A eulogy is a speech or reading that is given at a funeral. It tends to focus on remembering the deceased and their life and is usually given by a friend or family member.
Multiple eulogies or readings can be given at a funeral. Eulogies offer those grieving the chance to reflect on and remember their friend or loved one and pay tribute to their life.
Being asked to give a eulogy by the family of the deceased is an honor. But it’s also understandable to feel the pressure and be nervous about making you’re eulogy, and what you say, just right.
The eulogy is given by someone close to the deceased. It could be a very good friend or a family member.
Sometimes multiple eulogies are given and you see many people from across the deceaseds life paying tribute to them.
As a funeral is such a difficult time to the family of the deceased they may feel unable to give a funeral speech or resting themselves. In this instance they may request either another family member or a close friend to give reading.
A eulogy gives people who knew the deceased the chance to say goodbye and pay respect to their life. Often those close to whoever has passed away want the opportunity to remember and speak fondly of them.
The eulogy gives them that chance. The opportunity to say a few words about the deceaseds life, recount stories and generally remember them with the fondness and love they had during life.
It also allows for those attending the funeral and hearing the eulogy to remember the life of the passed. Maybe learn about them things they didn’t know and come away with a new understanding of the deceased.
Funerals are emotional for everyone involved. A well written eulogy can help to make sense of those emotions, provide some closure and chance to let go and maybe even bring some levity with happy memories to what is a very difficult time.
A eulogy should include whatever the person giving it wants to include. There are obvious areas you should avoid and certain things you shouldn’t say (see further down) but there is a freedom within a eulogy to talk about the deceased in the way you would like.
If you are writing a eulogy or funeral speech then you can approach it from the point of view of informing those in attendance about the life of the deceased. Making it mostly fact based. Or you might prefer to remember treasured memories or tell funny stories you have involving the deceased.
It can be as formal or informal as you like (unless the family specifically requests a certain style or tone) and include as much personal detail as you choose.
Whilst there aren’t any actual rules most eulogies are no more than 10 minutes, and usually less than 5 minutes. Longer than this might
Some funeral venues actually specify how long the entire funeral should be and so may even have a block of time marked for the eulogy. If that’s the case then the funeral director should be able to tell you how long you have and you can then plan your eulogy to fit that timeframe.
If you’re writing your eulogy and are worried about a word count then try not to. The timing is far more important than the number of words you say, mostly because the speed you make your speech will be a much bigger factor than the word count.
Writing a eulogy is a very individual task and what would work for one person may not for another. Each person who has passed away is unique. Those writing a eulogy for them will have interacted and had experiences of them that will be different to other people.
That’s why every eulogy is unique. It’s you’re memories and feelings about someone and what they meant to you.
There are some things that are usually part of a eulogy though. You may choose to include some or all of them:
A good way to plan and then write a eulogy can be followed with these steps:
You need to always keep in mind who you are delivering the eulogy to. Its easy to get swept up in the writing process. But remember that the eulogy isn’t for you, it’s for the people who are attending the funeral. That’s going to be close friends and family of the deceased.
So ask yourself as your writing and composing your eulogy whether they will appreciate and like what you’re saying. Is it appropriate for them? Will it upset them or bring a smile to their face?
There will be many people grieving. They will be sad, hurt, angry and more. Your words need to offer comfort or remind them of better times.
So always have the audience you are delivering the eulogy to in the back of your mind.
The tone of your eulogy is important. You need to make decision as to whether your eulogy will be somber or more uplifting. You might want your words to celebrate the life of the deceased and only remember the best times.
That might even be funny stories. Humor may seem taboo at a time like this but many people want to remember the good and happy moments rather than focus on the loss. So a eulogy with funny anecdotes or humor is acceptable.
A more traditional approach would be a reflection on their life and a serious, solemn tone. Both are used as eulogies and both can be fitting depending on the audience.
But you have to judge it right. Think of the audience again – are they likely to appreciate a more light hearted approach or will they find it inappropriate. You will have to be the judge of that.
It’s a good idea to write down notes as you begin to plan what you’re going to say. At first that might just be a mess of ideas but you can then start to arrange it into a proper eulogy and see it take shape.
Look at pictures, text messages, emails, letters etc. that you have from or to do with the deceased. Anything that helps you to remember them and the sort of person they were.
Triggering those memories and the times you spent with them will help you to capture their life and character. It will also help you to remember stories and anecdotes that you might want to include in the eulogy.
It can help to speak with close friends or family members of the deceased. They can help you to fill in any spaces or any blanks you have as well as offering a different insight to them.
You can ask them what their most treasured memory of the deceased is, memorable moments, heartwarming stories or song lyrics and poems that they especially liked.
This will help you to flesh out your eulogy and bring additional details you may have missed.
Think about the structure of the eulogy as well. This will be informed by the tone and type of eulogy you’ve decided to write.
If it’s going to biographical and a more factual timeline of the deceaseds life then that will be written in a very different way to something more sentimental and that focuses on personal stories and memories. Whichever type you go with it will still probably follow a familiar introduction, middle and end structure.
The introduction should begin with your relationship to and how you knew the deceased, as well as some basic information about them. The introduction may be the trickiest part as it’s difficult to begin something as personal and emotional as a eulogy.
The middle will make up the majority of the eulogy. This will be where you talk about memories you have of the deceased, what they meant to you and maybe tell some stories. Funny anecdotes are popular as are special moments that you shared.
Finally choose how you want to finish and sum up the deceased. You may find this the most difficult part as closing a eulogy or speech about someone special to you is incredibly difficult, as well as finding the right words. A heartfelt quote or poem/verse that has special meaning can often be a good way to end a eulogy.
Once you’ve finished it’s a good idea to take step away from a while. Coming back to something you’ve written after a break can help you to see it in a new light and spot things you may have missed.
If anything doesn’t read well or sound right then change those parts until you’re happy.
Writing a eulogy may be the hardest part but the actual delivery is likely to cause the most stress and fear. A lot of people find public speaking scary in any situation, but the pressure of speaking about a loved one after they have passed away is going to be substantial.
If you’re worried about delivering a eulogy then these few tips may help:
You don’t want to deliver a eulogy on the fly. Take time to practice it beforehand so you’re familiar with exactly what you’re going to say. Become familiar with the flow of the words and so comfortable with it you could almost recite it from memory.
