of the road

There were many wonderful aspects to Darrell’s life, and many ways that he touched our lives. He will be remembered as a wonderful brother, a great friend, a generous uncle, cousin, outdoorsman, a poker player, collector, and farmer, a friendly face in town, or in the yard of his house by the side of the road. In all these ways and more, he made our lives richer and fuller. Now that he has passed away, of course there is emptiness and pain, confusion and maybe even anger at death coming to a man of only 67 years, but in many ways, the gift of Darrell’s life is still here with us. He lives on in our memories and stories, and in what all of us have become because of him. So I encourage you to share –today, tomorrow and in the years to come- your memories and stories, and to share the pain of your loss as well. In this way we will keep the gift of Darrell’s life alive.

On behalf of the rest of the family, I’d like to thank you all for coming here today.

19 Moving Eulogy Examples and Samples

Writing a eulogy is really difficult. Finding the right words to express your feelings about the deceased, remembering those special moments and memories of them, not getting overwhelmed by the emotions – that’s before thinking about the things you need to avoid saying and making sure it’s appropriate for the family.

There’s so much involved. And it can be very challenging.

So it’s understandable to be struggling. What can help is some eulogy examples and samples.

An example eulogy can inspire you in what you want to say or guide you in the type of eulogy you’re going to write. It just gives you an idea of what a eulogy actually looks and sounds like.

So that’s why we’ve compiled these moving eulogy examples. Some are prewritten eulogies whereas others are readings given by famous

Hopefully they will provide you with some inspiration if you’re writing your own eulogy. Alternatively you can use the examples as they are or edit and change them so they fit your situation.

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What is a Eulogy

A eulogy is a speech or reading that is given at a funeral. It is to pay tribute to and remember the deceased.

A eulogy is usually given by a family member or a close friend of the deceased. It gives them a chance to share what they remember of the departed, tell their stories and memories of them and let others know just what type of person they were.

It can also help those grieving to mourn but also focus on the positive aspects of the deceaseds life, remembering the good times and not just the pain that comes with losing someone.

Writing a Eulogy

The process of writing a eulogy is probably the hardest part. It doesn’t come easily to anyone and requires a lot of thought and planning.

It’s best to try to organize memories you have of the loved one first. Maybe speak to family and friends to get their thoughts and what they remember most of the deceased.

Write it in stages, with a beginning middle and end. Remember to speak from the heart and with sincerity.

Eulogy Examples

Writing your own eulogy is very tricky. It can help to see other eulogies to give you an idea of what they’re like and the type of things to say.

The below example eulogies for all types of family members and loved ones should help you to compose your own.

Short Eulogy Examples

These example eulogies are short and quick for if you want an idea if very simple and straightforward readings for a funeral.

I’ve been lucky enough to know Rob my entire life. We grew up living in the same street and as kids would play out in the road. We even went to school together. As the years went by our friendship grew and we became really close. We would do everything together, from sports to chasing the same girls! Rob became more than a friend and just like a brother to me.

Even when life took us in different directions we stayed in touch and kept our friendship alive, seeing each other as often as we could. Rob was just a great guy. Humble, kind and always there for everyone.

I’m sure I speak for everyone when I say he won’t be forgotten and the warmth and joy he brought to us all will live on forever.

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I want to thank you all and say how pleased I am to see so many people here to give Denise the send off she deserved.

I met Denise over 10 years ago when we worked together and we instantly bonded over our love of She was someone who didn’t want any fuss or attention and so I know would hate the fact that I’m eulogizing her now.

Denise was kind and generous though and loved her friends and family more than anything. Her sense of humor and the fun she bought to the lives of those lucky enough to know her will live on long after she is gone.

She really was an inspiration and someone I considered a true friend. Goodbye Denise.

Eulogy Examples for Mother

Writing a eulogy for a mother is always going to be so difficult. How can you possibly sum up the life of someone so important to you in a mere few paragraphs. The example eulogies below will hopefully show you the sorts of things you can say to pay tribute to your mom.

Today we honor the life of my mom, Rachel. She was a truly amazing woman who was the kindest and most loving person in the world.

I can honestly say she was my best friend and to try and do justice right her in this short eulogy will be impossible. She dedicated her life to family and making sure we were supported in whatever we did and that we never felt anything other than loved.

She sacrificed more than I’ll ever know and even when she was putting everyone else before herself she still made time to listen to all our problems.

Everyone who was fortunate enough to know her was in awe of everything she achieved. And the warmth and happiness she bought to us cannot be overstated. I loved her more than words could possibly say and she will live on in my heart forever more.

I can’t think of anything I’ve ever had to do as hard as give this eulogy for my mom. Saying goodbye to her is a pain I will never get over.

My mother was compassionate and loving. She put everyone before herself – friends, family, even her pets. That attitude meant we never felt anything other than loved and safe.

Mom loved to teach. It was her passion and she never grew tired of it. I’ve had so many former students reach out to me to say how she was their favorite teacher. After close to 40 years teaching, all at the sane school, she finally retired happy with all she’d given.

Teaching may have been her passion but it also gave her greater opportunities to spend time with family. The school holidays meant for weeks she could do things with us without interruption. Some of my best memories come from those times and I cherish them like no other.

Moms legacy will live on forever in the hearts of those who knew her best. She was a truly inspirational woman who leaves behind a huge hole in so many lives.

Eulogy Examples for Father

Much like your mother losing a father and having to write a eulogy for him is extremely hard. Use these example eulogies to help you find the right words for remembering your dad.

No one was like my dad. He was my biggest inspiration and a true hero to me. Our family leant on him during any tough times and he was a rock that never let us down.

That strength he possessed wasn’t flashy or in your face. In many ways he was a quiet, unassuming man who just got on with things. But it was beneath the surface that his principles and determination lay. That was most evident in how he put us, his family, first and the way he made sure we were protected no matter what.

I’ll always remember the good times as well. The fishing trips we would take to take together and how much he would make me laugh.

It’s hard to imagine a life without him and I will miss him dreadfully. I will hold on to memories we made forever though.

Seeing all these faces, some of them familiar others not as much, it just makes me realize how much my dad was loved. It also makes you remember how much he loved a good party. If he could see first-hand, everybody that came here for him today I know he’d be thrilled.

So I want to thank you all on his behalf for coming out, honouring his memory, and just being here with us today. It really means a lot to me. It means a lot to my mom and our extended family that’s here with us.



I will keep it brief but I really could probably go on for hours with everything that dad and I had together. On that note, those of you who knew me and my father personally, you knew the kind of great relationship we had but it wasn’t always like that. In fact, I think it started probably how most teenage boys and their fathers start out a little something like this.



I swear there were a couple of years during my teens when dad and I must have butted heads just about everything. Now I mentioned this primarily because most of you out here in the crowd have to have had a good enough relationship with my dad.



He was a very opinionated man, to put it politely. He voiced his opinion pretty regularly – a quality I also inherited from him. However, the element with my dad that I don’t think anybody could argue is if he had a point.



If there was logic behind what he was saying, you just couldn’t fight it there’s no way of going against it and, as a kid, I always kind of kept it in the back of my mind.
It was that quality really that led him to become my best friend and my confidant in my grown adult life. I went to him for anything when he had you been around. When I was 18-year old when I truly made that realization and from that point on I maintained a very close, very steady relationship with him. When I moved out to Pennsylvania five years ago, we talked over the phone almost every single day.



It didn’t matter what it was that day at work gave him a call. There was a little success in my life. I sent him a text message. He knew everything that was going on. On that note, he always had something to say. He always had something, usually a positive motivational tone. If it was something that I was talking about that was negative, he had a spin on it to keep me going and truthfully that’s going to be the biggest adjustment for me. But at the same time, one of the biggest motivating forces is that he always inspired me to do better than my best. He was always so openly proud of my accomplishments and kept pushing me to do more and more, but not in any sort of negative forceful sense of course. It was always something that was very uplifting and inspirational to me and in having done that I think he passed something on to me that’s a very difficult thing to do.



He got me ready to be a strong, upstanding man who can lead a good quality life in the world. And I don’t even know he might have been unwittingly on his part just might have been doing his thing, but he really imparted that to me.



Going forward from today I’m going to just keep on pushing his memory, keep on getting better, living a good name, keeping the Camaro untarnished doesn’t work. And you know to that end that’s what I’m going to miss!



I bet that he’ll be looking down and seeing it, I would have loved to have as we all would. More years, more time but you know that gets him to be a little bit of a selfish end. He’s in a great place now, very much at peace and you know he is happy to be looking down on all of us today.


So, goodbye, dad.

I’m going to miss you. I love you and thank everybody for coming here today, listening to me babble for a few minutes.

Eulogy Examples for Brother

Losing a sibling is utterly heartbreaking. So finding the words to write a eulogy for your brother is awful. Use these examples to help make it a little easier.

I can’t believe my big brother has really gone. We have lost someone so special far too soon. Dan was just a one of a kind and loved by everyone. That live-wire, fun spirit he had was infectious and charmed everyone who met him.

He may have been my bigger brother but I never felt left out by him. In fact he would take me a long with him and his friends when they got up to mischief. It was so exciting for me to be included by the brother I always looked up to and was the “cool one” to me.

We didn’t always see eye to eye though. There were definitely arguments! But it was the usual sibling stuff, and as we got older we grew out of any stupid rivalry or jealousy we had towards one another. We actually became really close as we grew out of our adolescence and a true bond formed.

That’s what makes this even more difficult. My brother became my best friend. I just can’t and don’t want to imagine my life without him. But he leaves behind such a legacy and one that I will keep alive with my memories of him.

“My name is Len Leatherwood and I am Ray’s sister-in-law and Jim and Kevin’s aunt. Let me say on behalf of our entire family that we appreciate that you are here today to help commemorate the life of our beloved Ray. I am certain everyone in this church has been touched by his amazing spirit and we are grateful that we can come together to pay our collective respects to this wonderful man.

I met Ray when I was nine-years-old, right after he graduated from the University of Colorado as a young engineer and just before he was going to marry my sister, Leslie. I liked his quick smile and gentle manner right away, even though I found his language odd. Growing up in a small Texas town, I had little occasion to hear any accent besides a drawl and I found Ray’s pronunciation of Nevada (long a) versus Nevada (short a) or Colorado (long a) versus Colorado (short a) very strange. Plus, he referred to me as a gal and whenever he was excited he would shout out, “Gad!” or “Egads!” Yes, all of this made my soon-to-be brother-in-law slightly foreign and distinctly unique. Of course, little did I know then exactly how unique Ray would prove to be, or what a profound impact he would have on my life.

I was the flower girl when Leslie and Ray got married in an all-white wedding save for a single red rose in the middle of the maid-of-honor’s bouquet. Over the fifty-three years since that event, I have periodically thought of the symbolism of that color scheme. The white for me signifies the goodness of these two wonderful people as well as the kindness that characterized their interactions with others; the red rose seemed to portend the trials each would face in the years to come. And they both did face tribulations.

Leslie and Ray’s marriage lasted only twelve years; however, in that time, they produced and parented two of the loveliest people I will ever know, their daughter and son, Kevin and Jim. Over time, Kevin and Jim have created their own families. Kevin has Scott, her sweet husband and her step-children, Ellery and Derek; and Jim has Karri, his darling wife, and their children, Eli and Sophie, who are two of the brightest and nicest kids on God’s green earth. These people have been the foundation for Ray’s life and he was exceedingly proud of each and every one of them.

Ray’s story has many chapters and is one of transformation. He started out as that earnest young engineer who worked very hard at his job at Chicago Bridge and Iron. For the first ten years of his marriage to Leslie, they moved to a different city every two years for his job. Finally, they settled in Salt Lake City, which was Ray’s home, and he worked at Industrial Supply, the company where his father was president. About this time, his marriage to my sister failed and later he remarried another woman, Mary. He also formed Agutter Engineering, which he headed from 1979 – 1998, at which point he retired. About this same time, unfortunately, his second marriage failed. Also, he had been battling severe mood swings for quite some time and he knew he was in trouble.

Ray was a journal keeper and on these pages he poured out his worries, concerns, hopes and dreams. In one of his journals, he revealed that he felt lost and alone, not sure how to proceed with life. In another, he wrote out a list of what he wanted to change: 1) To travel more; 2) To gain more meaning from life; 3) To love himself more, 4) To be a better man. He knew he needed to change; he just wasn’t quite sure how to make that happen. Two things occurred about this time: the birth of his grandchildren, Eli and then Sophie, which helped refocus his life on family with constant visits and shared activities. Also, he found Burning Man.

I haven’t been to Burning Man personally, but through Ray’s photos and stories of the thirteen straight years he attended, I feel as if I have a fairly clear picture of how he saw this experience. Cooperative community, creativity, love, joy, peace, kindness. These were all words that peppered his accounts of his exploits there. Most importantly, friendship. Connection with amazing people from all over the world that was evidenced on a daily basis by innumerable texts, phone calls, emails and Facebook interactions. “This is an instrument of peace,” he would say holding up his I-phone. “This single device has the capacity to unite people to save our planet.” (I am sure I am not the only person who heard Ray’s awe over the unifying power of technology.) However, I watched Ray’s phone become a conduit of connection for him; a true instrument of change, not only for what concerned him about the planet, but also for himself. He was no longer lost and alone. He was on track and connected to a bigger purpose for his life. To spread love wherever he went. And he did just that.

Ray made it his goal to be emotionally available not only to his children and grandchildren, but also to his wide network of relatives and friends. He travelled all over the world and made friends wherever he went. He cultivated true love relationships with women in his life and is the only man I know who could have five girlfriends come together to celebrate his birthday just this past year. He also battled cancer with a grace that is hard to describe. He brought hope, joy, and peace to that process and touched the lives of countless people with his positive attitude and endless optimism. In short, he transformed himself from an ordinary man to an extraordinary human being and many of us in this room have witnessed this firsthand.

I believe that single red rose at Ray’s all-white wedding symbolized not only the trials he would face, but also the singular beauty that comes when living a life that is ablaze with color. And Ray’s life can only be described as one that was on fire with passion, love, and joy. We are all better off from having known this man; we would do well to emulate his example when facing our own trials. He would encourage each of us to always remember, “It doesn’t get any better than this.”

Ray loved Salt Lake City, the Utes, the Mormon Tabernacle Choir, the Episcopal church, and the oatmeal at McDonald’s. He also held in high esteem the Huntsman Cancer Institute and the doctors and staff there. In addition, he loved his Mind and Body support group at Huntsman, so much so that a group that should have ended in six weeks has continued on for the past 2 ½ years, with plans to continue on in the future. He referred to all these as “world class,” and, certainly, they all are.

Again, our family appreciates your presence. Even on this sad occasion Ray would remind us, “This is the best day of my life!”

My only response is to say, “Amen, brother. Amen.”

Thank you.”

Written by Len Leatherwood for her brother in law .

Eulogy Examples for Sister

Sisters are such important family members and they deserve a fitting eulogy. May these sample eulogies inspire you to write a touching eulogy for your sister.

My sister Joanna was a beautiful, vivacious young woman. She had a gentleness that you so rarely find and saw the best in everything and everyone. So to have lost her is like losing a limb. I feel like I’ve lost a piece of my soul.

We were always close, partly because we were only a year apart, but also because we shared such a bond. Growing up I idolized her – from the clothes she wore to the music she listened to. I must have been such an annoying copycat but it came from how much I looked up to and wanted to be like her.

As we got older we became an amazing duo. I will always remember the fun nights out together and spa days away where we could relax and gossip. I knew I had someone who would listen to any problem I had and be there for me whatever.

I loved her like no other and she was the best sister anyone could have ever wanted. Not a second goes by when I don’t think of her, and I am forever grateful for the treasured memories I have that will never be forgotten.

“Is it possible to sum up Lisa’s life in just a few short words? No, it is not. So what should I say about my beautiful little sister? Should I speak of her constant smile and sunny disposition? She kept her spirits high even in the darkest of times and hardest tribulations that she experienced. The death of her beloved baby daughter Madison something she always held close in her heart. Should I speak of her strength of character? The way she took charge in most situations, even as a small child, and led everyone forward towards better times or new places, earning her the nickname “The Captain.” 



Maybe I should mention her wicked sense of humour or her great sense of adventure or her everyday joy at the interaction with her customers at work. Perhaps I should talk about her love for everyone she knew, her husband, her boys, her mum and dad, her sister and brother, a genuine, warm, radiant love that we all basked in. The way she ended every call to me with a sincere, “I love you Mike.”



All of these aspects of Lisa and many more combined to make her a unique and wonderful human being. Lisa was caring, kind, energetic and vivacious, filled with life and love and an unselfish need to care for everyone she knew, earning her the love and respect of her peers, her numerous friends and her family as is evidenced here today by all who are present. Although Lisa is now lost to us, she has left behind an everlasting legacy for all of us who she has touched and loved, guaranteeing that she will live forever in our hearts and minds.



There will never be another Lisa and we are all a little poorer now that she has left us. So let us now all try our best to be a bit kinder, a bit more sincere, a bit stronger and a bit more loving just like my beautiful little sister Lisa. 



Eulogy Examples for Grandmother

The relationships with our grandmothers are some of the strongest we develop. Find the way to express what she meant to you with these examples.

Today I’m here to pay tribute to my beloved grandmother. She was a remarkable woman who brought love and happiness to so many.

I had a connection with my grandmother that was like no other. She was the one who could always provide the wisdom and advice you needed at just the right time. When things were tough I knew I could turn to her and she would do what she did best: be my nana and make things better.

But she also had an amazing life. From surviving the war as a nurse and then working so hard to provide for her family. She did all of that and more without ever complaining despite the challenges she faced. She embodied the attitude of just ‘getting on with it’, and that strength and determination was evident in every adjective of her life.

I know she was so highly thought of not just by me, or those in attendance today, but by the whole community. She will be missed dearly and we are all worse off without having her in our lives.

Our parents give us life.

Our grandparents give us a sense of who we are and where we came from.

This week, as we said goodbye to Grandma Sheila, it hit me how incredibly lucky I have been to have my lovely grandmother with me for 42 years.

Not only with me, but an integral, close part of my life.

It is rare for a grandparent-grandchild relationship to be so essential and so long-lasting, but then, Grandma Sheila was that exceptional kind of person every single day of her life.

Until the last couple of years, my grandmother had more energy and interest in life than anyone I’ve ever known.

When I was living in Washington, D.C. in my 20s, she and Grandpa Artie came to visit.

They must have been in their 70s at the time, and we went all over town – shopping, dinner, movies.

After seeing a Hitchcock film that Saturday night, Grandma and Grandpa said, “Ok, where are we going now?”

I was so exhausted that I insisted it was time for bed. They looked at me with surprise – and disappointment – because they would have gone for dessert, coffee, more living, more life.

My grandmother was an incredible matriarch. Really, she was the regal leader in our family.

She baked and cooked and babysat and took us shopping and saw our new clothes when we were little. She was always present, part of our everyday lives in such a tangible way.

As a child, I had friends whose grandparents had retired to Florida and I remember feeling that while they were lucky enough to get a yearly trip to warmer weather, I was even luckier, because I had my grandparents all the time.

That constant loving presence really shapes a person.

From our grandparents, we learn where we come from, we learn our history, we learn who we are.

Once, when I was 12, my grandmother took me for a day of shopping at Fairlane Mall. I was so excited to share with her my favorite music – early 1980s rap. She agreed to play my radio station in her car as she drove us carefully down the Southfield Freeway.

As we came up over a hill, we didn’t know there was a car stalled in the center lane. Grandma reacted quickly, extended her arm in front of me to protect me, and with the other arm, masterfully steered around the car, spinning out across the three freeway lanes onto the shoulder. It was terrifying. The first car accident I had ever been in.

The car stopped, she checked to make sure we were both ok, then leaned over and shut off the radio.

I felt terrible that my music caused my grandmother to get in an accident. Of course, it didn’t, and she told me that later, but she never said a harsh word.

She simply pulled back onto the road and took us quietly to the mall and we spent the afternoon shopping and talking as if nothing had happened.

What made my grandmother special? So wonderful? Her elegance. She always looked the picture of perfection and grace.

She knew everyone in Detroit, and everyone knew her. Even better, no one ever had a bad word to say about my grandmother.

She loved deeply and fully, all of us. She was the kind of person who just had more love in her heart for the more people who joined our lives.

This story of my grandmother wouldn’t be complete if I didn’t pay homage to her incredible cooking. It seemed anything she made was delicious – even my children thought her Campbell’s vegetable soup was amazing!

When I lived in New York, Grandma Sheila sent me Jacobson’s boxes full of her double-chocolate brownies and once, I made the mistake of bringing them to work – I barely got one for myself.

She taught me to make gefilte fish from scratch. I took this very seriously, as quite an honor, and showed up on a Sunday before Passover one year to help her chop the fish in her big wooden bowl, twice, so it came out extra fluffy.

There were fish heads bobbing in a pot of boiling water and carrots cooking and so many steps in this assembly line process.

The apartment reeked of cooking fish and by the time we were done, so did I—my hair, my clothing, everything.

I went home and showered to rid myself of the smell – but the next day at work, when I unzipped my purse that had been with me at Grandma’s apartment, out wafted the scent of fish. For a week I carried that smell with me!

One year when I couldn’t make it home for Passover, I called Grandma Sheila for her matzo ball soup recipe.

The secret, she said, was fresh dill. I wrote down everything she said and drove all over town looking for a whole pullet cut into eighths, parsnip, parsley root, everything she listed.

In my apartment, which I shared with one friend, I spent half a day cooking and when I finally sat down at our little table by myself with a steaming bowl in front of me, that first bite, full of dill, made me feel like I was at my grandparents’ Passover table, rather than alone in another city.

My grandparents were a large part of the reason I moved back to Michigan. After all, what is life without family to support you, to love you unconditionally, to be at your side through good and through bad?

As I have shared the news this week of my grandmother’s state, friends and colleagues have mentioned how old they were when they lost their grandparents. The oldest was late 20s.

I come back to this notion that for 42 years, my grandmother has been an influential and important part of my life. Until this last week, I hadn’t realized how truly exceptional that is. Many marriages never last that long!

She is so much a part of who I am that even though I knew she would one day leave us, I can’t quite believe she is gone.

Grandma Sheila – you impacted my life in so many ways. You shaped who I am. You shaped who my children are. You influenced all of us so greatly.

I will always love you and save a special corner of my heart to keep you with me.

And I know we will miss you every day of our lives.

Written by journalist and business woman Lynne Meredith Golodner .

Eulogy Examples for Grandfather

Think of your favorite memory with your grandfather. Use that as a basis for his eulogy. Hopefully these examples will be of assistance in finishing your eulogy.

It feels weird to be giving this eulogy. I know how private my grandfather was and averse to being the focus of any attention. He would have absolutely hated all this! He’d be telling us all to get on with life and not wallow or feel sad about losing him.

And that was the type of man he was. Unassuming, unselfish and far more keen to put others ahead of himself. But that didn’t mean he didn’t have a more fun side too. Grandpa loved a joke, mostly practical jokes, and would play them on the most unsuspecting people! No one was spared and I will never forget the cheeky, mischievous look in his eyes when he was planning something.

Family was so important to granddad too. He adored his grandchildren and i know he treasured spending time with them more than anything else.

I’m heartbroken he’s gone and will carry with me everything he taught me. The love and guidance he showed me will live on in my heart.

“For those who don’t know me, my name is Michael Werneburg. I want to say a few words in memory of my grandfather.

Kenneth McKenzie Johnston lived a remarkable life, one that inspired me greatly. His adventurous attitude, his broad range of interests, and his happy demeanor made him a wonderful person to know. He was patient, and generous with his time and affection.

He always took an interest in the people he met: there were few people he wouldn’t engage at any time or place. I introduced him to many of my friends over the years, and they always told me how interesting he’d been.

My grandfather pursued his many endeavors diligently, and always rose to meet a challenge. I always felt that he expected the same of me, too.

He was philosophical in his approach to life. He especially had a great perspective when it came to the little things, never displaying anger or impatience. Instead, he showed a great dignity and humor. He extended this philosophy no matter what obstacle he faced. I have always admired this trait as it doesn’t seem to have been handed down.

The strength of his character showed even in criticism. With a few wry words, my grandfather could be far more damning than most people could achieve with any strong language.

I’ll miss the news of his strange adventures, and I’ll miss the stories from the seven continents he visited; I’ll miss the tales of evil two-year-old grandchildren; about his old friends; and his ‘child bride’. Stories he told again and again, in the same exacting detail with every telling.

I’ll miss his perspective and his gentle humor. I’ll miss the surprising depth and scope of his knowledge. I’ll miss the warmth he extended to everyone he met.

I will miss my grandfather dearly. But I will treasure his memory forever.”

Written by Michael Werneburf for his Grandfather’s funeral .

Eulogy Examples for a Friend

Losing a friend brings a grief that is hard to fathom. Writing or even thinking about their life whilst grieving their death is going to be a real task. Make it simpler with these helpful examples.

I still haven’t come to terms with Lee’s passing and I doubt I ever will. Life is not going to be the sane again. He was my best friend and we spent so much time together. To think I’ll never see him again is almost too much to bear.

Lee and me were inseparable for years. If we weren’t on the soccer field we were playing video games. I have so many good memories of our childhood and that lasted all the way through until we were adults (or just overgrown children!).

He was funny, kind and just a great guy to be around. I always considered him one of my best friends and he could make you laugh at the most inappropriate times.

Lee will be remembered for everything I’ve mentioned and more. His legacy will be the joy he brought to our lives and the true friend he was.

Funny Eulogy Examples

Some people prefer to write a light hearted eulogy and see the funnier side of death. If that’s the way you want to go then try these examples.

William Ziegler escaped this mortal realm on Friday, July 29, 2016 at the age of 69. I think he did it on purpose to avoid having to make a decision in the pending presidential election.

He leaves behind four children, five grand-children, and the potted meat industry, for which he was an unofficial spokesman until dietary restrictions forced him to eat real food.

William volunteered for service in the United States Navy at the ripe old age of 17 and immediately realized he didn’t much enjoy being bossed around. He only stuck it out for one war. Before his discharge, however, the government exchanged numerous ribbons and medals for various honorable acts.

Upon his return to the City of New Orleans in 1971, thinking it best to keep an eye on him, government officials hired William as a fireman. After twenty-five years, he suddenly realized that running away from burning buildings made more sense than running toward them. He promptly retired. Looking back, William stated that there was no better group of morons and mental patients than those he had the privilege of serving with (except Bob, he never liked you, Bob).

He was never one for sentiment or religiosity, but he wanted you to know that if he owes you a beer, and if you can find him in Heaven, he will gladly allow you to buy him another. He can likely be found forwarding tasteless internet jokes (check your spam folder, but don’t open these at work).

Expect to find an alcoholic dog named Judge passed out at his feet.  Unlike previous times, this is not a ploy to avoid creditors or old girlfriends. He assures us that he is gone. He will be greatly missed.

I remember Dzia Dzia’s retirement party when I was about 7 years old. When the then state minister for education Tom Roper gave a speech I realised the Dzia Dzia must’ve been pretty important. Then growing up, hearing the stories and reading his book, I came to learn what a brave man he was, considered a hero by many. 12 years ago, at the age of 82, he was proof reading my masters thesis and advising me on some pretty hard-core statistical analysis, I really became aware of what a sharp and intelligent guy he was.

But those aren’t the things that define Dzia Dzia for me.

When I think of Dzia Dzia, I think of what a generous, loveable and unself-consciously quirky person he was. And to be honest, it’s always been hard to reconcile the guy that evaded the Nazis for 5 years, but was barely able to change a light-bulb, let alone a tyre.

I think of Dzia Dzia the swimmer, well into his 70s banging out 800m a day in the Brighton Sea baths, and swimming deep into the colder months. But if you’ve got the image of Dzia Dzia slicing through the water like a seal, I’ll have to shatter that illusion. His was more a hybrid of breast stroke, and, let’s face it, dog paddle. But he didn’t care about the aesthetics. He just loved swimming and that’s the point. He kept swimming in the sea baths until getting rescued became such a regular occurrence that the life guards politely insisted he look at other options.

I don’t think Dzia Dzia ever owned a pair of Reeboks, but their old slogan “Life is not a spectator sport” suited him perfectly. For him, sport is about participation, not watching.

But not all sports were created equal. I remember once he walked in when we were watching cricket, he watched for a minute, and then he said “I don’t see the point of this game, sometimes they hit it, sometimes they don’t, sometimes they run, sometimes they don’t”. And he walked out leaving us dumbfounded. After such a brutally succinct dismissal, cricket has never been the same for me.

I think of Dzia Dzia’s infatuation with the Centre Road shopping center in Bentleigh, which he claimed was the best in Melbourne. Multiple fruit shops, multiple butchers, and each with their specialty. And a shopping trip would consist of a visit to whichever had the cheapest price of whatever he needed. If that meant green apples at one shop, and red apples at another, so be it. And if he had to sacrifice quality for price, that’s wasn’t an issue either.

Not that he saw it that way. Dzia Dzia was always adamant that expensive wines, whiskeys and perfumes were a waste of money. Why spend $100 on bottle of Channel No 5 when you can get a perfectly good replica for $15. But getting mum a bottle of Channelette perfume for Christmas was a mistake he only made once. And whether or not he really believed this, it was a good way to torment my dad and uncle Peter – I don’t think you guys ever did manage to arrange the double blind whiskey test.

I think of Dzia Dzia’s massive repertoire of jokes. A couple stand out, but not as much as Babcia’s immortal observation: “with these jokes you can hang yourself.”

And his driving?

Well, I had a bit here about his driving. But before the service I noticed that as the funeral director was wheeling the coffin through the door back behind me, he miscued and bumped the coffin into the door frame. I thought that was a lovely tribute. Especially the way he sheepishly checked to see if anyone had noticed, and then continued as if nothing had happened.

Remarkable for the fact that he kept his license deep into his 80s, as much as that he got it in the first place. Mum says you’ll take 1000 reversing dings over one serious accident. But I say, just turn around and have a look.

But lastly, wherever Dzia Dzia may have moved onto now, I hope the waitresses have been forewarned not to bring out his tea before his dessert. Dessert can wait, but the tea goes cold and you’ve got nothing to wash down your dessert with. And if the waitresses haven’t been forewarned, they’ll find out pretty quickly.

So Dzia Dzia, I know you were a hero to many, but you weren’t to me. You were our Dzia Dzia, I love you for that. And I say with deep affection, there will never be another like you.

Famous Eulogy Examples

There have been some amazing eulogies given by some of the most famous people over the years. Here are a few to give you find inspiration.

Former US President Barack Obama’s eulogy for Senator Ted Kennedy

Your Eminence, Vicki, Kara, Edward, Patrick, Curran, Caroline, members of the Kennedy family, distinguished guests, and fellow citizens:

Today we say goodbye to the youngest child of Rose and Joseph Kennedy. The world will long remember their son Edward as the heir to a weighty legacy; a champion for those who had none; the soul of the Democratic Party; and the lion of the United States Senate—a man who graces nearly 1,000 laws, and who penned more than 300 laws himself.

But those of us who loved him, and ache with his passing, know Ted Kennedy by the other titles he held: Father. Brother. Husband. Grandfather. Uncle Teddy, or as he was often known to his younger nieces and nephews, “The Grand Fromage,” or “The Big Cheese.” 

I, like so many others in the city where he worked for nearly half a century, knew him as a colleague, a mentor, and above all, as a friend.

Ted Kennedy was the baby of the family who became its patriarch; the restless dreamer who became its rock. 

He was the sunny, joyful child who bore the brunt of his brothers’ teasing, but learned quickly how to brush it off. 

When they tossed him off a boat because he didn’t know what a jib was, six-year-old Teddy got back in and learned to sail.  When a photographer asked the newly elected Bobby to step back at a press conference because he was casting a shadow on his younger brother, Teddy quipped, “It’ll be the same in Washington.” That spirit of resilience and good humour would see Teddy through more pain and tragedy than most of us will ever know. 

He lost two siblings by the age of 16. He saw two more taken violently from a country that loved them. He said goodbye to his beloved sister, Eunice, in the final days of his life. 

He narrowly survived a plane crash, watched two children struggle with cancer, buried three nephews, and experienced personal failings and setbacks in the most public way possible. It’s a string of events that would have broken a lesser man. 

And it would have been easy for Ted to let himself become bitter and hardened; to surrender to self-pity and regret; to retreat from public life and live out his years in peaceful quiet. No one would have blamed him for that. 

But that was not Ted Kennedy. As he told us, “…[I]ndividual faults and frailties are no excuse to give in — and no exemption from the common obligation to give of ourselves.” 

Indeed, Ted was the “Happy Warrior” that the poet Wordsworth spoke of when he wrote:

As tempted more; more able to endure,
As more exposed to suffering and distress;
Thence, also, more alive to tenderness. Through his own suffering, Ted Kennedy became more alive to the plight and the suffering of others—the sick child who could not see a doctor; the young soldier denied her rights because of what she looks like or who she loves or where she comes from. 

The landmark laws that he championed—the Civil Rights Act, the Americans with Disabilities Act, immigration reform, children’s health insurance, the Family and Medical Leave Act—all have a running thread. 

Ted Kennedy’s life work was not to champion the causes of those with wealth or power or special connections.  It was to give a voice to those who were not heard; to add a rung to the ladder of opportunity; to make real the dream of our founding. 

He was given the gift of time that his brothers were not, and he used that gift to touch as many lives and right as many wrongs as the years would allow.

We can still hear his voice bellowing through the Senate chamber, face reddened, fist pounding the podium, a veritable force of nature, in support of health care or workers’ rights or civil rights. 

And yet, as has been noted, while his causes became deeply personal, his disagreements never did. While he was seen by his fiercest critics as a partisan lightning rod, that’s not the prism through which Ted Kennedy saw the world, nor was it the prism through which his colleagues saw Ted Kennedy. 