This will also give you a chance to see how long it is and whether it’s overrun and you need to cut any out.
To get yourself ready for public speaking you could also practice in front of friends or family. That will help you with delivering to an audience and they can also give you tips about how it sounds and your delivery.
There are topics and things you should avoid mentioning in a eulogy:
This is a very basic template for a eulogy that you can use as a base for writing your own.
Introduction
Today we come together not to mourn but to celebrate the life of [name]. [name] was a truly outstanding individual, one I know we all loved more than we could ever say. He/she was the most selfless and kind person I had the pleasure of knowing, and as I look out and see the smiles and heads nodding I know that is the opinion of everyone who was lucky to know him/her.
[name] was born in [city] on [date of birth], the [1st/2nd/3rd] child of [mom and dad’s name]. They lived in [city] from [year] until [year] before moving to [city]. His/her childhood was (include some information you know about the deceased and their childhood – a story or memory you have).
Education and Work
[name] attended [name of schools] before graduating with [training qualification or name of degree]. They worked for [company name] as a [position name] before moving on to [names of companies or jobs]. He/She was (include some information about the deceased and their work life here. Did they enjoy their jobs, did they work hard etc).
Family and Marriage
In [year] [name] met the love of his/her life, [name of spouse], and in [year] they were married. They were blessed with [number] children – [names of children] who were the joy of their life. Only last year [name] and [spouse name] celebrated [number of years, eg 40] years together with a lovely wedding anniversary. He/she (include more information about the family of the deceased, maybe a romantic moment or funny story involving the family).
Hobbies and Passions
[name] was an important active member of the [community, church, volunteer, theatre etc]. It was his/her passion and they dedicated so much time to [hobby or service]. They were known by everyone for (include more information or memories about their hobbies and what they treasured most about it).
I have so many amazing memories of [name] and also reached out to friends and family for their favorites: (include a few of those memories that meant the most to you or were especially funny/memorable and that demonstrated what sort of a person the deceased was).
We were blessed to have had [name] as part of our lives and the world has become a much sadder, less vibrant place now they’ve gone. Although we will miss [name] terribly we should treasure those memories we have, never let them go and remember just how fortunate we were that [name] touched our lives.
If you’d like some examples of eulogies to inspire or help guide you in writing your own then the following eulogy example should give you an idea of what they are like:
Dad was the light of my life.
Even as a little girl, I remember him making me laugh so much I would nearly cry. He had a wicked sense of humour that rubbed off on anyone that was near him.
No one was upset around Dad for too long – although he did have his serious side, too, of course.
Dad grew up in the country, on a dairy farm a few hours from Melbourne called Toora and was surrounded by sheep, farm animals and beautiful landscape. But his love for the written word drew him to the ‘big smoke’ to study literature at Trinity College in Melbourne.
He said his passion came from his grandfather who used read endlessly to him.
Stories that even as an adult he loved dearly and would read to us when we were kids. His favourites were Moby Dick and Tom Sawyer.
My parents met at Trinity College and after graduating, decided to get married. Two years later I was born, followed by my brother Charlie a year after that.
Dad was always so caring and giving to us children. Even when we ran in and out of his office a million times interrupting his writing, Dad never got too angry.
He would usher us away with suggestions of how we could occupy ourselves—always with creative and new ideas.
Dad was also inspirational to us, with his passion for music. He loved most types, but his favourite was Neil Diamond.
On Sunday afternoons, we would gather in the lounge room and Dad would put on his ‘album of the week’.
He would pull Mum in his arms and dance around the room while we clapped hands and giggled—and then it was our turn.
Dad would grab us both and swing us up and around until we were sick with laughter and dizziness. The fun we had on those Sundays, I will never forget. Dad was a very clever man and could be introspective at times when there were serious decisions to be made.
He never made rash decisions, but thought long and hard before giving us advice—sound advice that has helped to shape my life profoundly.
He was always walking around saying that “life is too short to be hunched over a desk all your life, you must go out into the world and experience its beauty and learn its mysteries”.
Even as adults Dad inspired us, although we never really told him.
Every couple of months the family would receive invitations to one of his infamous week-ends away. He would find a mystery location—always near a river or the ocean, and send us directions at the last minute. We were prepared, as we had learnt years ago what the week-end would involve.
We would pack everything needed to go swimming, fishing, snorkelling, or if in the winter months bush walks and sightseeing – it was always a week-end of fun and activity.
Times that we all and especially the grandchildren will never forget. Dad: Your love, your patience, your understanding, your wisdom and your amazing sense of humour will live on inside us forever.
You have given us gifts that are more precious than anything in this world. Goodbye, Dad.
You will always live on in my heart.
Yes, you can and in some circumstances you should. For example if you have a genuine phobia of public speaking and couldn’t physically do it, or it would be a disaster, then it’s a good idea to explain this to the family. They will understand and ask someone else.
Also if you and the deceased didn’t get on or there was bad blood between you it might be inappropriate for you to give the eulogy. Families don’t know every detail of the deceaseds life so may be unaware of any animosity between the two of you.
So sometimes you aren’t a good fit for giving a eulogy and it’s better for you to explain to the family why so they can find someone else. Rather that than it being awkward or tuning the day for everyone involved.
Yes. Many eulogies are more light hearted or have focused on funny aspects of the life of the deceased. Funny anecdotes and stories are very common.
However you should always consider the family of the deceased and the audience your eulogy will be delivered to. Will they appreciate a funnier eulogy or will they expect something more traditional.
Yes. Emotions are expected when delivering a eulogy. Obviously you don’t want those emotions to overwhelm and stop you from being able to deliver it properly. But a few tears is absolutely fine.
Writing a eulogy is tough. There’s no getting around it. It’s emotional and difficult to find the right words.
But if you are struggling to write a eulogy then remember that those in attendance of the funeral won’t be expecting perfection. As long as you are speaking from the heart and are sincere that will shine through. They will appreciate your words and the effort you’ve taken to express how much the dreaded meant to you.
Sally Collins is a writer and the founder and owner of Sympathy Message Ideas. Her passion is to help others deal with grief and provide assistance with talking to those grieving. Learn more about Sally .
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Delivering a eulogy for a friend or family member is a wonderful way to participate in the funeral service. It is an opportunity to acknowledge the importance of the life lived, and to remind survivors of the memories and legacy left behind. Nearly any eulogy, if delivered with love and respect, can be considered a good one, and a funeral audience will be one of the most sympathetic and forgiving audiences you will ever find.
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A funeral is a very important occasion and those in attendance are very emotionally fragile. Preparing and delivering a eulogy can make those unaccustomed to writing and public speaking very anxious. Understandably, the eulogist wants to get things right. The most important thing to remember as you go through this process is to focus on the deceased, rather than your own nerves and concerns. If you can do that you will be able to write a heartfelt tribute that expresses your feelings about the life you are there to remember and honor. Here is a step-by-step guide to help you create and deliver a meaningful eulogy.
Step One- Share stories and memories One of the most wonderful and satisfying things we can do when we lose someone we love is to learn something new about that person from others. So whether you are preparing an obituary for someone you know intimately, or for a colleague, it’s a good idea to start out by gathering ideas and stories first. Set aside a couple of hours to share stories and talk about the deceased with family and friends. Write down stories and memorable sayings as you go along. Learning these stories will help bring to mind your memories of the deceased, and go a long way towards preparing your eulogy.
Step Two- Brainstorming and editing Brainstorming will be similar to your conversation with the family, only this time it’s just you. Write down any ideas that come to you about the deceased, whatever they happen to be. In this stage you don’t want to edit anything out. A small idea may lead to a great one, so just open up and allow any ideas to come out onto your paper. You’re looking for stories, perspectives, memories, music and food associated with that person; mental images about the life of the deceased. After you’ve brainstormed for an hour or so, step back and look at what you’ve got, along with the notes you took when talking with family and friends. Look for descriptive items that can paint a picture in the mind of the audience. Select the stories and images that stand out as being really representative of the personality of the deceased.
These themes ask a question. The question is answered by all the stories and memories you’ve collected. Other themes could be:
The themes are there if you look. Perhaps it’s:
If you have trouble coming up with a theme, take a look at the “Quotes,” “Readings,” “Scripture and Prayers” and other resources on this site for inspiration. Adding a quote or a reading to a eulogy can help organize your pieces and add another level and perspective to your piece, but don’t try to force your pieces together to fit the quote or reading. The honesty of the stories is more important that any theme, so if the important ideas don’t fit, choose a more loosely organized theme like:
You may find that more than one theme works best to present the material you have collected. That’s fine too. Your theme is important, but should be subordinate to your content. Ultimately, the overarching theme of any eulogy is simply “the life of this person was important to us.”
Step Four- Weave your eulogy together
Now is the time to put all you’ve got in order. Write the draft out just as you would say it. Use your normal conversational vocabulary and tone, and avoid fancy or unfamiliar language. Don’t feel compelled to turn your tribute into a poem. What is important is clearly expressing your thoughts. Trying to do that and rhyme at the same time can work at cross-purposes.
A funeral is not the time to ‘set the record straight’ on contentious or unresolved issues. That would be a help and comfort to no one. It is important to work through these issues, but not at the funeral. Your eulogy needs to be a kind and respectful tribute, and it can be honest in spirit without going into detail about shortcomings or attacking the deceased. If you feel that you cannot give your eulogy without announcing to the world that mother had a drinking problem, or that Uncle Rex was unfaithful to Aunt Betty, let someone else deliver it. Start out your eulogy with a statement of your theme; a quote or reading that illustrates your theme, or a story that does the same. Whatever your theme, think of it as an ‘argument’ that you ‘prove’ in the body of your eulogy. If your theme is a question, you will answer that question with various examples though your eulogy. Don’t be afraid of getting things exactly right at this stage, just get it all down, then take a break and come back to it with fresh eyes.
Step Five- Add and edit Does your eulogy make sense? Do your examples prove the point of your theme? Have you included the most important milestones in the person’s life? Have you included too many details? Would a quotation, a poem, or a prayer add something meaningful? Now is the time to make structural changes before you polish it all up. Think twice about anything that may be in questionable taste for a mixed audience, or may be too sensitive to discuss publicly. If you are in doubt about this, run it by someone you trust. Another important idea to keep in mind is that while the eulogy may mention many people including you, it needs to be focused on the deceased. If your eulogy mentions you more than the deceased there is a problem.
Step Six- Practice Once you are pleased with reading the eulogy over in your head, it’s time to read it aloud. Practice reading clearly and slowly; giving your audience enough time to hear and understand all your hard work. Practice and practice again. The more familiar you are with your piece, the easier it will be to catch yourself if you falter, to look up from your notes and engage with your audience, and to put feeling and emphasis into your speech. Time yourself to see if your piece is too long or too short. A good guide is about 15 minutes. If you go longer than 20 minutes, you may have overstepped your bounds. If your eulogy is shorter than 5 minutes, you may not have said enough.
Step Seven- When you deliver your eulogy, be sure to speak slowly and clearly. Make sure you have a copy of your eulogy written out in large enough type that you can read it easily. Keep a glass of water, a cough drop, and a handkerchief handy as well. If you falter, or are overcome with emotion, allow yourself to cry (no apologies are necessary) and resume reading when you can. Try to look at the audience at least occasionally, and at the family as much as you can. Feel free to gesture with your hands, but try not to fidget. If there is a microphone available, use it. Delivering a eulogy is a great honor. Friends and family will be forgiving of mistakes, and grateful to you for this gift. Throughout it all, remember that this is about the deceased, not about you. Most eulogies are prepared and delivered by people unaccustomed to writing and public speaking. Great oratory and profound insights are not expected, and are not even the point of a eulogy. What makes a great eulogy is a heartfelt message of love for the deceased, and stories reminding us of why we all share that love. If you deliver that message in a clear, straightforward manner, you will have succeeded.
Hrideep barot.
19. That’s how old I was when I was asked to deliver my first eulogy. It was for my grandfather who passed away due to old age. Since then, I have seen and given quite a few eulogies.
As a speaker, many people have asked me what would be the best way to deliver a eulogy. But I am often of little help here. The tips of delivering a eulogy are quite different from a public speech.
However, there are some guidelines on how to start and write a eulogy to help you frame your eulogy a little more authentically while offering some standard dos and don’ts.
Just remember, these are simply suggestions. The important thing to keep in mind is to speak from the heart out of respect for whoever it has passed. As long as your eulogy is authentic, you would have done well.
So, let’s get started…
I’m assuming you’re reading this because you have been asked to deliver a eulogy. But some of you might be here to simply understand what the heck a eulogy is. Let me explain that shortly.