He was a product of an age when the joy and nobility of politics prevented differences of party and platform and philosophy from becoming barriers to cooperation and mutual respect—a time when adversaries still saw each other as patriots.

And that’s how Ted Kennedy became the greatest legislator of our time. 

He did it by hewing to principle, yes, but also by seeking compromise and common cause—not through deal-making and horse-trading alone, but through friendship, and kindness, and humour. 

There was the time he courted Orrin Hatch for support of the Children’s Health Insurance Program by having his chief of staff serenade the senator with a song Orrin had written himself; the time he delivered shamrock cookies on a china plate to sweeten up a crusty Republican colleague; the famous story of how he won the support of a Texas Committee chairman on an immigration bill. 

Teddy walked into a meeting with a plain manilla envelope, and showed only the chairman that it was filled with the Texan’s favourite cigars. When the negotiations were going well, he would inch the envelope closer to the chairman. When they weren’t, he’d pull it back. Before long, the deal was done.

It was only a few years ago, on St. Patrick’s Day, when Teddy buttonholed me on the floor of the Senate for my support of a certain piece of legislation that was coming up for vote.  I gave my pledge, but I expressed scepticism that it would pass.  But when the roll call was over, the bill garnered the votes that it needed, and then some. 

I looked at Teddy with astonishment and asked how had he done it. He just patted me on the back and said, “Luck of the Irish.”

Of course, luck had little to do with Ted Kennedy’s legislative success; he knew that. 

A few years ago, his father-in-law told him that he and Daniel Webster just might be the two greatest senators of all time.  Without missing a beat, Teddy replied, “What did Webster do?”

But though it is Teddy’s historic body of achievements that we will remember, it is his giving heart that we will miss. 

It was the friend and the colleague who was always the first to pick up the phone and say, “I’m sorry for your loss,” or “I hope you feel better,” or “What can I do to help?” 

It was the boss so adored by his staff that over 500, spanning five decades, showed up for his 75th birthday party.

It was the man who sent birthday wishes and thank-you notes and even his own paintings to so many who never imagined that a U.S. senator of such stature would take the time to think about somebody like them. 

I have one of those paintings in my private study off the Oval Office—a Cape Cod seascape that was a gift to a freshman legislator who had just arrived in Washington and happened to admire it when Ted Kennedy welcomed him into his office. 

That, by the way, is my second gift from Teddy and Vicki after our dog Bo.  And it seems like everyone has one of those stories—the ones that often start with “You wouldn’t believe who called me today.”

Ted Kennedy was the father who looked not only after his own three children, but John’s and Bobby’s as well. 

He took them camping and taught them to sail.  He laughed and danced with them at birthdays and weddings; cried and mourned with them through hardship and tragedy; and passed on that same sense of service and selflessness that his parents had instilled in him. 

Shortly after Ted walked Caroline down the aisle and gave her away at the altar, he received a note from Jackie that read, “On you the carefree youngest brother fell a burden a hero would have begged to been spared.  We are all going to make it because you were always there with your love.”

Not only did the Kennedy family make it because of Ted’s love—he made it because of t heirs, especially because the love and the life he found in Vicki. 

After so much loss and so much sorrow, it could not have been easy for Ted to risk his heart again. 

And that he did is a testament to how deeply he loved this remarkable woman from Louisiana. And she didn’t just love him back. As Ted would often acknowledge, Vicki saved him. 

She gave him strength and purpose; joy and friendship; and stood by him always, especially in those last, hardest days.   We cannot know for certain how long we have here.

We cannot foresee the trials or misfortunes that will test us along the way.   We cannot know what God’s plan is for us. What we can do is to live out our lives as best we can with purpose, and with love, and with joy. 

We can use each day to show those who are closest to us how much we care about them, and treat others with the kindness and respect that we wish for ourselves.  We can learn from our mistakes and grow from our failures.  

And we can strive at all costs to make a better world, so that someday, if we are blessed with the chance to look back on our time here, we know that we spent it well; that we made a difference; that our fleeting presence had a lasting impact on the lives of others.

This is how Ted Kennedy lived. This is his legacy. 

He once said, as has already been mentioned, of his brother Bobby that he need not be idealized or enlarged in death because what he was in life—and I imagine he would say the same about himself. 

The greatest expectations were placed upon Ted Kennedy’s shoulders because of who he was, but he surpassed them all because of who he became. 

We do not weep for him today because of the prestige attached to his name or his office. 

We weep because we loved this kind and tender hero who persevered through pain and tragedy—not for the sake of ambition or vanity; not for wealth or power; but only for the people and the country that he loved.

In the days after September 11th, Teddy made it a point to personally call each one of the 177 families of this state who lost a loved one in the attack. 

But he didn’t stop there. He kept calling and checking up on them. He fought through red tape to get them assistance and grief counselling. 

He invited them sailing, played with their children, and would write each family a letter whenever the anniversary of that terrible day came along.  

To one widow, he wrote the following: “As you know so well, the passage of time never really heals the tragic memory of such a great loss, but we carry on, because we have to, because our loved ones would want us to, and because there is still light to guide us in the world from the love they gave us.”

We carry on.

Ted Kennedy has gone home now, guided by his faith and by the light of those that he has loved and lost. 

At last he is with them once more, leaving those of us who grieve his passing with the memories he gave, the good that he did, the dream he kept alive, and a single, enduring image—the image of a man on a boat, white mane tousled, smiling broadly as he sails into the wind, ready for whatever storms may come, carrying on toward some new and wondrous place just beyond the horizon. 

May God bless Ted Kennedy, and may he rest in eternal peace.

Charles Earl Spencer’s eulogy for his sister, Princess Diana

I stand before you today, the representative of a family in grief in a country in mourning before a world in shock.

We are all united not only in our desire to pay our respects to Diana but rather in our need to do so.

For such was her extraordinary appeal that the tens of millions of people taking part in this service all over the world via television and radio who never actually met her, feel that they too lost someone close to them in the early hours of Sunday morning.

It is a more remarkable tribute to Diana than I can ever hope to offer her today.

Diana was the very essence of compassion, of duty, of style, of beauty.

All over the world she was a symbol of selfless humanity. All over the world, a standard bearer for the rights of the truly downtrodden, a very British girl who transcended nationality.

Someone with a natural nobility who was classless and who proved in the last year that she needed no royal title to continue to generate her particular brand of magic.

Today is our chance to say thank you for the way you brightened our lives, even though God granted you but half a life.

We will all feel cheated always that you were taken from us so young and yet we must learn to be grateful that you came along at all.

Only now that you are gone do we truly appreciate what we are now without and we want you to know that life without you is very, very difficult.

We have all despaired at our loss over the past week and only the strength of the message you gave us through your years of giving has afforded us the strength to move forward.

There is a temptation to rush to canonize your memory, there is no need to do so. You stand tall enough as a human being of unique qualities not to need to be seen as a saint.

Indeed to sanctify your memory would be to miss out on the very core of your being, your wonderfully mischievous sense of humor with a laugh that bent you double.

Your joy for life transmitted where ever you took your smile and the sparkle in those unforgettable eyes. Your boundless energy which you could barely contain.

But your greatest gift was your intuition and it was a gift you used wisely.

This is what underpinned all your other wonderful attributes and if we look to analyze what it was about you that had such a wide appeal we find it in your instinctive feel for what was really important in all our lives.

Without your God-given sensitivity we would be immersed in greater ignorance at the anguish of AIDS and H.I.V. sufferers, the plight of the homeless, the isolation of lepers, the random destruction of land mines.

Diana explained to me once that it was her innermost feelings of suffering that made it possible for her to connect with her constituency of the rejected.

And here we come to another truth about her. For all the status, the glamour, the applause, Diana remained throughout a very insecure person at heart, almost childlike in her desire to do good for others so she could release herself from deep feelings of unworthiness of which her eating disorders were merely a symptom.

The world sensed this part of her character and cherished her for her vulnerability whilst admiring her for her honesty.

The last time I saw Diana was on July 1, her birthday in London, when typically she was not taking time to celebrate her special day with friends but was guest of honor at a special charity fund-raising evening.

She sparkled of course, but I would rather cherish the days I spent with her in March when she came to visit me and my children in our home in South Africa.

I am proud of the fact apart from when she was on display meeting President Mandela we managed to contrive to stop the ever-present paparazzi from getting a single picture of her—that meant a lot to her.

These were days I will always treasure. It was as if we had been transported back to our childhood when we spent such an enormous amount of time together—the two youngest in the family.

Fundamentally she had not changed at all from the big sister who mothered me as a baby, fought with me at school and endured those long train journeys between our parents’ homes with me at weekends.

It is a tribute to her level-headedness and strength that despite the most bizarre-like life imaginable after her childhood, she remained intact, true to herself.

There is no doubt that she was looking for a new direction in her life at this time. She talked endlessly of getting away from England, mainly because of the treatment that she received at the hands of the newspapers.

I don’t think she ever understood why her genuinely good intentions were sneered at by the media, why there appeared to be a permanent quest on their behalf to bring her down. It is baffling.

My own and only explanation is that genuine goodness is threatening to those at the opposite end of the moral spectrum.

It is a point to remember that of all the ironies about Diana, perhaps the greatest was this—a girl given the name of the ancient goddess of hunting was, in the end, the most hunted person of the modern age.

She would want us today to pledge ourselves to protecting her beloved boys William and Harry from a similar fate and I do this here Diana on your behalf. We will not allow them to suffer the anguish that used regularly to drive you to tearful despair.

And beyond that, on behalf of your mother and sisters, I pledge that we, your blood family, will do all we can to continue the imaginative and loving way in which you were steering these two exceptional young men so that their souls are not simply immersed by duty and tradition, but can sing openly as you planned.

We fully respect the heritage into which they have both been born and will always respect and encourage them in their royal role.

But we, like you, recognize the need for them to experience as many different aspects of life as possible to arm them spiritually and emotionally for the years ahead. I know you would have expected nothing less from us.

William and Harry, we all cared desperately for you today. We are all chewed up with the sadness at the loss of a woman who was not even our mother. How great your suffering is, we cannot even imagine.

I would like to end by thanking God for the small mercies he has shown us at this dreadful time. For taking Diana at her most beautiful and radiant and when she had joy in her private life.

Above all we give thanks for the life of a woman I am so proud to be able to call my sister, the unique, the complex, the extraordinary and irreplaceable Diana whose beauty, both internal and external, will never be extinguished from our minds.

Eulogies are tough. Tough to write, tough to deliver and hard to deal with the emotions they evoke.

But they’re worth it. Having that opportunity to pay tribute to and help others remember whoever it is that has passed the way you want them to be remembered.

So use these eulogy examples to help you compose the perfect eulogy to remember a loved one.

Sally Collins is a writer and the founder and owner of Sympathy Message Ideas. Her passion is to help others deal with grief and provide assistance with talking to those grieving.  Learn more about Sally .

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Eulogy for a brother

By kathryn barrett.

When asked about my brother Walter, I used to describe him by saying, “Children and dogs love him.”

And I think that’s about the finest thing that can be said about anyone.  Because dogs know—they have a sixth sense about who can be trusted.  And children feel—they feel in their heart who loves them and recognize a kindred spirit.

I have a vivid memory of Walter, about 13 or 14, swinging some of the younger neighbourhood kids around in his arms until they squealed with laughter.  He was a gentle giant, his stature unusual even for a well-fed suburban adolescent, his willingness to play with those many years younger even more unique. 

As his little sister, I basked in his popularity—when I wasn’t furious with him over some sibling spat.  We had a lot of those, but I only remember him hitting me once.  That was because I hid his Led Zeppelin albums.  I think everyone would agree I probably deserved it.

I learned early on that my larger-than-life brother was invincible.  He could do anything, perform any daredevil trick, and survive.

One of my earliest memories is on the front porch at our house on Poplar Street.  I was about four, he was five or six and had just gotten his green banana seat bike.  I remember him telling me to watch while he showed me his latest trick—riding with no hands and no feet.  It was only a few seconds after his feet had left the pedals and his hands lifted from the steering wheel that the bike crashed to the ground.

My impressionable four-year-old eyes saw blood pouring from him in several places, his body rapidly turning black and blue. He became the monster of my nightmares, as he rose from the wreckage and walked across the yard.  I screamed and ran inside for my mother.  Of course I cried louder than he did, as was always the case.  My big brother wasn’t afraid of much.

Except shots.  The kind the doctor gives you.  When they took Walter in for his six-year-old vaccinations it took two nurses to hold him down.  As I watched him kicking and screaming, I knew there was No. Way I was getting any of that.  If my big, strong brother was afraid of that needle, then so was I.

So when it came my turn I informed my mother that I wouldn’t be participating in this school-age ritual.  She didn’t press the issue, because frankly, after what she’d been through with Walter, a case of smallpox didn’t sound so bad.

Walter was always testing boundaries, exploring the limits—which was excellent, because then I knew exactly where they were, and I made sure I didn’t break the rules.

The only time I was even allowed to enter my big brother’s realm was when [our young aunt] P. came to visit.  Then we were the irrepressible Three Musketeers, led by fearless Walter, while P. had all the great ideas.  I was happy to tag along, knowing any mischief we got into would be blamed on one of them.

We ran away from home, always coming back in time for supper; made daring midnight escapes over the backyard fence; and played a game we invented called “Guess the Shakespeare quote”.  I kid you not; Walter was an expert on Shakespeare before he even got to ninth grade.  I told you he had guts: believe me, it takes a lot of courage for a twelve-year-old boy to quote the Bard instead of Jimmy Page.

Walter also played the piano, his skill part inherited talent and part due to the incredible reach of those long hands.  He played beautifully, our grandmother MeeMaw, who doubled as our piano teacher, always said.  And she wouldn’t have lied, even though, I’m pretty sure, Walter was always her favourite.

But his real talent was baseball. Little League baseball.

Walter was the tallest in the blue uniform of Monroe Brick.  He played first base and pitcher, a southpaw who pitched many winning games.  And when the chips were down, bases loaded, we could count on Walter to hit the grand slams and bring them all home.

After that incident on the bike, when he turned into a black and blue, blood spurting monster before my very eyes and then miraculously survived with nothing more than a few scrapes and some coveted BandAids, I decided my brother was indestructible.

He could do anything, and with Evel Knievel as his hero, he tried lots of stunts that would have killed any other kid on a banana seat bike.  And the bike eventually turned into a mini bike, and then a bigger motorcycle, and then a Trans Am, which he wrecked one day when he fell asleep while driving home after a night shift.  He survived that, as well as any number of minor work-related accidents.

He even survived a bad marriage, to his first wife whose name escapes me.

But after that he married a wonderful woman named B., and then he got even luckier: His lovely daughter C. was born.  I don’t think there was ever a prouder father.  Finally, he had his OWN kid to play with!  To roughhouse on the floor with, to carry on his tall, tall shoulders, to view the world with the childlike wonder he never lost.

I think life, then, was just about perfect for Walter.

I still remember the night he called me, to tell me the doctors had found a lump in his chest.  They thought it was cancer.  But as he described to me this baseball-sized mass, I figured it really must be a baseball.  I could not comprehend the idea of life-threatening cancer and my big strong brother in the same sentence.  Nope.  They’d open him up and find an actual Rawlings baseball. 

It was lymphoma instead.  A large mass, pressing against his heart.  But it didn’t kill him.  And he left the hospital with something even more precious: a baby boy. B. had given birth to T. the day after Walter’s surgery.  How lucky can one man be?  Go into the hospital to have a lump cut out of your chest and bring home another baby who fills your heart with joy.

It was much later on that his third wife M. called to tell me that Walter had had a heart attack, at just 42.  Again, I greeted the news with some scepticism.  He’d survived terrible bike accidents, a car accident or two, and cancer.  And he survived a heart attack, going back to work eventually on the high-rise buildings in Minneapolis he was so proud to have a part in constructing.

Walter was a wonderful stepfather to two children, E. and L. And a great friend to his children’s friends, his friends’ children, anyone who shared his Peter Pan-like love of childish things.

When they say people like to live on the edge, they were describing Walter.  Except Walter took that to mean he must live on the edge of a lake. He always lived near a body of water, from the time he was born on Poplar Street, next to the Ouachita River.

Even when we were growing up in a neat suburban neighbourhood, we lived near enough to Bayou DeSiard that when he was old enough, Walter would grab his fishing pole and ride his bike to the bayou and spend an afternoon fishing for bream.

When he was about 15, he was fishing in the bayou when he saw a man fall out of his boat.  Walter quickly reached over with his pole and helped pull the man to safety.  Walter was always lending a hand, to a stranger, to a friend, to his last love, P., who needed him as much as he needed her.

When Walter moved to Minnesota, there were plenty of lakes to choose from, and he lived on several.  In the winter, he literally lived ON the frozen lake, ice fishing in his ice house.

Eventually he moved back to Jones, where he was always happiest, next to the lake that eventually took his life.