A eulogy is a piece of writing or speech which is (usually) a tribute to someone who has recently passed away. They are usually delivered at funerals.
It’s not hard. But I have some people asking me this.
So, say it with me: yoo-luh-jee.
Share a personal story.
A eulogy is, for obvious reasons, a very personal speech. So it’s probably a good idea to add a personal story you of an incident have shared with the deceased.
A story within a eulogy can be anything as long as it’s genuine, of course. Usually, people include a cherished memory that they have shared with the loved one.
What the story entails depends on your personal experience. You can maybe talk about something that happened on a trip or a get-together. Don’t be afraid to include some delicate humor here as well (more on this later)!
One great way to add a personal story into your eulogy is to share some advice or learning that the deceased has passed on to you.
This keeps the story positive, personal and shows the impact that person had on you.
This happens rarely, but it still does happen. Some eulogy speakers end up talking for long mainly about themselves, forgetting that the whole point of the eulogy is to celebrate the one who has passed.
So try and keep the talk centered around the deceased.
Speaking of long talks, a eulogy should ideally be short and concise.
In most cases, a eulogy of about 2 to 5 minutes would do. It can even go up to 10 minutes but try and not exceed that time limit.
A 5 minutes long eulogy will be approximately around 1000 words whereas a 10 minutes long one will be 15000 words, if spoken at a medium pace with appropriate pausing. It should be kept in mind to not rush through a eulogy.
To learn more about how to give a speech with appropriate pauses, check out our article on How to Harness the Power of Pausing in Public Speaking
While people may have a lot to say about the person who has passed away, one should still try and keep it short. Here’s why…
It’s not that people do not want to listen to you speak. You are most likely asked to deliver the eulogy because you’re close to the late person. But think about it this way:
The audience most likely comprises of 2 types of people, one who were genuinely close to the deceased and the other who have come more so to pay their tribute out of a formality.
Both these audiences could benefit from a shorter speech. One is still mourning and the other is not that close to be interested for too long. It’s a hard truth. But even a eulogy, at its core, is a speech. And long speeches are rarely a good idea in such contexts.
Rather keep your speech short to get your point across while you can still hold the audience’s attention.
Read our extensively written article on How to Deliver a 1 Minute Speech: Tips, Examples, Topics & More to know more about how to keep your speeches short.
A eulogy is an emotional matter. I myself broke down while delivering a eulogy for a close relative. And I’ve seen many people go through the same, unfortunately.
Our emotions take over and we just can’t help but choke up.
To help reduce these chances, try and rehearse your speech before you deliver it in front of people. Saying it out loud a few times can help normalize the words a little more and reduce the chances of choking up while saying those words.
Definitely do not go to speak without writing down some pointers. Even after rehearsing, there’s a chance of breaking down while delivering the eulogy because the mood of the funeral can sometimes take over us.
Having a small sheet with some pointers on it will help you gather your train of thought in case you lose track.
Learn more about how to practice a speech by reading our article on Surprisingly Simple But Effective Processes to Practicing for a Speech .
A good way to make a eulogy more inclusive is to add in stories about the deceased’s other friends and family members who are in the crowd.
This also helps the other close ones honor their relation with the deceased publicly and can offer a somewhat sublime cathartic experience.
One eulogy I had heard from a grandson about his late grandfather included a personal story from a trip the entire family had taken a few years before the passing. The story included bits and anecdotes of how the grandfather used to play pranks and cutely annoy different members of the family.
Everyone in the audience was tearing up with a joyful smile. A lot of the relatives could recall these instances because they were present at that trip. It also allowed them to remember their loved one in a positive light – even if it was just for a moment.
Humor, as I mentioned before, is not a bad thing in a eulogy. Of course, one must understand the situation they are in.
For example, you shouldn’t make humorous comments in the case of an untimely death of a child. That’s would be considered inappropriate to say the least.
But for people who have passed away from natural causes, whose deaths were expected in some way, a little humor for their eulogies can go a long way in easing the mood.
This one time, I was attending my friend’s father’s funeral. And I remember how gloomy the mood was (as it is in most funerals). Towards the end of the ceremony, there was a moment where all of us friends (including he who had lost his father) happened to cluster in one tiny circle.
One of my friends reminded us of something mildly funny that this deceased father had done a few years ago. And then, in a moment out of utter reverence and aloofness, all of us just burst out laughing. And, just for a second, all of us forgot the reality of the tragedy.
This is not a eulogy example, I know. But it’s just to give you some perspective on the powerful effects of humor even in dark situations.
Laughing has an amazing therapeutic and cathartic power.
Humor…can afford an aloofness and an ability to rise above any situation, even if only for a few seconds. Dr. Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
‘How to start a eulogy?’ is the most commonly asked question. Starting a eulogy with a simple greeting could be a good option. Usually, I never recommend people to start speeches with a normal “Good Morning”, “Thank You”, etc.
But for a eulogy, you don’t really need an extravagant start.
You can simply start by thanking everyone for being there.
After starting the eulogy with a greeting, next, introduce yourself. Everyone present in the funeral might not know who you are.
So start by saying your name and how you’re related to the deceased. Nothing fancy to add here, as well. Just keep it simple.
After introducing yourself, also introduce the deceased. Of course, most, if not all, people present there will be familiar with who the deceased is. But just a short intro about who they are could help.
For example, “We’re here today to pay our respects to John Brown – a husband, a father of two and a dear friend. John worked in hospitality in his early years, slowly progressing the ranks until one day, years later, he owned his own restaurant. That restaurant is where the entire legacy of our family begins and stands to this day….”
And then you move on. This gives some context of who John is, who were his loved ones and what he did while his time on earth.
Now that you have greeted everyone, introduced yourself and spoken a little about the deceased, narrate a small personal story that you share with the deceased.
I already covered this earlier so I’ll spare you the details. But essentially, a small genuine story can go a long way in communicating what that person truly meant to you and what place they hold in your heat.
My grandfather was a kind man. I know that because he did a lot of good for people who had lesser than him. Not just in money but through his time and emotional effort as well.
But he rarely ever spoke about it and very few people outside the family knew about his deeds.
When he passed, I was asked to deliver the eulogy and I told myself I would definitely talk about all those random acts of kindness that he committed.