Walter tempted death, from the time he was a kid on a bike, inventing stunts to impress his little sister, to the many times he drove all night after working a week on a boat on the Intracoastal canal, to the times he hung sheetrock high above the streets of Minneapolis in a fifty story building.

They say those who constantly cheat death are living life to the fullest.  Perhaps it’s the lack of fear that opens up one’s world, allows one to take risks that constrain lesser mortals.  Walter did live a full life, despite his too soon death.  He loved and embraced those around him, with those long arms and with his fearless heart.

Those of us who knew him, who loved him, who got angry with him, who worshiped him when he hit those grand slam home runs—we’ll miss the boy, and the man he turned out to be.  We’ll miss the gentle father, who cradled his babies against his hard chest while they slept, who taught his son to throw a baseball, who taught his daughter to ride a bike.

We’ll miss the friend, who was always quick with a funny line, who was always eager to go off on another adventure, who fought with us and loved us with equal passion.

We’ll miss the brother, the son, the boy who tested his limits, who brought home the trophies, who befriended and defended the neighbourhood dogs and children.

We’ll mourn the man who’s gone, whom we lost so tragically, but we’ll remember him, and remember that above all, he would want us to remember him as he lived, on the edge of a lake and on the fearless edge of what was possible.

I’d like to read a poem, by Joyce Grenfell:

If I should die before the rest of you

Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone

Nor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,

But be the usual selves that I have known.

Weep if you must

Parting is hell.

But life goes on.

So sing as well.

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How to Write a Tribute to a Brother Who Passed Away

Today we’re going to take a look at how to write a tribute to a brother who passed away.

The loss of a brother can be so incredibly hard, and writing a tribute for him can seem like a huge challenge. 

No one else shared your childhood memories the way he did, and no one better deserves a heartfelt eulogy or tribute reflective of all the great things he accomplished in his life. But when it comes time to honor your dear brother, it can be difficult to know what to say. 

Even if you and your brother had a complicated relationship, the passing of a family member is a heavy weight. We hope this list helps you to lighten your load, and to craft a beautiful goodbye message.

What Can I Say at My Brother’s Funeral?

Honoring your brother with a heartfelt tribute doesn’t mean that it has to be incredibly serious the whole time. He would love a bit of humor or perhaps an anecdote, don’t you think? 

You can share as little or as much as you’d like; we just don’t recommend speaking “off the cuff.” It’s good to think about it, ask other family members, and above all, write it down. 

Even if it’s only a short letter, you never know if your mind (and well-crafted words) will draw a blank, especially with all of the emotions you may be going through. 

How is a Tribute Different from a Eulogy or Obituary?

A tribute to a brother who passed away can be something that’s delivered while he is still living, while a eulogy is strictly for someone who has passed on. 

While eulogies are typically on the sad side (naturally), both tributes and eulogies can also include some lighthearted memories, stories, or even a joke that your loved one would have enjoyed. 

How to Write a Tribute to Your Brother

First of all, don’t rush the process! Take time to choose the right words; ones that incorporate beautiful memories and also remind the audience of your brother’s most well-loved qualities. 

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Just like when writing any other speech, have both a highlighter and an eraser handy. Once started, the words might flow quickly and easily, but don’t get discouraged if you find it difficult to begin. We’ll provide some tips down below. 

It is a good idea that once you’ve finished, you put it away for a day or two, then re-read to gain some perspective before editing. 

1. Start with an Interesting Introduction

One of the first things you want to do is introduce yourself. Not everyone in the audience knows who you are, so it’s best to do so before beginning your heartfelt (or emotional) tribute. 

You can say something like, “My name is Helen, and I was the favorite of Brian’s siblings.” That would get a chuckle, help everyone to relax, and would be a great way to start. 

2. Provide a Brief Overview of His Life

You certainly don’t have to include every year of his life or his entire childhood, but focus on the important highlights. 

His early years, schooling, his best friends, favorite holiday traditions, the career he built, his beloved wife and family, and so on. 

Related: Inspirational Eulogy Examples

3. Celebrate His Accomplishments and Challenges

Was he the first in the family to graduate college? How about if he had a military career? Did he battle some unique disabilities or personal demons and conquer them? 

There are lots of things you can bring up to really highlight the bravery and determination he showed during his life here on earth, however long or short it may have been. 

4. Let His Unique Personality Shine

If he was a jokester, he would probably love to be remembered for that! Or perhaps, if he was an artist or craftsman, you could showcase the joy he derived from working with his hands. Known for his bad dance moves, wacky haircuts, or mad trivia skills? Nothing is really off the table. 

Sometimes it’s the simple things, like the way he was a great friend to anyone he met, or the special relationship(s) he formed with animals. 

Or perhaps your brother’s heart was most present in the complex things? Maybe it was the beautiful way he counseled good friends and family through depression or mental illness, or helped others during financially hard times. 

Whatever showcases who he really was, his heart and his mentality, is the best for honoring his memory.

5. Tell a Story That Shows His Character

Reach into your memory banks and pull out one or two stories that really reveal his character! 

This can range from old childhood memories of being lovingly picked on by him, to the way he came through for you when you were struggling through your darkest days as a young adult, and he set you back on a healthy path. 

Whatever you choose, just ensure he remains the focus.

6. Include Personal Interests

Whether it’s a love for golf, board games, traveling, or underwater basket weaving, talk about how much he loved his passions! 

There might be a few the audience doesn’t know about, so this is your chance to share his quirky, nerdy, or eccentric side. 

7. Share a Life Lesson You Learned From Him

Your brother probably taught you a lot about life, let’s face it. If he was your big brother, you likely learned how not to pull the wool over your parent’s eyes! Or maybe he taught you how to be thrifty with your money, how to drive, or how to dress for your first date. 

If he was your baby brother you might have looked after him, which taught you responsibility and gave you your first taste of what it might be like to be a parent.

8. Celebrate His Faith

If he was a man of faith, that is an important topic to include to create a beautiful tribute, as it was an integral part of his life’s journey. 

Mentioning his religion, experiences, highs and lows, and highlighting them would mean the world to him. 

9. Express Gratitude & Offer Condolences

Thank the audience for coming, for honoring your late sibling with their presence, and for comforting one another during this difficult time.

Be vulnerable and sincere, and don’t forget to offer your own condolences to them as well. He will be missed by each and every one there! 

10. Honor His Legacy

If he had children, make sure to mention them fondly, and to remind them how much he loved them and lived for them. 

Talk about how the whole family will honor his legacy by doing something specific: planting a tree in his memory, scheduling a vacation each year together, putting together a slideshow, or toasting him at his gravesite on his birthday are just a few examples. 

Related: Ways to Pay Tribute to Someone Special at the Funeral

Short Memorial Quotes to Honor Your Brother

Here are some short quotes to help inspire you as you are writing your tribute:

• “There is a little boy inside the man who is my brother… Oh, how I hated that little boy. And how I love him too.”—Anna Quindlen
• “Never make a companion equal to a brother.” — Hesiod
• “I had a brother who was my savior, who made my childhood bearable.” — Maurice Sendak
• “Brothers and sisters are as close as hands and feet.” — Vietnamese Proverb
• “There is no love like the love for a brother. There is no love like the love from a brother.” — Astrid Alauda
• “From the time we’re born, our brothers and sisters are our collaborators and co-conspirators, our role models and our cautionary tales.” — Jeffrey Kluger
• “Because brothers don’t let each other wander in the dark alone.” — Jolene Perry
• “Sometimes being a brother is even better than being a superhero.”— Marc Brown
• “How do people make it through life without a brother?” — Unknown
• “After a girl is grown, her little brothers — now her protectors — seem like big brothers.” — Terri Guillemets
• “Brothers don’t necessarily have to say anything to each other — they can sit in a room and be together and just be completely comfortable with each other.” — Leonardo DiCaprio

Examples of Tributes to a Brother

The best tribute for a brother is one that combines memories with a lot of heart and maybe a little bit of humor (if that suited his personality). 

Try to mix and match your stories, from funny to moving or inspiring. Be sure to include the other important people in his life, too (no need to make it all about you).

Here are some short tribute ideas to get your imagination going. We hope you find them helpful! 

Short Tribute to a Brother Who Passed Away

As I reflected on my brother’s life this week, I was once again blown away by the way he loved his people. He loved long and with forgiveness. 

That was such an inspiration to me! Going forward, I hope I can be remembered with as much love as we all remember him. 

He left behind a legacy that will stand the test of time — from his awesome children, to his stunning wife, to his naughty Golden Retriever. He impacted all of us so well! 

Heartwarming Tribute to a Brother Who Passed Away

What a beautiful man my brother was! While his life on earth was tragically short, he lived more in those years than most do in a hundred. He was my best friend and my confidante, but as I look around, I recognize so many who would say the same about him! That leaves me with such joy and pride.

My patient, gentle, and loving brother was a true friend to so many. He was an advocate for the unlovable, you could say! I should know — I was one at one time. He never judged, and was such a great listener. 

I am so proud that he passed on those qualities to those around him. May we live better lives because he was here, and honor the memory of my brother by doing so. 

Christian Tribute to My Late Brother

My brother was a man who loved God, and oh, how God loved him! They are rejoicing together now in heaven — probably telling silly jokes and going fishing. He lived the most God honoring life he could, and his faithfulness to Christ was an encouragement to so many.

While we on earth will miss him with every fiber of our beings, we know he is spending eternal life in bliss and happiness with his Savior, just waiting patiently at the gates of heaven for us to finish the journey and join him. 

His life, morals, and convictions never wavered. His manner of living and faith always matched up, even when it was hard. May you fly high with the angels, my brother! 

Inspiring Tributes for My Older Brother

Just as he inspired us to live large, laugh often, and love all the time, so will we promise to do the same! My brother inspired all of us, and we pledge today to not sully those memories by wallowing in grief, or forgetting what he practiced and preached every day. 

Watching his little children now reminds me that his legacy lives on and will never die. We will honor you, brother, by living well, talking about you often, and sharing with the world the joy you brought into it. 

Heartfelt Tributes for My Younger Brother

What can I do other than share the bittersweet memories and feelings I have for this man, my brother? He was always there for me, not just in words, but in actions and truths. 

From the first time we snuck out through the bedroom window (sorry, Mom and Dad) and crazy holidays, to summer camps and sharing a car throughout high school — he and I were an integral part of one another’s lives and hearts. 

What to say when you lose a part of your soul? Brother, you will be missed and mourned for a long time, and never forgotten. Thank you for being my brother. You were the most meaningful gift I ever received. 

In Loving Memory of My Beloved Brother

With all of the slideshows that have been on repeat in my head since we lost you, I have remembered the good times and the bad! 

You were a complex character, and yet all of my favorite memories were spent with you. Now, without my partner in crime, I am left alone and a bit scared — kind of like when we lost Mom in the grocery store that one time. 

Going on without you seems to be a crime of sorts! Yet, you would want us to go on indeed, and to live our best lives. Thank you for being our example, and we wish you peace, Brother.

Words for Someone Who Lost Their Brother

My heart grieves with you and for you.

Siblings are the most wonderful friends. I am so sorry you lost your brother. 

I know you are hurting right now. Please let me know what I can do.

He was such a special person! Know that he was loved.

I always adored your brother. What a shining star he was! 

I feel so lucky to have known him, even just a little.

May your family feel loved and embraced in this difficult time.

I’ll always remember him with such fondness and so many wonderful memories! 

Related: Best Funeral Poems for Your Brother

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6 Funeral Speech Examples for a Family Member

Here are six examples of funeral speeches for family members that you can use to create your own. Learn how to write and deliver a funeral speech that touches people’s hearts and commemorates the life of your loved one.

The world feels a little dimmer, a little quieter since you lost someone you loved. A familiar ache sits in your chest, and the thought of a future without them is a heavy weight.

Maybe, amidst the whirlwind of grief, you were entrusted with a beautiful honor: Delivering a funeral speech for your family member, a chance to share stories and celebrate the life of your cherished relative.

But the idea of standing in front of a room full of people, your voice trembling, and emotions threatening to spill over fills you with dread. Dry mouth? Check. Trembling hands? Absolutely. But remember — you're not alone. Putting your grief into words, especially in such a public forum, can feel like a scary task.

We understand. This is a difficult time, but you don't have to navigate this journey alone. Let's learn how to write and deliver a heartfelt and meaningful funeral speech for a family member — whether it’s a sibling, a parent, or a close relative. 

Take a seat, grab a warm cup of tea, and let's get started on writing a tribute to celebrate the life of the incredible person you loved.

Tips for Writing a Meaningful Funeral Speech for Family Member

Crafting a eulogy can feel overwhelming, but it's a beautiful way to honor your loved one. Here are 5 practical tips to help you write a heartfelt and meaningful speech, with some additional details and examples:

Tip 1: Brainstorm memories

Take some time to reflect on your relationship with the deceased. Jot down specific memories, funny anecdotes, or moments that showcase their personality and values. Focus on stories that illustrate their strengths, quirks, and the impact they had on you. Here are some prompts to get you started:

• Think of a time they went above and beyond for you or someone else.
• Recall a shared hobby or activity that brought you joy.
• Did they have a unique way of expressing themselves (a favorite saying, a funny quirk)?

Tip 2: Consider the audience

While sharing personal stories, keep the audience in mind. Choose anecdotes appropriate for the setting and ones that resonate with the broader group of family and friends. If you're talking about your grandma's famous (and slightly mischievous) sense of humor, focus on a story that highlights her wit and warmth , rather than one that might be considered too private or inside-jokey for those who didn't know her well.

Tip 3: Structure your speech

Eulogies don't need to be lengthy. Aim for 5-7 minutes.  

A simple structure can be:

• Introduction (briefly introduce yourself and your relationship to the deceased)
• Body (share 2-3 key stories or memories)
• Conclusion (a few words of reflection and farewell)

When structuring your stories, focus on a strong opening, a clear middle that paints a picture , and a concise closing that leaves a lasting impression.

Tip 4: Weave in tributes

Did your loved one have a favorite quote, poem, or song? Incorporate a short excerpt that expresses something important about them or your relationship. For instance, if your mother loved to garden , you could include a quote about the beauty and resilience of nature, or if your brother was a musician, you could read out a few lyrics of their favorite song.

Tip 5: Practice makes perfect

Reading your speech aloud beforehand allows you to adjust pacing, identify emotional moments, and practice overcoming any stumbles. Consider asking a trusted friend or family member to listen and offer feedback.

While practicing, pay attention to your body language and breathing. Speak clearly and at a moderate pace. Taking pauses at key moments can add weight to your words.

Funeral Speech for Family Member: 6 Examples

Here are examples of funeral speeches that we’ve written to help you understand how to structure a speech and make it personal, effective, and heartfelt. While these are just sample speeches, you can use them as inspiration to write your own.

Example 1: For a mother

Good afternoon, everyone. For those of you who may not know me, I'm Sarah, Margaret's eldest daughter.

Mom lived by a simple quote that perfectly captures her spirit: "The only true wealth is the good you do and the love you give."

She wasn't one for material things, but her generosity knew no bounds. Every year, without fail, she'd spend weeks knitting the most incredible Christmas stockings for the children at the local homeless shelter. Seeing their smiles on Christmas morning was her greatest reward.

One memory that always brings a smile to my face is our annual camping trip. Mom, despite never being much of an outdoorswoman, insisted on coming along every year. One particularly rainy night, huddled in our leaky tent, we ended up playing cards by flashlight for hours, laughing so hard our stomachs hurt.

When I was a nervous wreck about my first big job interview, she spent the entire day coaching me, reminding me of my strengths and why I deserved the opportunity. Her unwavering belief in me gave me the courage to walk into that interview and nail it.

There are countless stories like this, each one a testament to the incredible woman she was. Mom leaves behind a legacy of love. She is survived by her husband, Mark, her children, and her grandchildren. We will miss her dearly, but her love and the lessons she taught us will forever be a part of who we are. 

Thank you, Mom. We will miss her dearly, but her love and the lessons she taught us will forever be a part of who we are.

Example 2: For a father

Thank you for coming, everyone. For many of you, I'm Jeremy, but to Dad, I'll always be Jay Jay.

There's a saying Dad loved to repeat: "A father doesn't tell you how to live; he lives, and you watch him do it." And that's exactly what he did. He led by example , with a quiet strength and unwavering work ethic. I remember countless weekends spent helping him in his workshop; there was a softer side to Dad too.

Every year on my birthday, without fail, he'd take me fishing at our secret spot by the old bridge. It wasn't about catching the biggest fish, it was about the quiet moments spent side-by-side , him patiently teaching me the art of casting a line and the importance of enjoying the peacefulness of nature. and taking pride in a job well done.

There was a softer side to Dad too, though it might have taken some coaxing to see it. Every year on my birthday, without fail, he'd take me fishing at our secret spot by the old bridge. It wasn't about catching the biggest fish; it was about the quiet moments spent side-by-side, him patiently teaching me the art of casting a line and the importance of enjoying the peacefulness of nature.

He never missed a single soccer game, school play, or science fair. He cheered the loudest, even (especially?) during my most embarrassing moments. His unwavering support gave me the confidence to step outside my comfort zone and chase my dreams.

Dad leaves a void that can't be filled, but his spirit lives on in the hearts of his family — his wife, Jessica, his children, Aaron, Matt, and Claire; and his grandchildren, Skyler and Angie.

We'll miss his booming laugh, his crazy advice, and the way he always knew how to fix anything. Thank you, Dad, for everything.

Example 3: For a sibling

Good morning, everyone. I’m Sarah, Alex’s little sister. Alex wasn't just my older brother; he was a beacon of light in our family. He graduated top of his class with a degree in engineering, a feat that never surprised any of us. His mind was brilliant, always tinkering and problem-solving, a talent he readily shared when fixing everyone's gadgets (including my perpetually tangled headphones).

Alex's life extended far beyond accomplishments at work though. He built a beautiful family with his wife, Maya, and their two adorable children, Lily and Ben. They were his pride and joy. Seeing him light up when he talked about them, his goofy grin as he chased the kids around the park, is a memory I'll forever hold close.

There was a playful side to Alex too. Remember that time on our family vacation to the beach when he convinced us all to participate in a sandcastle-building competition? His creation, a multi-tiered masterpiece complete with a moat, put our simple sandcastles to shame (and earned him major bragging rights for years to come).

But beyond the playful exterior, Alex was always there for those that he cared about. Having Alex as a brother meant having a built-in cheerleader, a problem-solver, and a partner in crime.

‍ He leaves behind a legacy of brilliance, kindness, and a love for family that will forever inspire us all. He is survived by his loving wife, Maya, their precious children, our parents, Mom and Dad, and myself. 

We miss him terribly, but his spirit, his infectious laugh, and the memories we shared will forever be a part of who I am. Rest in peace, Alex. I love you.

Example 4: For a grandparent

Good afternoon, everyone. For many of you, I'm Sarah. Today, we celebrate the life of my incredible grandmother, Nana Sylvia. Nana Sylvia lived a life rich with travel, adventure, and an insatiable curiosity about the world.

One memory that always brings a smile to my face is the time we took a spontaneous road trip together, following dusty backroads and ending up at a hidden beach where we collected seashells until the sun dipped below the horizon.

But beyond her adventurous spirit, Nana Sylvia instilled valuable lessons in me. She taught me the importance of cherishing every moment, the joy of getting lost (both literally and figuratively), and the strength of resilience. Her mantra, "Life is a journey, not a destination," will forever be a guiding light in my own travels.

Nana Sylvia leaves behind a loving family, her husband Grandpa Joe, her children (including my parents), a gaggle of grandchildren (including myself), and even a couple of great-grandchildren who will only know her through stories and the twinkle in our eyes. We will miss her dearly, but her legacy of adventure, kindness, and living life to the fullest will continue to inspire us all. Rest in peace, Nana Sylvia.

Example 5: For an aunt or uncle

Hello, everyone. My name is Michael, and the amazing person we're here to remember today was my Aunt Clara, a woman whose passion for baking could rival any pastry chef. Remember those times she'd host family gatherings and transform her kitchen into a bakery?

‍ Her creations weren't just delicious, they were works of art, and her infectious enthusiasm for baking always made everyone feel welcome and included.

But beyond her culinary talents, Aunt Clara was someone who had a heart of gold. When I was struggling to find my place in the world, unsure of what path to take, Aunt Clara, with her gentle wisdom, reminded me that each one of us has something unique to give the world. Her encouragement gave me the courage to forge my own way.

Having an aunt like Aunt Clara was a true blessing. She taught me the importance of following your dreams, no matter how unconventional, the joy of sharing your passions with others, and the strength of unwavering support.

Though she may be gone, her spirit, her laughter, and the delicious aroma of her freshly baked cookies will forever hold a special place in my heart.

Aunt Clara is survived by her husband, Uncle John, her siblings, and her many loving nieces and nephews, including myself. We will miss her dearly. Rest in peace, Aunt Clara.

Example 6: For a cousin

Good afternoon, everyone. Many of you know me as David, but to Dr. Amelia Brooks, I was simply "Davey," the kid who used to follow her around the house with a plastic stethoscope, pretending to be her intern.

Amelia is my brilliant cousin, but she was also a beacon of compassion in her community. Her passion for medicine was truly contagious, and it sparked a lifelong curiosity in science within me. But beyond her medical expertise, Amelia was a doctor who treated her patients not just with medicine but with genuine care.

She tirelessly volunteered at the local free clinic, ensuring everyone had access to quality healthcare. Amelia lived her life in service of others.

Having a cousin like Dr. Amelia Brooks was a privilege. She taught me the importance of empathy , the joy of lifelong learning, and the strength of unwavering dedication.

Though she may be gone, her legacy of healing, compassion, and making a difference in the world will forever inspire me. Dr. Amelia Brooks leaves behind a loving family , her parents, and her many cousins, including myself. We will miss her dearly, but the lives she touched and the countless patients she helped will forever be a testament to her incredible legacy. Rest in peace, Amelia.

How To Deliver an Effective Funeral Speech

Crafting a funeral speech is an important part of honoring your loved one's life. But delivering it in front of friends and family can feel scary — especially if public speaking isn’t your thing.

Here are some tips to help make sure your words resonate with the audience and deliver a funeral speech with confidence: Make eye contact (it eases the nerves!)

Public speaking can feel isolating, but making eye contact throughout your speech builds a bridge between you and the audience. Instead of staring at one point in the room, try to make eye contact with different people for a few seconds at a time.

This creates a sense of intimacy and allows your message to connect with them on a personal level. Seeing your genuine emotion and connection to your loved one can be a source of comfort for those who are grieving as well.

Make sure you take deep breaths

Public speaking can leave you breathless, which can make your voice shaky and your words jumbled. Before you begin speaking, take a few slow, deep breaths from your belly. Continue to breathe deeply throughout your speech, especially before transitions or emotional moments.

This will help you speak clearly, project your voice effectively, and manage any nervousness or grief that might arise.

Speak slowly and clearly

Nervousness can lead to rushing through your speech, leaving the audience confused and missing important details. Make a conscious effort to slow down your speaking pace.

This allows you to properly articulate your thoughts, emphasize important points, and ensure everyone understands the stories and messages you're sharing about your loved one. Speaking slowly also gives the audience time to process what you're saying and connect with the emotions you're conveying.

Carry your notes

While memorizing your entire speech is ideal, it's not always practical, especially if you're feeling emotional. Having a neatly organized copy of the funeral speech with you gives you a sense of security. 

This way, if you get nervous or forget a specific detail, you can easily refer back to your notes without losing your train of thought. Remember, the goal is to deliver a heartfelt message, and using notes can help you achieve that by keeping you focused and on track.

Allow yourself to be vulnerable

A funeral speech is a time to express your grief and celebrate the life of your loved one. Don't be afraid to let your voice crack or shed a tear. Authenticity and vulnerability will connect with the audience on a deeper level.

Seeing your genuine emotions can be a source of comfort for others who are grieving, and it allows you to truly honor the memory of your loved one in a way that feels real and heartfelt.

We hope this guide, along with the examples, help you craft a meaningful and heartfelt funeral speech for a family member — whether it’s a parent, a sibling, or someone in your extended family. If you’re planning a memorial or cremation for your loved one, consider Meadow Memorials .

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How to write a eulogy for a brother

Share this article, about eulogies for brothers.

It can be daunting to take on the challenge of writing your brother’s eulogy, especially at this emotional time when you’re coming to terms with his death.

Perhaps someone in your family asked you to write a eulogy for your brother. Or you might have volunteered to write it yourself. Either way, we’ll step you through the whole process of writing a heartfelt eulogy that captures some of the memorable events in his life and your special relationship with your sibling.

Writing your brother’s eulogy can also be an emotional yet wonderful process as you bring together your memories and connect the significant events in his life with the person he became, highlighting his unique character traits.

Many people are more worried about the delivery of the eulogy than they are about writing the eulogy itself. We’ve got some tips below you can follow that will help you deliver the eulogy with confidence.

If you want to start working on the eulogy now, download a copy of our Eulogy Workbook. It includes eulogy examples for brothers with helpful insights from expert funeral directors .

How long should my brother’s eulogy be?

Eulogies are not long. They’re a short funeral speech of about 3 to 5 minutes. This is around 2 to 3 A4 pages.

If several people are speaking about your brother at his funeral, then 3-5 minutes is a good timeframe to aim for. If you’re one of the only people speaking other than the celebrant, then it’s OK to speak for around 10 minutes. This would be around 5 or 6 A4 pages.

Choosing a theme for your brother’s eulogy

Working out which memories to share and which ones to leave out is often the hardest part.

If you choose a theme that represents your brother, then it will be much easier to filter your memories against this theme. The memories that relate to the theme are the ones you keep. The ones that don’t, you save for sharing in a different way.

To decide on an appropriate theme, think about what your brother was best known for or what he meant to you.

For example, he could have been best known for his:

• favourite hobby
• special skills, talents and abilities
• love of the people close to him
• career activities
• life adventures
• unique character traits.

Or you might remember him less for the things he did in life but more for the effect he had on you, such as:

• the support he gave you in troubled times
• how he had a knack for making you feel better about yourself when you were down
• how you knew he was always looking out for you even if you didn’t speak all that often.

Hopefully, you’ll feel a strong pull to a particular theme.

But if not and if you’re having trouble setting a theme, talk to your family and his friends. Ask them to share their memories and see if you can see a common pattern emerge.

Setting a theme isn’t a necessary part of writing your brother’s eulogy, but it’s a great way to filter those important memories and stories about his life that you want to share with the people who cared about him, too.

Collect your brother’s biographical details

A practical activity you can do is write down his biographical details, such as:

• when and where he was born
• his parent’s and sibling details
• significant relationships and his children if he had any
• work history

You can them move on to writing down:

• how he enjoyed spending his time
• who the important people were in his life
• volunteering activities
• his travel and other adventures
• career highlights
• any talents and special skills he had.

Write the eulogy opening

Once you have these details, you can start writing your opening, stating who your brother was, his relationship to you, when and where he was born, and any other significant details that you think are important to include.

You can also thank people for coming to his funeral or watching the live stream . If people have travelled a long way, you can acknowledge them, too.

Go through the details you’ve gathered about his life and weave them into your opening.

Gather your favourite memories

If you’ve set a theme, then gather the memories you’d like share that fit with your overall eulogy theme.

It’s OK to use humour as well in the eulogy. If you have funny memories to share, the people at the funeral will appreciate your humorous stories, so long as they’re shared with warmth and you’re not poking fun at your brother. Humour can help ease the tension and sadness people often feel at a funeral.

Consider the people attending the funeral, as well. There might be people at your brother’s funeral who only knew him at a particular time in his life. For example, an old childhood friend might love hearing about the things your brother got up to later in life. A more recent friend might enjoy hearing about the things he did earlier in his life.

But whichever memories you choose to share, it’s best to focus on the positive aspects of your brother and the good things he was known for. A funeral is not a time to shock people with revelations. A kind, thoughtful and heartfelt eulogy is always appreciated by anyone attending a funeral. Be honest about your brother and your relationship with him but focus on the positives.

A couple of significant memories connected to your theme might be all your eulogy needs. It’s OK to be personal as well. This is your story to tell.

Close the eulogy with your final goodbye

Stick with your overall theme and find a way to connect it to a final goodbye. You can share a quote or a brief poem, as well.

You can speak directly to your brother, to your audience, or both. It’s up to you.

To find some comforting words, think about what your brother would say to everyone there.

As you prepare the eulogy, remember the importance of capturing memories in the funeral guest book . Encouraging guests to share their stories and sentiments can provide comfort and keep your brother’s legacy alive.

Overcome nerves about public speaking

The key to feeling confident about delivering your brother’s eulogy is to practice reading it many times over. Read the eulogy out loud. Time yourself. You don’t have to learn your eulogy by heart, but the more familiar you are with it, the less likely you are to lose your way.

If you ask someone to review it for you, you don’t have to take their feedback on board if you don’t like it. This is your story to share about your brother’s life.

Plan to take a short break and few deep breaths if you think you’ll be overcome with emotion. Don’t rush through it to get it over with. Having a glass of water to sip from is also a helpful way to take a moment’s pause while you gather your thoughts and emotions.

Make eye contact with your audience. They’re not there to judge you.  They’ll be supporting you the whole time and will enjoy what you have to share about your brother’s life.

Print the eulogy:

• with page numbers on the bottom – this will help if they get mixed up
• in a large font so it’s easy to read and someone can take over if you’re too overcome by emotion
• and keep the pages flat so they sit neatly on the lectern.

We wish you well and hope you find the right words to capture how you feel about your brother.

Planning your brother’s memorial

Writing a eulogy for your brother can be a deeply emotional task. To make the process a bit easier, consider planning some aspects in advance. Pre-paid funerals can relieve the financial burden during such a difficult time, allowing you to focus on honoring your brother’s memory.

Additionally, selecting meaningful funeral urns is an important part of the ceremony. Choose one that reflects your brother’s personality and the love you shared. These details help create a heartfelt and memorable farewell.

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To help you craft a eulogy that will remember your brother with love, warmth and respect, download a copy of our Eulogy Workbook with a sample eulogy of what you could write.

Tribute To Late Brother

Losing a brother is one of the most difficult things someone can experience and can be absolutely devastating. Writing and reading a heartfelt tribute to your late brother at his funeral or memorial service, provides those attending the funeral with memories that make your late brother special to you.  A good tribute to your brother will hopefully help provide you with some closure to his death.

The best eulogies or tributes are written from the heart and include personal stories and memories. The sample eulogies for your late brother below should be used as a guide. Remember that these are samples and you will want the eulogy written in your own style, with your thoughts, emotions and stories about your deceased brother.

Sample Tributes / Eulogies To Late Brother

You were my brother and my best friend. I will always love you, no matter how long its been since your life came to an end. I love you brother

The night that you decided to leave and to no longer believe I know you weren’t afraid anymore of who would be waiting for you at the door

I finally saw your last letter I was hoping it would make me feel better instead I miss you more and your last words made me swore it made me wish you weren’t gone because I don’t know for how long I can stay strong

It’s been 2 weeks I lost you brother it’s been 2 weeks I lost my other I wish you had given me the chance to take one last glance at you face filled with love before you fly away like a dove

Rest in peace brother I hope you will no longer suffer I will be waiting for you in my dreams to re-live all those beautiful memories.

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27+ Best Funeral Poems For Brother

If you are grieving the loss of a brother, we hope you find comfort in our collection of 21+ best funeral poems for brother.

Our poems would be perfect to use as a reading at a funeral service, memorial service, or a celebration of life ceremony, as a tribute to a brother who has passed away.  Alternatively, one of our poems about brothers can be incorporated into a eulogy speech, or written in a sympathy card.

Our collection of funeral poems for a brother is organized into the following sections to help you easily find the type of poem you are looking for:

• Inspirational Funeral Poems: Tribute to a Brother Who Passed Away
• Comforting Funeral Poems: RIP Brother
• “I Miss You” Poems (After the Death of a Brother
• Special Funeral Poems for Brother From Sister or From Brother)

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Inspirational Funeral Poems: Tribute to a Brother Who Passed Away

This first funeral poem reminds us that a brother is always with us, even after he has passed away.  Every beautiful thing that we see and experience will remind us of his love.  We will also accept all of life’s challenges because our brother wisely taught us that they help us grow stronger.

Your Spirit

By Tram-Tiara T. Von Reichenbach

I know that no matter what You will always be with me. When life separates us I’ll know it is only your soul Saying goodbye to your body But your spirit will be with me always. When I see a bird chirping on a nearby branch I will know it is you singing to me. When a butterfly brushes gently by me so care freely I will know it is you assuring me you are free from pain. When the gentle fragrance of a flower catches my attention I will know it is you reminding me To appreciate the simple things in life. When the sun shining through my window awakens me I will feel the warmth of your love. When I hear the rain pitter patter against my window sill I will hear your words of wisdom And will remember what you taught me so well’ That without rain trees cannot grow Without rain flowers cannot bloom Without life’s challenges I cannot grow strong. When I look out to the sea I will think of your endless love for your family. When I think of mountains, their majesty and magnificence I will think of your courage for your country. No matter where I am Your spirit will be beside me For I know that no matter what You will always be with me.

While losing a brother is painful, this funeral poem reminds us that although his journey on earth is over, his journey is just beginning…

His Journey’s Just Begun

By Ellen Brenneman

Don’t think of him as gone away his journey’s just begun, life holds so many facets this earth is only one. Just think of him as resting from the sorrows and the tears in a place of warmth and comfort where there are no days and years. Think how he must be wishing that we could know today how nothing but our sadness can really pass away. And think of him as living in the hearts of those he touched… for nothing loved is ever lost and he was loved so much.

This consoling funeral poem written by Mary Elizabeth Frye in the 1930s is one of the most famous funeral poems.  It is appropriate for all types of funeral services, from a traditional, religious funeral, to a less formal, celebration of life ceremony.