Some people do not like to talk about their good deeds. They keep it to themselves. So, if you’re given the chance to talk about them, do it. They don’t anymore and the world usually deserves to know.
Finally, begin to end your eulogy with the legacy that the deceased had in mind for their family, their work, and their world.
If the person was old, this might be easier to decipher. However, if the person was young and the death was untimely, it can be hard to put forth what legacy they would wish to leave behind.
At such moments, go back to their stories, their values. Speak to people closest to them and understand what they considered to be most important to them.
This changes with different instances, of course. For my grandfather, I spoke about his legacy of a world where everyone becomes a giver a like him. For my uncle, I spoke about how family should always come first no matter how much success you may achieve. For my cousin, I spoke about how short life can be and how we must seize every day, just like she did.
Figure out what matters most to the deceased. And leave behind their legacy for them.
This is why a eulogy is so much more than just any other speech. It’s so personal.
Finally, end by telling the audience how the deceased themselves would have wanted to be remembered after death. Would they like you to mourn? Or would they like you to celebrate and move on to achieve our purpose in life, knowing full well that they will always be with us in spirit.
1. don’t list out events.
It should be kept in mind that while giving a eulogy you are not supposed to list out the events of the deceased, as it is not a CV.
It is very easy to fall into the trap of listing the person’s events in a chronological manner while writing a eulogy but make sure to be aware of this. The focus should rather be on telling the stories.
The deceased may not be related to you but while giving a eulogy, you are not supposed to judge their behaviour or criticize any negative traits of the deceased. Any long-term grudges or questionable behaviour must be left out of the speech.
A eulogy is no place to mock the deceased. Although humor is always welcomed it has to be respectful.
Making jokes about death in a eulogy may put you in an uncomfortable position. Although you may be trying to lighten the mood, jokes about death are highly inappropriate and should be avoided at all costs.
Sample eulogy 1: from a grandson to his grandfather.
Thank you for being gathered here to pay your respects. I’m Joe and Mr. Al here was my grandfather. Pa grew up in a home not so privileged as the one he left behind. As a child, he was offered little education, minimum wage and enough food to keep his stomach from being empty. Pa was a quiet man as well. Even in his youth, based on the stories I’ve heard, he was always the last to speak. That doesn’t mean to say he didn’t have things to say, ideas to offer or opinions to share. He just preferred acting on them instead of talking about them – a lesson a lot of people in my generation, including me, can learn from. And in his quietness, he worked – slowly slowly transforming the world around him. Having his humble beginnings from a small village to creating a business that not only served his future family extremely well but also changed the way the industry functioned. Money, recognition, a great family – it all came to him eventually. Despite his quietness, he most enjoyed talking to us kids. I remember one day, back when I was 12, he had called all of us kids over to his home. No one was allowed to be on their phone or play video games. We just had to sit there and listen to him talk for hours telling us stories about his extraordinary life. And we would just listen. Those nights were something to remember. We were just speaking about those nights a couple of hours back when my brother said, “It just sucks that we couldn’t have more nights like those.” The most memorable of his stories ended with a moral that I try to live by ever since. He said, “Don’t judge your accomplishments by the money you earn, but the lives you positively impact.” And he impacted a LOT of lives in the most positive ways you can imagine. But in all of these accomplishments, he never lost his routes. He still went on, humble as ever, feeling like he could do more to help his world. A lot of you may not know this, but most of his wealth was given away by him. He rarely ever donated to charities though. He would always like to oversee the charitable operation so he would often just end up doing the actual work himself. This way he made sure that every penny was being used for the betterment of somebody. And this attitude of quietness, humility and giving is something he would have hoped to imbibe in us all. And that’s what I hope to be as I grow a little more each day. A little quieter, a little humbler, a little more giving. And I hope you do too. God bless you, Pa. Thank you.
Hi everyone, I am James, Colin’s son. First of all, I would like to thank everyone for coming to honor my dad. My father was a funny man. He liked playing pranks on people and loved it even more when people played it on him. He always used to be the heart of any party or gathering, making people laugh with his silly bits and funny jokes. In my summer break, when I used to come home, my dad and I had this secret tradition of playing pranks on each other and recording them. While growing up, this used to be something that I would look forward to. It was moments like these that really brought us close. One such prank that I remember very vividly was when Dad’s friend – Uncle Ryan was invited by Dad for dinner at a restaurant on the 1st of April. I still remember Uncle Ryan calling Dad to ask if he’d left and realising later that it was a prank. These memories still manage to bring a smile on my face. One of the most important lessons that I learnt from my dad was the ability to laugh at oneself and one’s mistakes. Laughing at oneself is the hardest humor skills but he managed to do it with the most ease without taking things to heart. He always used to say that, “Son, don’t take life too seriously because if you do, you’ll forget to live one.” Today, I truly understand what he meant by that. I hope we can all learn to live our lives like Dad before it’s too late. I cherish the memories I share with my father and I am sure he is smiling down on all of us. Once again, I would like to thank you all for coming today to celebrate the memories of my father. Thank you.
Thank you everyone for coming today to pay respects to my mother Julian, who was loved by all. I am her daughter, Jane. My mother and I shared a very special relationship as she was more of a friend than a parent. She has always been there for me and supported me irrespective of what she believed in. My mother and I really bonded when I was in my teens. We had a ritual of telling each other how our day was at the dinner table. Even when I left for college, I remember her calling me everyday to hear about my day and how I was doing. She was a wonderful person who would always be ready to help others in any way possible. At times she would also go out of her way to help others as she always believed that the world would be a better place if we all took a little extra effort for others. It was this positive attitude that she had, which helped her tremendously in her professional life. For those who do not know her very well, she was a therapist by profession and was always there for her clients. One of the things that I learnt from her was her dedication towards her work. She loved her work and was always committed to it. There were times when she had other commitments but she made sure that they never affect her work or her clients. Her devotion for her work was something that I would love to inculcate in my life. She felt that if everyone does their job or fulfills their responsibility to the best of their capabilities, people will be a lot more happy and satisfied. I hope we can all imbibe such devotion for our work in our lives. It would be an understatement to say that I miss her today but I am glad to have spent time with her in her last few days. She is and will always be remembered by all of us. Mom, you will always be in our hearts. Thank you.