Do Not Stand By My Grave and Weep

By Mary Elizabeth Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep, I am not there, I do not sleep. I am in a thousand winds that blow, I am the softly falling snow. I am the gentle showers of rain, I am the fields of ripening grain. I am in the morning hush, I am in the graceful rush Of beautiful birds in circling flight, I am the starshine of the night. I am in the flowers that bloom, I am in a quiet room. I am in the birds that sing, I am in each lovely thing. Do not stand at my grave and cry, I am not there. I did not die.

This simple poem provides comfort to those grieving the loss of a brother.  It is written as if your brother is speaking directly to you.  The message is short and sweet: life goes on, and while it is natural to cry, don’t forget to be grateful as well.

Life Goes On

By Joyce Grenfell

If I should go before the rest of you Break not a flower Nor inscribe a stone Nor when I am gone Speak in a Sunday voice But be the usual selves That I have known

Weep if you must Parting is hell But life goes on So…sing as well

In our collection of brother poems, this one is a favourite.  We can weep inconsolably for a lost brother, but we can also celebrate the joy he brought to our lives.  This poem is perfect for a celebration of life service.

He is Gone (Remember Me)

By David Harkins

You can shed tears that he is gone, Or you can smile because he lived, You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back, Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.

Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him Or you can be full of the love that you shared, You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday, Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.

You can remember him and only that he is gone Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on, You can cry and close your mind be empty and turn your back, Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

This funeral poem is sweet and simple, and would be perfect for a young child to recite at a service for a beloved brother.

Love Lives On

By an Unknown Author

You went away so suddenly We did not say goodbye But brothers can never be parted Precious memories never die.

It gives us comfort to think of a brother who has passed away as enjoying a beautiful, garden-like dreamland after his passing. This touching tribute is filled with vivid imagery.

By Jenn Farrell

Somewhere in my dreams tonight I’ll see you standing there You look at me with a smile “Life isn’t always fair”

You say you were chosen for his garden His preciously hand picked bouquet “God really needed me, That’s why I couldn’t stay”

It’s said to be that angels Are sent from above I’ve always had my angel My brother – whose heart was filled with love

Wherever the ocean meets the sky There will be memories of you and I When I look up at the sky so blue All I see are visions of you “While there’s a heart in me, you’ll be a part of me.”

We  love this next funeral poem.  It eloquently conveys what our loved one would say to us after he is gone, if he could.  The death of a brother should not led us to be consumed by grief.  We should focus on how he enriched our lives.

Miss Me But Let Me Go

When I come to the end of the road And the sun has set for me, I want no rites in a gloom-filled room, Why cry for a soul set free!

Miss me a little – but not for long And not with your head bowed low. Remember the love that we once shared, Miss me, but let me go.

For this journey that we all must take And each must go alone; It’s all a part of the Master’s plan A step on the road to home.

When you are lonely and sick at heart Go to the friends we know, And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds. Miss me, but let me go.

Comforting Funeral Poems:  RIP Brother

This popular poem is appropriate for all types of funeral services for a dear brother, from a traditional, religious ceremony to a unique celebration of life gathering.  Our favourite line is: “In your memory I live on.”

Weep Not For Me

By an Unknown Author

Weep not for me though I have gone Into that gentle night Grieve if you will, but not for long Upon my soul’s sweet flight

I am at peace, my soul’s at rest There is no need for tears For with your love I was so blessed For all those many years

There is no pain, I suffer not The fear is now all gone Put now these things out of your thoughts In your memory I live on

Remember not my fight for breath Remember not the strife Please do not dwell upon my death But celebrate my life

If your brother suffered from an illness that left him in pain before his passing, this beautiful poem offers hope and comfort to friends and family.

His Peaceful Grave

Our brother lives with us in memory Before our eyes he grew weaker every day Doing all we could to save him Until God took him away Never shall his memory fade Our sweetest love lingers Forever round his peaceful grave.

This next funeral poem uses beautiful imagery to describe a lost brother’s journey to heaven.  It is comforting to think of our special brother being welcomed into heaven by adoring angels.

The White Chariot

By Julie Johnson

During your journey on your final flight home. White wings will carry you and you will be flown. To the pearly gates of Heaven, where they will usher you in. To the feet of your Lord, your Saviour, and your friend. He will hold you in his arms and the angels will sing. As another one of His children is delivered by white wings.

If your brother suffered from an illness or depression before he passed away, this beautiful funeral poem offers comfort to the bereaved.  He is now in God’s garden, a place where there is no pain, sadness, or suffering.

God’s Garden

By Melissa Shreve

God looked around his garden and found an empty place He then looked down upon the Earth and saw your tired face He put his arms around you and lifted you to rest With the help of his angels they flew you to your heavenly place

Gods garden must be beautiful, he always takes the best He knew you were suffering, he knew you were in pain He knew that you would never get well on Earth again

He saw the road was getting rough and the hills too hard to climb He closed your weary eyelids and whispered “Peace be Thine” It broke our hearts to lose you but you didn’t go alone For part of us went with you the day God called you home.

If your brother passed away too young, this is an appropriate funeral poem.  It focuses on celebrating and reflecting on the beautiful life of your brother, instead of focusing on the pain of his death.  “Perhaps my time seemed all too brief, don’t lengthen it now with undue grief.”

The Final Flight

Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m free, I’m following the path God laid for me. I took his hand when I heard his call, I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day, To laugh, to love, to work, to play. Tasks left undone must stay that way, I’ve found that peace at the end of the day.

If my parting has left a void, Then fill it with remembered joy. A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss, Ah, yes, these things too I will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow, I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow. My Life’s been full, I savoured much, Good friends, good times, a loved one’ touch.

Perhaps my time seemed all too brief, Don’t lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your heart and share with me, God wanted me now, He set me free.

This funeral poem was originally written for a sister.  Since the words are so touching and meaningful, we have modified it so that it applies to a brother’s death as well.

Sleep, My Brother (Modified)

By T. Hutchinson

I wish you sweet sleep, my brother dear. Although there’s so much that you’ve left bare I hate that you had to endure such pain On my mind, your saddened eyes have left a stain.

I want to know what crossed your mind Unspoken words you’ve left behind Undone things we’ll never do No sharing thoughts you never knew.

A peace has fallen upon your head A taste of sorrow we have been fed It really is like a hole in our lives One swiftly dug but carved out by knives.

But I have hope that those sleeping will rise The Bible says that God will open their eyes. No suffering, sickness, yes not even pain, Those who did good, eternal life they’ll gain.

So… sleep on my brother, sleep tight For now with you the sky is night. But after night will come daybreak Therefore I will wait hoping to see you awake.

This uplifting funeral poem is written in the voice of the person who has died.  He asks us to remember him with happiness, love and joy in our hearts.

I’d like the memory of me to be a happy one. I’d like to leave an after glow of smiles when life is done. I’d like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways, Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days. I’d like the tears of those who grieve, to dry before the sun of happy memories that I leave when life is done

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This comforting funeral poem inspires you to live your life fully in memory of a brother, as he will be watching over you until you meet again one day.

When I Must Leave You

By Helen Steiner Rice

When I must leave you For a little while- Please do not grieve And shed wild tears And hug your sorrow to you Through the years,

But start out bravely With a gallant smile; And for my sake And for my name Live on and do all things the same,

Feed not your loneliness On empty days, But fill each waking hour In useful ways,

Reach out your hand In comfort and in cheer And I in turn will comfort you And hold you near;

And never, never Be afraid to die For I am waiting for you in the sky!

This next gorgeous poem was submitted to us by an Love Lives On reader and we absolutely love it. It was written in memory of his first wife who passed away from Lupus but is applicable to anyone grieving the loss of a brother.

Last Journey

By Timothy Coote

There is a train at the station With a seat reserved just for me I’m excited about its destination As I’ve heard it sets you free

The trials and tribulations The pain and stress we breathe Don’t exist were I am going Only happiness I believe

I hope that you will be there To wish me on my way It’s not a journey you can join in It’s not your time today

There’ll be many destinations Some are happy, some are sad Each one a brief reminder Of the great times that we’ve had

Many friends I know are waiting Who took an earlier train To greet and reassure me That nothing has really changed

We’ll take the time together To catch up on the past To build a new beginning One that will always last

One day you’ll take your journey On the train just like me And i promise that I’ll be there At the station and you will see

That Life is just a journey Enriched by those you meet No one can take that from you It’s always yours to keep’

But now as no seat is vacant You will have to muddle through Make sure you fulfill your ambitions As you know I’ll be watching you

And if there’s an occasion To mention who you knew Speak kindly of that person As one day it will be you

Now i can’t except this ending And as it’s time for me to leave Please make haste to the reception To enjoy my drinks, they’re free!

“I Miss You” Poems (After the Death of a Brother)

The bond you share with a brother will always be special.  This beautiful poem is the perfect tribute to a brother who passed away.  He will live in your heart forever until you meet again one day.

Dear Brother Your Memory Will Never Fade

My dear Brother now that you are gone You’re no longer here to share The bond we had together – A bond of love and care. Yet, somehow something tells me You are watching over me – Now that from Worldly cares You finally are free. I miss you so very much, And my tears I cannot hide Yet, within my heart, I feel You are always by my side. Ever since you went away Life has never been the same Yet, it comforts me to know That one day we’ll meet again.

This poem speaks of all the wonderful attributes that makes your sibling special and says: “I miss you brother.”

Miss You Brother

Your actions were always kind A generous hand and an active mind Anxious to please and loath to offend A loving brother and faithful friend We’ll all miss you very much

This funeral poem speaks about the deep grief we fell when a loved one dies, and our resolve to keep his memories alive forever.

In Our Minds

We stand motionless, consumed in grief. Sorrow has arrived, with smiles thief.

We’re gathered here, to mourn and cry. Our questions pointing, at the clear blue sky.

Why did you go, why did you leave, Life without you, is so hard to conceive.

Our hearts are damaged, and scarred severely. We shall miss you, much more than dearly.

For having you in our lives, we’ve all been blessed. But now the time has arrived, for you to rest.

We promise to cherish, our memories of you. You shall live in our minds, and all that we do.

We love this next poem.  It is simple, but says so much.  You could also use this poem as inspiration to pen your own original poem about the loss of a brother.

By Salena A. Hayes

I miss you, I miss the loud music coming from your room, I miss the warmth of knowing You’re just a call away, I miss the way we fought and played, I miss seeing your big bright smile, I miss getting kicked out of your room, I miss seeing you here and there, I miss cooking you breakfast lunch and dinner, I miss hearing you come in at night, I miss making you wear your seat belt, I miss holding your hand to pray, I miss your smell, I miss you with all my might, I miss the way we would fight, I miss my brother, I miss my friend, I miss you, I love you and that’s THE END!

Special Funeral Poems for Brother (From Sister or From Brother)

When a beloved brother passes away, let us think of him as watching over us forever.  This next poem expresses this sentiment eloquently.

It Will Never Be Goodbye…

If I should go tomorrow It would never be goodbye, For I have left my heart with you, So don’t you ever cry. The love that’s deep within me, Shall reach you from the stars, You’ll feel it from the heavens, And it will heal the scars.

The death of a brother leaves a whole in our hearts and in our lives.  We have not only lost a brother, we have lost our best friend.

My Beloved Brother

From day one all we did was fight, now all I do is fight back my tears. I wanted to do everything you did, because I wanted to be just like you. Now I sit here wondering what to do, because there’s no one to replace you.

I never did tell you all the things I felt, like how much I really did love you. I wish we could go back and start over again. I don’t want to be alone. I need my brother, I need my best friend.

When you think of me while your up in heaven, Think of how much you meant to me.

Its sad that you left without saying goodbye, But just remember we all love you as you began to fly.

You did so much for me, as I didn’t do much for you. I hope you will forgive me, for all the things I didn’t do

You were my brother and my best friend. I will always love you no matter how long its been, since your life came to an end.

This touching funeral poem is a beautiful tribute to a special brother and reflects on all the happy and wonderful memories you shared.  This poem is perfect for a memorial service or celebration of life ceremony.

In Memory of a Special Brother

Today is full of memories of a brother laid to rest and every single one of them is filled with happiness.

For you were someone special always such a joy to know and there was so much pain when it was time to let you go

That’s why this special message is sent to heaven above for the angels to take care of you and give you all my love

“Broken Chain” is a funeral poem that would be appropriate for a religious service.  This poem describes the passing of a loved one as a break in your family chain.  Although your family may feel broken after the passing of a brother, this poem reassures you that God will mend your family one day when you are all reunited in heaven.

The Broken Chain

By Ron Tranmer

We little knew the day that God was going to call your name. In life we loved you dearly, In death we do the same.

It broke our hearts to lose you But you didn’t go alone. For part of us went with you The day God called you home.

You left us peaceful memories. Your love is still our guide, And though we cannot see you You are always at our side.

Our family chain is broken and nothing seems the same, but as God calls us one by one the chain will link again.

When it comes to poems about brothers, this one is favourite.  It gives tribute to the richness of our relationship with our brother; we fought, we laughed, we cried together, and shared our hopes and dreams.

As kids, we lived together We fought, we laughed, we cried. We did not always show the love, that we both had inside. We shared our dreams and plans, and some secrets too. All the memories we share, Is what bonds me now to you. We grew to find we have a love that is very strong today. It’s a love shared by our family, that will never fade away. You are my brother not by choice, but by the nature of our birth I could not have chosen a better one you were the best on earth.

This is the perfect funeral poem for a special brother to honour the legacy he left behind and to thank him for the impact that he had on all the lives he touched.

In Memory of a Wonderful Brother

I hold onto our memories The ones that are so dear To try to keep you always close Now you are not here You were called, it was your time But it is so true You have left a legacy There was no one like you You were very special And I want to say I feel lost in many ways You are not here today But I will never forget you And I know I have been blessed To have you for my Brother Because you were the best…

This funeral poem honours the life of a little brother that passed away at a young age.  “To us you were so precious.”

Precious…

Two smiling eyes stopped smiling, A golden heart stood still, We don’t know why God took you, And guess we never will. He only lent you to us, Then came and took you back, To us you were so precious, Your life was full of fun, A caring, loving brother, A darling little son.

Here is another poem about a little brother’s death.  While he missed out on growing up, he didn’t miss out on having an abundance of love.

By Mary Yarnall

This was a life that had hardly begun No time to find your place in the sun No time to do all you could have done But we loved you enough for a lifetime

No time to enjoy the world and its wealth No time to take life down off the shelf No time to sing the song of yourself Though you had enough love for a lifetime

Those who live long endure sadness and tears But you’ll never suffer the sorrowing years No betrayal, no anger No hatred, no fear Just love – only love – in your lifetime

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My guardian, my guide, a brotherhood beyond words, 1. start with a meaningful opening, 2. share stories and anecdotes, 3. focus on his character and qualities, 4. offer gratitude and condolences, 5. end on a positive and heartfelt note, compassionate eulogy creation for revered spiritual mentors, weaving a tapestry of spiritual reverence and connection, stories of deep appreciation: client experiences, what makes a brother-sister bond unique, how can you start a tribute to your brother, what are some qualities that can be highlighted in a tribute, what kind of stories can be included in a tribute, how can you convey your brother’s personality through a tribute, what are some emotional aspects to consider while writing a tribute, can i include poems or quotes in the tribute, how can i end the tribute on a positive note, what is the ideal length for a tribute, how can a tribute help in the healing process, what should you avoid when writing a tribute, can you incorporate humour in the tribute, how can you make your tribute more personalized, how to handle the emotional overwhelm while writing the tribute, can the tribute be a collaboration, what kind of tone is appropriate for a tribute, how can you include audience engagement in your tribute, can you use visual aids during the tribute, what are some closing remarks ideas for the tribute, how can you encourage others to keep your brother's memory alive, sample tribute to a brother 2, sample tribute to a brother 3, eulogy assistant: celebrating spiritual legacy, sample tribute to a brother frequently asked questions.

In the woven tapestry of life, sometimes, we are fortunate to have a thread that shines brightly, adding texture, hue, and a depth of richness that would otherwise be missing. In the tapestry of my life, that shining thread was my brother, a beacon of light, a pillar of strength, and a constant source of joy and inspiration.

From our childhood days of scraped knees and backyard adventures to navigating the complexities of adulthood, he has been my guardian, my guide, my confidant, and my greatest cheerleader. His laughter was infectious, a melody that played the sweetest symphony in my heart. With him, I have shared countless memories, a myriad of emotions, and a lifetime of secrets and dreams.

Growing up, he was the mastermind behind our grand adventures, the brave captain steering our makeshift ship through the stormy seas of our backyard. His imagination knew no bounds, a vast landscape where dragons flew, and knights fought valiantly. In that magical world, I was not just a sibling but a comrade, a fellow explorer in the grand adventure that was our childhood.

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As we grew, so did the depth and complexity of our bond. He was the first to encourage me to chase after my dreams, no matter how wild and unreachable they seemed. With a heart as vast as the ocean, he loved deeply, cared sincerely, and lived with an unwavering zest for life.

He was a remarkable individual, a beacon of light in a sometimes dark world. His resilience in the face of challenges, his kindness even in adversity, spoke volumes about the depth of his character. He was not just a brother but a mentor, a guiding light that showed me the way, time and time again.

But even the brightest stars, sometimes falter, and we found ourselves grappling with the cruel hands of fate. Through trials and tribulations, he bore his burdens with grace, a silent warrior fighting his battles with a smile on his face. In those moments, I saw not just a brother but a hero, a beacon of strength and courage, a testament to the indomitable human spirit.

And now, as I stand here, grappling with the void that his absence has left, I find solace in the memories, in the laughter, in the tears, and in the countless moments of joy and happiness that we shared. I remember his wisdom, his kindness, his unwavering belief in the goodness of people.

In his honor, I vow to live with the same zest for life, to love deeply, to care sincerely, and to forge ahead, with the same resilience and strength that he exhibited throughout his life. As I bid him farewell, I take solace in the knowledge that his spirit lives on, in the people he loved, in the lives he touched, and in the beautiful tapestry of memories that we created together.

As I look up at the night sky, I know that among the twinkling stars, there is one that shines a little brighter, a beacon of love, of joy, and of the beautiful journey that we embarked upon as siblings. In my heart, he will forever be my guardian, my guide, my confidant, and my dearest brother.

In the silent corridors of time, where memories echo with a resonance that transcends the earthly plane, I find myself immersed in the love, the camaraderie, and the beautiful bond that I shared with my brother. A bond that was not just of blood but of soul, of shared dreams, and of a journey that spanned the sands of time.

Growing up, he was my rock, a constant presence in a world that was ever-changing. In his company, I found solace, a sanctuary of love and understanding, where I could be myself without fear of judgment. His wisdom was a guiding light, illuminating the path of life with its gentle glow.

His love was an ocean, deep and boundless, encompassing all with its warm embrace. In his eyes, I saw the reflection of my own soul, a mirror that reflected the best parts of me, encouraging me to aspire, to grow, and to become the best version of myself.

He was a maestro of life, orchestrating moments of joy and happiness with a grace that was truly awe-inspiring. His zest for life was infectious, encouraging all who knew him to live with a passion, a fervor, and a joy that was truly remarkable.

In the canvas of life, he painted with bold strokes, creating a masterpiece that was vibrant, colorful, and full of life. His spirit danced with the rhythm of the cosmos, a celestial dance that resonated with the harmony of the universe.

But life, in its infinite wisdom, sometimes takes away the brightest stars, leaving behind a void that is deep and profound. As I grapple with the loss, I find myself seeking solace in the memories, in the love, and in the beautiful journey that we embarked upon as siblings.

In the silence of the night, I feel his presence, a gentle whisper in the wind, a comforting embrace in the warmth of the sun. His spirit lives on, in the hearts of those he loved, in the lives he touched, and in the beautiful legacy that he leaves behind.

As I bid him farewell, I take comfort in the knowledge that love transcends the boundaries of time and space, that bonds

From the moment we were born just a few years apart, my brother [Name] was my constant companion, my partner in mischief, and my best friend. Today, as we gather to celebrate his life, I want to share with you some of the cherished memories and the undeniable impact that [Name] had on all of us.

Growing up, [Name] was always the life of the party. He had an infectious smile and an unmatched sense of humour that could lighten any mood. I remember the time when we were teenagers and he managed to convince our parents that he got a tattoo in the shape of a dragon. The look on their faces was priceless, only for them to find out it was a temporary tattoo – a testament to [Name]'s unmatched prankster abilities.

But beyond his jovial nature, [Name] was a true inspiration. His unwavering determination led him to excel in both his academics and athletics, teaching me the importance of perseverance and hard work. Yet, his accomplishments never overshadowed his humility and kindness – always ready to lend a helping hand, whether it was volunteering at a homeless shelter or coaching the local youth soccer team.

As we say our final goodbyes to my beloved brother [Name], I am comforted knowing that his spirit and values will continue to live on through each of us. Though we will miss him dearly, we should cherish the memories we shared with him and strive to honour his life by spreading the same love and kindness he exuded.

In the sample tribute, there are some key elements you may want to consider when writing a eulogy for your brother:

Begin your eulogy with a line or two that captures your brother's essence and establishes an emotional connection with the audience.

Reflecting on cherished memories can make your eulogy more engaging and heartfelt. Share personal stories and funny anecdotes that capture your brother's personality and the bond you shared.

Highlight the traits that made your brother unique, such as his kindness, sense of humour, or perseverance. Provide specific examples of how these qualities made an impact on those who knew him.

Acknowledge the support and love from friends and family members during this difficult time. You can also express your sympathy to others who are mourning your brother's passing.

Close your eulogy with words of comfort, hope, or inspiration to leave a lasting impression on the audience.

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The bond between siblings, particularly between brothers and sisters, is deeply rooted in shared experiences and a deep understanding of each other. Growing up together allows siblings to foster a connection that is often built on love, trust, and mutual respect. This bond is unique because it blends the elements of friendship and familial love, creating a connection that is truly special and irreplaceable.

Beginning a tribute to your brother can be initiated by recalling cherished memories, his defining qualities, or the lessons he imparted on you. You may start with a memorable anecdote or a vivid memory that encapsulates his spirit and personality. It’s essential to speak from the heart and allow your genuine feelings to guide your words.

When writing a tribute, you can highlight qualities such as kindness, bravery, humor, wisdom, or resilience. Reflect on the moments that exemplify these traits in your brother. It’s a beautiful opportunity to celebrate his life by showcasing the qualities that made him a remarkable person.

Stories included in a tribute can range from childhood memories, adventures shared, challenges overcome together, or moments that depict his kindness, courage, or strength. These narratives not only paint a vivid picture of his personality but also create a heartfelt and moving tribute.

To convey your brother’s personality through a tribute, focus on sharing anecdotes or stories that showcase his characteristics vividly. Describe his laughter, the way he approached challenges, or how he interacted with family and friends. Including specific details will help to paint a more comprehensive and touching picture of who he was.

While writing a tribute, consider exploring the depth of your relationship, the grief of loss, and the joy of having him in your life. It is also a time to express gratitude for the time spent together and the impact he had on your life. Remember to balance the sorrow with moments of joy and happiness that you shared.

Yes, including poems or quotes that resonate with your feelings can add depth and a poetic touch to the tribute. Choose words that align with his personality and the bond that you shared. They can serve as beautiful interludes or closing remarks within your tribute.

To end the tribute on a positive note, focus on celebrating his life and the beautiful memories you created together. You might choose to share a hopeful quote, a spiritual belief about the afterlife, or express the everlasting connection that you will continue to have with him.

The ideal length for a tribute can vary, but it should be comprehensive enough to encapsulate his life beautifully and the bond you shared. It can be a reflection of heartfelt sentiments, cherished memories, and a celebration of his life, irrespective of the word count.

A tribute can be a therapeutic way to navigate the journey of grief. It allows you to express your feelings, reminisce about the beautiful moments shared, and find closure. It can be a step towards healing, as it is a celebration of his life and an acknowledgment of the deep bond that you shared.

When writing a tribute, try to avoid focusing too much on the sorrow of loss. While it's natural to express grief, try to balance it with joyful memories and positive aspects of your brother's life. Also, avoid mentioning any controversial or negative incidents that might not be appropriate for the occasion.

Absolutely, incorporating humor, especially if it was a defining characteristic of your brother, can make the tribute more personal and relatable. Sharing funny anecdotes or light-hearted moments can bring a smile to the faces of those listening, celebrating his sense of humor and joyful moments.

To personalize your tribute, include specific memories, stories, or characteristics that were unique to your brother. Mention personal nicknames, shared family jokes, or particular habits that will resonate with others who knew him well. Personal touches make the tribute more heartfelt and genuine.

It's completely normal to feel emotionally overwhelmed while writing a tribute. Take breaks when needed, and don't hesitate to seek support from close family or friends. Remember, it's a process of healing and celebrating your brother's life. It's okay to take your time to gather your thoughts and emotions.

Yes, a tribute can certainly be a collaboration. Including insights, memories, and stories from other family members or friends can offer a more rounded view of your brother's life. It can be a beautiful way to bring people together in remembrance and celebration of his life.

While the tone of a tribute can vary based on the personality of the individual being remembered, a balance between reverence and celebration is generally appropriate. You want to honor his life respectfully while also highlighting the joyous moments and his positive attributes.

To engage the audience, you might ask them to reflect on their own fond memories of your brother. Including questions for reflection, or inviting others to share their stories either during or after the tribute, can create a communal atmosphere of remembrance and respect.

Using visual aids, such as a slideshow of photographs or videos, can be a touching addition to your tribute. Visual elements can help to illustrate the stories you're telling and provide a vivid walk down memory lane, helping to paint a fuller picture of your brother's life.

Closing remarks can include a heartfelt thank you to the attendees, a final personal reflection, or a closing quote or poem that encapsulates your feelings. It might also be a time to express hope and peace for the journey ahead, emphasizing the everlasting love and bond that you share with your brother.

Encouraging others to keep your brother's memory alive can be done by suggesting ways to commemorate him, perhaps through charitable acts in his name, annual gatherings, or creating a memorial space. Inspire others to remember him by sharing stories, pictures, and keeping his spirit alive through acts of kindness and love.

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Johnny and Matthew Gaudreau's Pregnant Widows Promise to Honor Each Other's Husbands 'Hand in Hand' at Funeral

Johnny and Matthew Gaudreau were killed by an alleged drunk driver who crashed into them while riding bicycles the night before their sister's wedding

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At an emotional ceremony on Monday, Johnny and Matthew Gaudreau ’s widows both shared tearful tributes to their late husbands and vowed support for each other and their children.

Johnny, the 31-year-old NHL star, and his brother Matthew, 29, were killed on Aug. 29 when an alleged drunk driver crashed into them while riding their bikes along in Oldmans Township, New Jersey the night before their sister Katie’s wedding.

Both brothers’ wives — Johnny’s widow Meredith Gaudreau, and Matthew’s widow Madeline Gaudreau — are pregnant . 

Near the end of her speech at St. Mary Magdalen Catholic Church in Media, Penn., Madeline turned to Meredith and addressed her sister-in-law directly: “Meredith, I am so sorry that we will forever share this bond,” Madeline said. “The boys could not have picked stronger women as wives and mothers of their children.”

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Madeline continued: “There is one person in this world that knows the exact feeling I am feeling, and that is you, and for that I am sorry. The loss of a husband, a father, our comfort. I promise I will always be there for you and the kids and that we will honor the lives of our husbands together, hand in hand, alongside their family and friends.”

Madeline is pregnant with her and Matthew’s first baby, Tripp, while Meredith announced at the memorial service Monday that she is nine weeks pregnant with her and Johnny’s third baby together. 

Meredith and Johnny welcomed their second child, baby Johnny, in February. They also share daughter Noa, who turns 2 in October. During her speech, Meredith said “there aren’t even words that could touch on how to describe my love for John.” “He didn’t have a bad bone in his body,” the late Columbus Blue Jackets star’s widow said, adding, “I strive to be more like him. He did everything he was supposed to, and he did everything right.”

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During her speech, Madeline said, “this last week has felt like I’ve been trapped in a nightmare I can’t wake up from.” 

“I feel numb, angry, sad, and blessed all at once,” Matthew’s widow said. “Some days the thought of this new reality is debilitating, but mostly I just miss Matt.”

Both Meredith and Madeline recalled how they first met their husbands — Madeline and Matthew meeting through a mutual friend in Omaha, Neb., before doing four years long distance in college, while Johnny and Meredith first met when they became neighbors in 2018, falling in love almost immediately.

The widows both shared stories about how close Matthew and Johnny were, with Madeline noting how the Gaudreau brothers slept in the same bedroom together until college. 

“And neither of them wanted that to change,” she said, drawing laughs from the families, friends, teammates, and NHL officials in attendance.

“John took care of Matty, and Matty would take care of John,” Madeline said. “To know both of them was to truly love them. It was impossible not to fall in love with them. Meredith said it best, you do not hear one name without the other. They were so extremely proud of each other.”

Madeline also urged everyone to never drink and drive. “Call a ride,” Matthew’s widow said. “Please do not put another family through this torture.”

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Sean M. Higgins, the alleged drunk driver , had attempted to pass another car when he fatally hit the Gaudreau brothers, New Jersey State Police told PEOPLE last month. Higgins was arrested and charged with two counts of death by auto and arrested.

Johnny and Matthew were in town to serve as groomsmen for their sister Katie’s wedding , set to take place the next day, which has been postponed.

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Our printable free eulogy templates will help you to create the perfect funeral speech. Scroll down for the printouts.  

You’re asked to speak at a funeral and you have a short period of time to gather your thoughts and prepare your speech. Experiencing nervousness is completely normal, especially while you’re coping with grief and sorrow from the loss. It may feel like an overwhelming task. Which of the many details of their life do you include? How long should it be? What should you say?

Writing a eulogy doesn’t have to be scary. Even if you aren’t a writer or public speaker, using the guidelines below, you will be able to write and deliver a meaningful and heartfelt speech.  

Preparing to Write a Eulogy - Brainstorming

Begin by thinking of things you would be comfortable sharing about this person. The blank page is less intimidating if you start jotting down notes in each of the outline categories below. You won’t use every fact or memory, but will choose key pieces to include in the template. (Scroll down for ideas if the loss is of a child). 

Eulogy speech outline

• Thank everyone for coming.
• What was your relationship with the person? 
• What are some key topics you’d like to share about them? 

- Early life 

• Was he/she born elsewhere or somewhere special? 
• Is there anything interesting about their childhood and how it affected their life?  
• Education and work, marriage and children
• Did he/she have a mentionable education or career? 
• Jot down names of the family.

- Significant events and achievements, hobbies and service, beliefs and passions

• What stands out about them in these categories? 
• Significant events can be anything specific to them or their family, whether positive or negative. What are some events that made an impact on their life? 
• Achievements can be more than an award. Think of things that were important to them. Maybe he/she considered their children to be their biggest achievement. 
• Take a moment to think about what meant a lot to them, what did they value? 
• Write down several memories that come to mind when you think of this person. 
• To make a resonating speech bring it full circle at the end. That means, try refer back to something in the closing that you mentioned in the opening.  
• Lastly, thank everyone for coming to celebrate their life. 

“Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.” 

Shannon L. Alder

If the eulogy is for a child, some of the above sections may not be appropriate. Avoid anger and despair over the loss of a young life. Instead, focus on positive memories and stories that honour their memory. Consider the following points in your brainstorming:

• Write your thoughts on how the death of a child affects those around them.
• What made the child special to you? 
• Was there a favorite book or poem or song that you can share? 
• What were the child’s favorite things? 
• What’s your favorite memory of them? 

If you get stuck brainstorming or populating the template, you have options. You can ask family or friends to provide details or recall stories about the deceased. If you have access to photo albums, see what memories start to surface as you flip through. Don’t forget social media accounts, reviewing a person’s profile, feed, and photos can give you insights into their lives. 

Review the facts and memories you’ve written down. It’s perfectly okay to insert bits of humour into the eulogy, but avoid anything inappropriate or embarrassing. As you’re reviewing your notes, cross out anything in poor humour or that you don’t want to include. Circle or highlight what you definitely want to keep.  

Now, take those ideas and pull it all together, into a template.

Example Eulogy Templates for Printing

Example Eulogy Template for an Adult     Click here for the downloadable PDF.

OPENING 

I’d like to begin by thanking everyone for coming to celebrate ________’s (name) life.   ________ (name) was the most ________(adjective) person I’ve ever known and I know many of you would agree. He/She ________ (include a bit of information about the deceased here, perhaps a memory).

EARLY LIFE 

_________ (name) was born on ________ (birthdate) in _______ (city). He/She was the 

______ (first, second, only) child of ________ (father) and ________ (mother). His/her sisters and brothers are ________, ________, and ________ (add more or less as needed). His/her childhood was ________ (include a bit of information about the deceased here, perhaps a memory or a humorous story about the siblings).

EDUCATION AND WORK 

_________ (name) went to _______ (name of schools) and graduated with ________ (name of degree or training). He/She spent most of her career at ________ (name of company) as a _______ (name of position). He/She ________ (include a bit of information about the deceased here, perhaps a memory. What was his/her work ethic? Did he/she enjoy the work?).

MARRIAGE AND CHILDREN

In ______ (year) ________ (name) met _______ (spouse) and they were married in_____ (year). They had ___ (number) children: _______, _______, and _______ (names of children). Last year, ______ (name) and _______ (spouse) celebrated their _____ (number) wedding anniversary. He/She ________ (include additional information about the family, perhaps a funny or sweet memory).

SIGNIFICANT EVENTS AND ACHIEVEMENTS

In ______ (year), ______ (name) received the award of ______ (award). This award was meaningful to him/her because ______ (reason). He/She ________ (include additional information available, if it’s significant).