Hello everyone. Thank you for coming to honor my friend, Liam. I am his friend Josh. I know some of you have traveled long distances to pay your respects, Liam would have loved seeing you all here. Liam and I met in college and I instantly knew that I had to be his friend. Liam was a gem of a person. His amiable nature was something that I loved. Making friends for Liam was like a cakewalk because people loved his personality. He would always make sure to talk to everyone at a party or also in the class. Moreover, he was also a good listener. Liam and I got close through college events and by sharing notes in exams. He had always been there for me through thick and thin. He was like a brother to me. His friendly nature was something that we can all learn from. He always looked out for people and made sure no one felt aloof whenever he was in the room. I remember the first time I met him was in Economics class where the professor had divided us into groups of 7-8 people and asked us to discuss some topic. I was a little hesitant to share my ideas with the group as I felt awkward. I was sitting quietly in a corner scribbling in my book. That is when Liam comes up to me and starts talking to me, asking me where I was from. That was Liam- for people who didn’t know him. He’d smile at you even if he didn’t know you, always making you feel extremely comfortable in his presence and that is what made him the best person I have ever met. He always felt that the world would be a better place if all of us were a little more friendly, a little more polite and a little more thoughtful of the people around us. I hope we all could learn from that and be better each day. Today I miss him more than anything but I know he is here with us, in our hearts. I will always cherish the memories I share with him. Thank you.
While I have attempted to give you some sort of structure for delivering a eulogy, the best eulogies are often those which are the most genuine. They are spoken truly from the heart.
So, if the opportunity to deliver a eulogy is presented to you, forget the rules. Just speak what you want to speak.
You were asked to deliver the eulogy for a reason. Probably you shared a connection with the deceased that no one else did.
So forget the rules. You can use these points as a guide as to how to start and deliver a eulogy. But if you can take one thing from here, is that as long as you speak with almost a routed sense of authenticity, no way of delivering a eulogy is not correct.
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I’m a professional writer with a eulogy writing business. In this article, I’m going to show you the exact process I use to write my eulogies.
The eulogy is a funeral speech that commemorates the life of a departed loved one. It’s an important feature in the funeral service, often the central event.
It is a high honor to be chosen to give the eulogy, and I’m glad you’re seeking advice on how to do it well.
Here is my guide on how to write a eulogy that is beautiful, brief, appropriate, and winsome.
A eulogy is a formal speech given at a funeral that honors the life and memory of someone who has died.
Although these funeral speeches are delivered in the context of death and burial, the tone doesn’t necessarily have to be serious or somber. Depending on the person, some eulogies are downright hilarious, some are joyful and celebratory, and others are reflective yet optimistic.
All this is done with dignity, grace, and a fitting sense of humor. The goal is to uphold the legacy they leave for family and friends in words that everyone can remember and treasure.
Let’s take a look at how to write a good eulogy.
Step 1: choose the tone.
Decide on the tone you want to express . Do you want your eulogy to be serious, religious, or even slightly humorous?
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To help you decide, consider your audience and also the person who has died. For instance, the eulogy for a young child may be very different than that of an elderly person who have passed away under completely different circumstances.
Start with a tone that is respectful and compassionate, then add in humor and solemnity as the story of their life unfolds.
Let’s get to the writing. First, introduce yourself. Of course you’ll want your audience to know who you are, how you know or are related to the deceased, a little about your relationship with the person. But keep it brief – it’s not about you.
Provide a brief but thorough biographical sketch of your loved one . This can include their date and place of birth, any family members and friends, where they grew up, graduated from, married, etc. It can also include their date of death. Remember our tips, though – don’t get bogged down with details!
Write about any favorite memories you have of your loved one. This is where you can get into a little more detail than in the biographical sketch. A good story or two can help provide the color and life to your eulogy.
Write about your loved one’s personality, how they met their significant other, any pastimes they may have had, their dreams, friendships, and achievements in life. You know, what made them who they were. These stories and memories will make up the bulk of your eulogy.
If you don’t have any suitable stories of your own, you can also collect any stories about your loved from family and friends. Anyone who created special memories with your loved one would no doubt like their stories represented in the eulogy.
Now it’s time to consider the order of your writing . For many people, this is the hardest part of writing a quality eulogy. To keep it “sweet and simple,” simply put the stories and memories you’ve written down in chronological order. This will make it easier for your audience to follow.
If you have a lot of stories and memories, the best way to narrow it down is to choose a common theme.
Here’s an example. Perhaps you’ll realize that there are a lot of stories that show your loved one’s kindness . Developing this as the theme, choose one story of kindness that is funny, one that is tenderhearted or even sad, and one that is either well-known by everyone or completely unknown.
Don’t forget to say your thank-you’s toward the end . Showing gratitude for everyone who came to the funeral is always a nice gesture.
Remember, too, to thank everyone who has offered support throughout the past several days, as well as the church, funeral home, hospice center, etc. Include anyone who has been taking care of your family or loved one (as appropriate).
Lastly, be sure to acknowledge that these supporters and many of those attending the funeral are in the process of grieving . This validates their sorrow and unifies everyone in their collective grief .
Finally, say goodbye to your loved one. This will mark the end of your eulogy. It may be the most emotional moment of your eulogy, so it will help to prepare for it by practicing saying it out loud.
If you have made it this far and are still feeling overwhelmed over the thought of writing your eulogy, stop right now and just tell yourself, I can do this! Confidence is key and once you believe you can do it, you are already halfway there. But when life, being life, intersects with death, things can quickly get overwhelming. If you are sure that you can’t tackle your eulogy right now, bear in mind that help is available. You can ask a close friend or family member to help you, or you can even hire me . It is what I do for a living, after all.
Keep it short. Eulogies should be brief, poignant, and summarize the individual’s life without going into every detail. It should be approximately 1000 words and take around 6-8 minutes to deliver.
Be authentic, but focus on the positive. A good eulogy can admit the person’s faults but will typically emphasize their strengths. Be sure to mention your loved one’s major accomplishments (personal and vocational), spouse and children (if any), hobbies, passions, religion, and volunteer work.
Think of their best stories and attributes. Start with a favorite story or memory, and connect that to one of the person’s defining characteristics. Or, alternatively, do the reverse: think of their most important attributes and then think of memories or quotes which illustrate the attributes you want to highlight. This simple process will give you at least half of your material; from there, just find a good eulogy outline and begin filling it in.
Consider a theme. Use a central story, phrase, or quote as a motif. Remember, there’s no way you can fully sum up a person’s life in a short funeral speech. Highlight their best characteristics by using a story or phrase that captures several aspects of their life and personality.