HOBBIES AND SERVICE / BELIEFS AND PASSIONS

______ (name) was active in the ________ (church, community, volunteer, etc). He/She spent many hours doing _______ (activity) and was known for ________ (descriptor). ______ (name) was passionate about ______ (passion). He/She ________ (include additional comments or memories about their extra-curricular activities).

My favorite memory of ______ (name) is that time when ______ (memory). (try to tie this memory back to their character – how the deceased was as a person).

The world is a sadder place without ______ (name) in our lives. But ______ (name) touched each and every one of us and has left us with memories we will cherish forever. Thank you.

Eulogy Template for a Child    Click here for the downloadable PDF.

I’d like to begin by thanking everyone for coming to celebrate ________’s (name) life.   ________ (name) was the most ________(adjective) child I’ve ever known. He/She ________ (include a bit of information about the child here, perhaps a memory).

______ (first, second, only) child of ________ (father) and ________ (mother). His/her sisters and brothers are ________, ________, and ________ (add more or less as needed). His/her childhood was ________ (include a bit of information about the child here, perhaps a memory or a humorous story about the siblings).

MEMORIES AND STORIES

My favorite memory of ______ (name) is that time when ______ (memory). (Use this section to share the memories and stories about the child. Share their favorite things, their relationships with friends and family, what made them laugh.

CLOSING (an appropriate poem, perhaps the child’s favorite)

“Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they’re happy.” - Eskimo Proverb

Tips on Speaking the Eulogy

• Read the eulogy out loud several times and if you trip on any words, consider editing to make it easier to read next time. 
• Practice several times each day leading up to the event, it will prepare you for the tougher parts of the eulogy. Practice in front of the mirror. Practice in front of family or friends. Practice while standing up, as if you were at the service. Practice looking at the audience and referring to your note cards. 
• Time yourself to ensure you are around your target: no more than 5-10 minutes. 
• Your speech doesn’t have to be memorized, but the more you practice the less you’ll need to read and the more natural you will sound. You may feel comfortable switching to notecards with bullet points or you may prefer to keep to the script. Do what feels best.   
• You may fear being overly emotional or breaking down. Showing your emotion is perfectly normal. Focusing on the words on the page will help you maintain your composure.
• No matter how you choose to prepare, the most important thing is to give the best speech you can give; a speech from the heart.   

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Johnny Gaudreau's widow Meredith gives emotional tribute at funeral for NHL star and his brother Matthew after fatal accident

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Published: 17:22 BST, 9 September 2024 | Updated: 21:47 BST, 9 September 2024

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Family and NHL fans gathered to remember Johnny and Matthew Gaudreau at their funeral Monday afternoon after the brothers were tragically killed by an alleged drunk driver while riding their bikes in New Jersey. 

Mourners packed into St. Mary Magdalen Catholic Church in Media, Pennsylvania  for the service, which took place less than two weeks after the fatal accident. A private viewing was held on Sunday.

The brothers' widows grave tearful tributes to their husbands on Monday, recalling the close bond they shared as siblings and their dedication to family. 

Johnny's wife, Meredith Gaudreau, also revealed that she is pregnant with their third child .

'I still feel like the luckiest girl in the world to be his wife,' Meredith said during a heartbreaking speech. 'He was and still is my soulmate.'

Matthew's wife, Madeline Gaudreau, who is pregnant with their child, recalled how the brothers 'were attached at the hip.'

'John would take care of Matty, and Matty would take care of John... You did not hear one name without the other,' she said.

Mourners packed into St. Mary Magdalen Catholic Church in Media, Pennsylvania for the service on Monday

Family and NHL fans gathered at a funeral Monday afternoon for Johnny and Matthrew Gaudreau after they were tragically killed in a bike collision on Thursday, August 29 

'I still feel like the luckiest girl in the world to be his wife,' Johnny's wife, Meredith Gaudreau, said during a tearful speech. 'He was and still is my soulmate'

Madeline described Matthew as her 'safe place,' adding that 'the 14 years we spent together will never be enough.'

She also warned any would-be drunk drivers: 'Please do not put another family through this torture.'

Meredith described Johnny, who played for the NHL's Columbus Blue Jackets and Calgary Flames, as 'the most humble person I've ever met.'

'Every day I strived to be more like him,' she said. 'He made me a better person, and for that I'll be forever grateful.'

Loved ones and dedicated fans started gathering at the church more than two hours before the service began. 

Members of the Columbus Blue Jackets, NHL Commissioner Gary Bettman, former Boston College coach Jerry York, and countless members of the hockey community were among those in attendance. 

Matthew and Johnny lost their lives in a bike collision on August 29, the night before their sister Katie was supposed to get married.

Sean Higgins, 43, an alleged drunk driver accused of killing the siblings, was charged with two counts of death by auto after careening into them as they cycled along a highway in Salem County, New Jersey . 

Matthew's wife, Madeline Gaudreau, who is pregnant with their child, recalled how the brothers 'were attached at the hip'

Johnathan and Matthew's mother, father and two sisters entering the service 

Guy Gaudreau looks into a hearse containing the remains of his son Columbus Blue Jackets hockey player John after the funeral 

The fatal crash happened less than three miles from the Gaudreau family home, the night before Johnny, 31, and Matthew, 29, were to serve as groomsmen in their sister Katie's wedding, which has since been postponed, DailyMail.com has learned. 

Matthew and Johnny Gaudreau's sister Katie recalls 'split second' she found out her brothers died

Higgins appeared virtually at his first pretrial hearing on Thursday. The judge in this case postponed the hearing to September 13 to allow attorneys more time to prepare themselves. 

The 43-year-old is being held in a jail in Salem County, New Jersey and has been charged with two counts of death by auto as well as reckless driving, possession of an open container, and consuming alcohol in a motor vehicle.

Attorneys Matthew Portella and Richard Klineburger III, who Higgins had hired, said in a statement, 'This is a tragedy involving a great deal of emotion and impacting many individuals. It is too early in the stages of the legal process to make any out of court statements.'

John's casket was carried into the church on Monday 

Matthew's casket was carried into the church

Matthew's wife, Madeline, who is expected to give birth to their son Tripp in December, enters the church 

Fans as well as current and former players paid tribute to the brothers in candlelight vigils held in both Columbus, Ohio and Calgary, Alberta, Canada on Wednesday night.

Sean Higgins, 43, an alleged drunk driver accused of killing the siblings, was charged with two counts of death by auto after careening into them as they cycled along a highway in Salem County

Outside Nationwide Arena in Columbus, there was a 13-minute, 21 second silent remembrance of the two brothers - with 13 and 21 being Johnny and Matthew's playing numbers respectively.

A slideshow played photos of the siblings throughout childhood, their teenage years and into college hockey, the pros, marriages, baptisms, and much more throughout their lives.

Outside the Scotiabank Saddledome in Calgary, bagpipes played as thousands turned out to commemorate Johnny, whom the Flames selected 104th overall in the 2011 NHL draft.

Johnny leaves behind his wife Meredith, whom he married in September 2021, and two young children; one-year-old daughter Noa and baby boy Johnny - born just six months ago.

NHL Commissioner Gary Bettman (center) is seen outside the church before the service 

Meredith is seen holding her daughter and son as she enters the church 

Columbus Blue Jackets defenseman Erik Gudbranson and his wife Sarah are seen at the funeral 

NHL players, including Seth Jones, Cole Caufield and Connor Murphy arrive at St. Mary Magdalen Parish

Matthew, meanwhile, leaves behind his wife, Madeline, just over three years after their wedding in New Jersey. Madeline is expected to give birth to their son, Tripp, in late December.

A GoFundMe page was created to help support the widow and her future son. As of Monday afternoon, more than $647,000 was raised. 

Lewis Gross, the agent of the two brothers, said on Thursday that it had taken him some time to write about what it meant to him to represent the brothers for the past 15 years.

'The hockey might be over, but my commitment to John and Matt will last throughout my life,' Gross wrote on social media. 'These boys taught me so much. They taught me what family really means.'

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Everything You Need to Know About Giving a Brother of the Bride Speech

• Author: Natali Grace Levine
• Reading time: 7 min 41 sec
• Publication date: 09/09/2024
• Updated: 09/09/2024

How to Write a Brother of the Bride's Wedding Speech

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Stepping up to the microphone as the brother of the bride comes with its own unique set of emotions. Pride, joy, a touch of nervousness—it's a significant moment where you get to share your thoughts and feelings about your sister's big day. Whether you're a seasoned speaker or a novice at public addresses, crafting a speech that captures the essence of your relationship and the joy of the occasion is crucial. In this guide, we'll walk you through everything you need to know to deliver a memorable and heartfelt brother-of-the-bride speech. Let’s dive into creating a speech that not only honors your sister but also resonates with every guest in the room!

Creating a memorable wedding speech as the brother of the bride means weaving together emotion, humor, and personal touches that celebrate your sister’s big day. Here’s a detailed guide on crafting a speech that will resonate with the audience and make the day even more special for your sister:

• Open with Heart: Begin your speech with a warm welcome to all the guests, expressing your happiness on this joyful occasion. It's always a good move to start with something light-hearted or a gentle joke to ease yourself into the speech and capture the audience’s attention.
• Express Gratitude: Acknowledge the people who played significant roles in making the day possible. Thank the parents, the other members of the wedding party, and specifically mention any family or friends who have traveled a long way to be part of the ceremony.
• Reflect on Shared Memories: Share anecdotes that illustrate your relationship with your sister. These can range from humorous childhood memories to poignant moments that highlight her qualities. The key is to pick stories that not only entertain but also show her character and the bonds you share.
• Compliment Her Qualities: Speak to your sister's unique traits and achievements. Whether she’s incredibly creative, fiercely independent, or the most caring person you know, let these qualities shine through your words. This not only personalizes the speech but also lets the audience see her through your eyes.
• Welcome the Spouse: Make a point to formally welcome the bridegroom into your family. Discuss your positive impressions of them, your initial meeting, and the qualities that make them a perfect match for your sister. It's important to strike a balance between celebrating your sister and acknowledging her partner's role in her life and happiness.
• Share Wisdom: If it feels appropriate, offer some light-hearted or sincere advice to the couple. Drawing from your own experiences or even quoting advice from beloved family members or cultural wisdom can add depth to your message.
• Conclude with a Toast: End with heartfelt wishes for the couple’s future. Raise a toast to their health, happiness, and a lifetime of love. Make sure your closing lines are hopeful and uplifting, leaving both the couple and the guests feeling positive and moved.
• Practice Makes Perfect: Practice your speech several times. This helps you manage any nerves and ensures that you deliver it smoothly on the day. It also allows you to fine-tune timing and pacing, ensuring your delivery feels natural and engaging.
• Stay True to Yourself: While it’s great to draw inspiration from other speeches, make sure your speech feels true to who you are. Your sister will appreciate the authenticity and personal touch, making the speech memorable for all the right reasons.

By following these steps, you'll be able to craft a speech that not only honors the occasion but also deeply touches your sister and all the guests, creating a memorable moment during the wedding celebration.

When it comes to delivering a memorable speech as the brother of the bride, having a few examples can be incredibly helpful. The tone and content of your speech can vary greatly depending on your relationship with your sister, the style of the wedding, and your personal comfort with public speaking. Below, you’ll find three diverse examples of brother of the bride speeches.

Funny Brother of the Bride Speech

"Ladies and gentlemen, grab a drink and settle in; you're about to enjoy the shortest fairy tale ever — once upon a time, I had to share my room with my sister, Sarah, and now, thankfully, that burden falls to Tom! But in all seriousness, I couldn’t be happier. From stealing my baseball caps to stealing my heart with her kindness, Sarah has been the best sister anyone could ask for. Tom, she’s all yours now, but no refunds or exchanges, please! Here's to a lifetime of love, laughter, and finding my hats in your closet instead of mine. Cheers!"

Short But Heartfelt Brother of the Bride Speech

"Good evening, everyone. As Sarah’s big brother, I’ve had the joy of watching her grow from a feisty little girl into the beautiful woman she is today. Sarah, you've always been my partner in crime, my confidant, and my friend. It fills my heart with joy to see you so happy with Tom. Tom, take good care of her; she's a gem. To my sister and her new husband, may your life together be filled with endless love and joy. Here's to new beginnings and unforgettable memories. Cheers!"

Formal Brother of the Bride Speech

"Ladies and gentlemen, I am honored to stand here today as the brother of the bride. On behalf of our family, I extend a heartfelt welcome to all of you and a special acknowledgment to Tom’s family, who we are delighted to join through this blessed union. Reflecting on the journey Sarah has made, from her early days filled with ambition to the wonderful, compassionate person standing before us, I am overwhelmed with pride. Sarah, your strength and grace inspire me daily. Tom, your integrity and passion are evident, and I am confident in the beautiful life you will build together. May your marriage be a beacon of love and stability in all seasons of life. To the bride and groom!"

When you’re standing up to speak at your sister’s wedding, the aim is to enhance the joy and celebration of the day. However, there are certain pitfalls you should avoid to ensure your speech contributes positively to the occasion. 

Inside Jokes and Obscure References

While it’s tempting to include personal jokes or references, remember that the audience is diverse, and not everyone will understand them. Avoid alienating guests with humor or anecdotes that are too specific to your family or friend group.

Mentioning Past Relationships

It might seem humorous to bring up past flings or relationships, but a wedding is a celebration of the couple’s future together. Bringing up past relationships can be uncomfortable, not just for the bride and groom, but also for the guests.

Inappropriate or Offensive Humor

Keep the content of your speech appropriate for all ages present at the wedding. Avoid any humor or stories that are off-color or offensive. Remember, what might be funny in a more private setting could be inappropriate at a wedding.

Rambling and Overly Long Speeches

Keep your speech concise and to the point. A long, rambling speech can lose the audience’s attention and detract from the flow of the wedding festivities. Aim for a speech that’s about 3-5 minutes long, as this is usually enough time to say what’s heartfelt and meaningful without dragging on.

Excessive Teasing

While light teasing can add a humorous touch to your speech, be cautious not to overdo it. Too much teasing can embarrass your sister and make the speech feel more like a roast than a tribute. Balance any teasing with genuine compliments and affection.

Overly Emotional Content

While it’s perfectly fine to show emotion, be mindful of not turning the speech into an overly emotional ordeal. Keep the tone balanced; it’s a celebration, after all. Share touching moments or tear-jerking memories sparingly and focus on celebrating this happy milestone.

Delivering a speech as the brother of the bride can feel like a daunting task, especially if you're not accustomed to public speaking. To help ease any anxiety and ensure you're well-prepared for this honorable role, we've compiled a list of frequently asked questions about giving a brother of the bride speech. 

Q1: How long should the brother of the bride speech be?

Aiming for a speech length of about 3-5 minutes is ideal. This duration is long enough to include a heartfelt tribute, a couple of memorable anecdotes, and well-wishes for the couple, without losing the attention of your audience. If your speech is engaging and well-paced, it will feel neither rushed nor drawn out.

Q2: Is it okay to read from a paper?

Absolutely, it's perfectly fine to read from a paper or note cards. Many people find that having a written copy helps them stay organized and calm during the speech. However, try to maintain eye contact with the audience as much as possible. Practicing your speech several times before the big day can help you become familiar enough with your text that you can look up from your notes frequently and engage with your audience.

Q3: What if I get emotional during the speech?

It’s completely natural to feel emotional while giving a speech at your sister’s wedding. If you find yourself getting choked up, take a moment to pause, take a deep breath, and compose yourself. The guests will understand—after all, it’s a significant moment for you as well. If you anticipate being very emotional, practice your speech more to get accustomed to saying the words out loud. This can help manage emotions on the day of the wedding.

Q4: Can I use quotes in my speech?

Including a meaningful quote can add a thoughtful touch to your speech. Whether it’s a famous saying, a line from a poem, or a piece of advice from a family member, make sure the quote enhances your message and fits seamlessly into your speech. Choose something that resonates with the sentiment you wish to convey and ensure it aligns with the tone of the rest of your delivery.

Q5: How do I make my speech memorable?

To make your speech memorable, focus on delivering it with sincerity and personal touch. Include specific anecdotes or qualities about your sister that highlight your unique relationship. You can also incorporate a meaningful quote, a brief poem, or a special message from other family members who couldn’t attend. Engaging with your audience through eye contact, expressive delivery, and genuine emotion will also help make your speech stand out.

Q6: What is the best way to end a speech?

The best way to end your speech is on a positive, uplifting note. You can do this by expressing your best wishes for the couple's future, proposing a toast, or sharing a hopeful or inspiring thought about love and marriage. Ensure your closing words reflect the joy and significance of the occasion, leaving both the couple and the guests feeling inspired and celebrated.

Q7: Is it appropriate to make references to the bride's childhood or family traditions?

Yes, referencing the bride's childhood or family traditions can add a rich, personal layer to your speech. These references can evoke nostalgia and offer the audience deeper insight into her background and the formative experiences that have shaped who she is today. However, ensure these references are shared with a tone of respect and affection, and are relatable enough so the broader audience can appreciate them.

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