Don’t get bogged down in details. Of course, you’ll want to briefly summarize the person’s family, accomplishments, and legacy. But avoid making the entire eulogy a list of people, places, and events. Focus on their personality and how they affected the lives of others.
Less is more. You’ll be surprised at how much you end up wanting to say. Remove unnecessary details and keep it to 1-2 short stories.
Write it out. Unless you’re an experience public speaker, don’t rely on notes or a bare outline. Write out each word you want to say.
Practice. Print out a completed copy of your speech before the funeral. Use a large and readable font with double spacing. Practice reading it aloud to make sure the sentences flow. Do this in front of a mirror or a family member, and time yourself from start to finish.
Slow down and speak clearly. You’ll be tempted to read the speech quickly. Practice speaking in a slow and clear voice, and be sure to enunciate your words properly. Pause occasionally. Right before it’s time to stand up and deliver your eulogy, take a few deep breaths. You’ve got this.
There is no set outline or traditional template for a eulogy. But as with all writing and public speaking, it is good to have an attention-grabbing opening, a solid middle section in three parts, and some concluding remarks.
This is the traditional three-point outline you learned in school, and it will serve you well in writing a eulogy.
Here is a free downloadable fill-in-the-blank eulogy template along with a more detailed outline to help you shape your speech.
Here are five beautiful and meaningful eulogy poems. You can use these in your funeral speech, or find many more in our collection of 101 Funeral Poems .
Farewell to Thee! But not farewell To all my fondest thoughts of Thee; Within my heart they still shall dwell And they shall cheer and comfort me.
Life seems more sweet that Thou didst live And men more true Thou wert one; Nothing is lost that Thou didst give, Nothing destroyed that Thou hast done.
– Anne Bronte
If only we could see the splendour of the land To which our loved ones are called from you and me We’d understand If only we could hear the welcome they receive From old familiar voices all so dear We would not grieve If only we could know the reason why they went We’d smile and wipe away the tears that flow And wait content.
– Anonymous
May the roads rise up to meet you, May the wind be always at your back, May the sun shine warm upon your face, May the rains fall soft upon fields And until we meet again May God hold you in the palm of his hand.
Remember me when I am gone away, Gone far away into the silent land: When you can no more hold me by the hand, Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay. Remember me when no more day by day You tell me of our future that you planned: Only remember me; you understand It will be late to counsel then or pray. Yet if you should forget me for a while And afterwards remember, do not grieve: For if the darkness and corruption leave A vestige of the thoughts that once I had, Better by far you should forget and smile Than that you should remember and be sad.
– Christina Rossetti
To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.
– Ecclesiastes 3:1-4
Find more funeral and eulogy poems here .
A memorable eulogy will often center around a good quote. Here are five of our favorites.
More quotes and inspiration:
There are many eulogy examples available on the web. I think you’ll find the best inspiration on writing a eulogy by looking at a few general examples and then also reading a few famous and timeless eulogy examples.
I’ve included some of my own sample eulogies at the links above. Read them to see how I practice these tips. Here are some more examples I’ve written, and next you’ll see some famous eulogies you can read for inspiration.
Use these questions and prompts to get started.
Who should deliver the eulogy.
Anyone can deliver a eulogy . It is ideal to choose someone who was personally close to the decedent. Often eulogies are given by family members or friends. This can be a spouse, parent, child, sibling, close cousin or other relative, a pastor, or a good friend.
For some close relatives (spouses, parents, or children) the pain is very raw and they may have difficulty composing or delivering a eulogy. It is perfectly acceptable for the closest family members to ask someone else to give the eulogy.
If you are asked to deliver a eulogy, you should be honored. It is a sign of your close relationship with the deceased and the high regard in which you are held by the family.
Yes. Often there are two eulogies given, one by a family member and another by a friend. This gives two different perspectives on the deceased’s life and can greatly enhance the funeral service.
One eulogy is very common. You can do three or more eulogies, but if so it is imperative that the speakers be brief; three to four minutes minutes maximum.
A good length for a eulogy is about six to eight minutes, but no more than ten.
If there are two or more eulogies, try to keep each one at five minutes or less. Or choose one to be the longer “main” eulogy at 5-7 minutes and the others no more than three minutes. Ultimately, it’s up to you, but these are good guidelines to ensure that the audience remains engaged.
The written eulogy should be about 1000 words. A good range to aim for is 500-1200 words. Do not go over 1200 words; if you go that high, make sure you read it at a good clip otherwise you are in danger of going over 10 minutes.
Don’t include every detail. Many eulogies do mention important personal details such as family, vocation, and special accomplishments. But you don’t have to, as most people attending the funeral will be aware of these.
Don’t embarrass or disparage them. A memorial service is not the time to bring out sordid details. Even if they were a difficult person, emphasize the good things in their life.
Humor is entirely appropriate. Stay away from awkward or embarrassing moments, off-color jokes , and foul language. There will be a wide variety of people in attendance and you do not want to needlessly offend.
Aside from that, keep in mind that life is funny . People are funny. Funerals are mostly serious, so a few appropriately humorous stories and anecdotes can help tremendously to lighten the mood.
Certainly, but first clear it with the officiant , the family, and whoever is arranging the funeral.
It’s perfectly fine to cry during the eulogy. No one will think the worse of you for it, and if you realize it’s acceptable to get emotional then you’re actually less likely to do so.
Still, we have some great tips for you on how to avoid crying during the eulogy speech.
Read next: 100 Uplifting Quotes for Those Who Grieve
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Writing a eulogy is no easy feat—especially when you’re grieving the loss of a loved one. While you should try to speak from the heart, it’s okay to accept some outside help.
Steps for writing a eulogy outline, eulogy outline examples.
Many people find it easier to speak openly and honestly in a eulogy if they work with an outline. An outline also lets you organize your eulogy in a way that’s easy for listeners to follow. When you give your eulogy, you should feel confident that you’ve said everything you wanted to say, and that the funeral attendees resonated with your message.
If you’re writing a eulogy, creating an outline with the steps below will help the process go more smoothly and successfully. We’ll even provide some example eulogy outlines for inspiration and reference.
The first major task in writing a moving eulogy to honor a loved one is to make an outline, including points for the introduction, body, and conclusion. Here are four steps you can take to form an organized and easy-to-follow outline to help you best prepare for giving the eulogy.
Before you start getting organized with a tidy outline, it can help to brainstorm everything you want to say in the eulogy. You won’t include everything from the brainstorm in the final eulogy, or in your outline. But the brainstorming process will help you visualize the type of statement you’d like to give.
If you find yourself facing writer’s block when you’re brainstorming, you can start by jotting down your answers to these questions:
Pro-tip: You can organize your brainstorm however you’d like: word storm, mind mapping, or just journaling. But the key is to let the words and ideas flow freely without holding back.
Once you’ve brainstormed ideas for your eulogy and identified some topics you might want to touch on, it’s time to decide on a theme.
The “theme” of your eulogy doesn’t have to be extremely specific at this point. You’ll refine it more as you work on your outline. But you can determine what you’d like the overarching tone of your eulogy to be by reviewing your brainstorm.
Looking back over your notes, choose the items that speak to you the most, and that you think will speak to your audience. Then, make a (tentative) decision about the theme of your eulogy. Here are some ideas:
Pro-tip: You can choose two of the options above (or even three), and weave them together to create your own unique theme.
For example, your theme might be, “how my loved one changed the world with humor,” or, “how my loved one struck an incredible balance between family and career accomplishments.”
Some eulogies are short and sweet, while others tell a longer story. Before you start your eulogy outline, make sure to find out if there’s a time limit for your speech.
Reach out to the family member organizing the funeral to ask how many people they expect to give eulogies and whether they’d like you to limit your eulogy to any amount of time. They might say you have as long as you want, or they might ask you to keep your talk relatively short.
Pro-tip: The average length of a eulogy is three to five minutes. That usually translates to about 500 words.
Based on your brainstorming process, the theme you chose, and your time limit, you’ll decide on the type of outline that works best for your eulogy.
Like most speeches, a eulogy typically consists of an intro , body , and conclusion . But the way you outline each section will depend on the factors mentioned. Take a look at the example eulogy outlines below for ideas.
Pro-tip: Writing your intro and conclusion first, before you work on outlining the body of the eulogy, is often a helpful step. Doing so can help you get more focused on the message of your eulogy and how you want to open and close the speech. Here are some resources to help you with how to start a eulogy and how to end a eulogy.
You don’t have to reinvent the wheel when you’re outlining and writing a eulogy. Your eulogy will be personalized and heartfelt, and its content will be based on the person you’ve lost.
But you can also rely on example outlines, like the ones below, to help you organize your ideas and get started with the writing process.
Maybe you found out you have a limited amount of time to give your eulogy, or you’d just rather speak for as little time as possible. If that’s the case, you’ll need to compose a short eulogy . Here’s an example outline for a eulogy that’s short and sweet.
If your loved one has a large extended family, you can use family and ancestry as the theme. Here’s a eulogy outline example presenting one way to base a eulogy around family.
If you’re the main eulogizer at the funeral--or the only one--you might be asked to speak for a longer period of time. If that’s the case, you might choose to discuss more aspects of your loved one’s life. One way to do that is chronologically, as demonstrated in the example below.
You can speak on a wide variety of topics when you give a eulogy, from the person’s passions in life to what they meant to you personally. If you want a simple eulogy outline that you can fill in with specifics, here’s an example you can use.
Some people don’t trust friends and family members to give the perfect eulogy when they’re gone. Others would like to “give a speech” at their own funeral with some departing words read by a loved one. Another reason you might write a self-eulogy is as an exercise in exploring your own mortality.
Here’s a brief example of a eulogy you might write for yourself.
Most people struggle with public speaking to some degree. Whether it’s your greatest fear or a minor inconvenience, taking a speech class can help overcome that obstacle. That’s why many high school and college programs require students to take a class in public speaking.
Since one of the most common public speaking situations is giving a eulogy, one of your assignments might be writing and delivering such a speech. You’ll be expected to deliver a well-organized eulogy that includes an engaging introduction and maybe even a theme.
Here’s an example of a eulogy that you can use as inspiration for your speech assignment.
Putting your thoughts together in an organized fashion is never the easiest task, and it’s even more difficult when you’re overwhelmed by grief and loss. Whether you’re writing a eulogy for a grandmother or grandfather, a eulogy for a friend , or a eulogy for anyone else you’ve loved and cared for, the process can be emotionally draining.
When you’re creating an outline for your eulogy, remember to take breaks often to replenish your energy. Sometimes, stepping away from the page is the best thing you can do to overcome writer’s block.
It’s also important to keep in mind that you’re not alone in writing a eulogy. There are plenty of online resources to help, and it’s always a good idea to seek feedback from family and friends. Visit this page if you’re ready to move onto writing your eulogy .
How to write a eulogy for a funeral service.
Writing a eulogy for a funeral service is a deeply personal and emotional task. It is an opportunity to honor and celebrate the life of a loved one while providing comfort to those in attendance. A well-written eulogy reflects on the positive aspects of the deceased's life, shares meaningful memories, and conveys the impact they had on others. Here is a step-by-step guide on how to write a heartfelt and memorable eulogy.
A eulogy is a speech or written tribute that honors the deceased at a funeral service. Its purpose is to:
Before you start writing, take some time to reflect on your relationship with the deceased. Consider the following:
Think about the moments you shared with the deceased. What are your favorite memories? What qualities did you admire most about them? Reflecting on these moments can help you identify themes or stories to include in your eulogy.
Talking to family members and friends can provide additional perspectives and stories about the deceased. These conversations can help you gain a well-rounded view of their life and personality.
Decide on a central theme or focus for your eulogy. It could be a specific quality, such as kindness, humor, or resilience, or a general reflection on their life and achievements. Having a theme can help you organize your thoughts and create a cohesive tribute.
Creating an outline can help you organize your thoughts and ensure that your eulogy flows smoothly. A typical eulogy outline includes:
Start by introducing yourself and your relationship to the deceased. This helps establish your connection to the audience and the person you are honoring. You can also begin with a quote, a short anecdote, or a meaningful reflection that sets the tone for the eulogy.
The main body of the eulogy should include stories, memories, and reflections on the deceased's life. Consider covering the following areas:
Conclude your eulogy by summarizing the key points and expressing gratitude. You can end with a final thought, a quote, a prayer, or a message of hope and comfort for those in mourning.
When writing a eulogy, it is important to speak from the heart. Use a conversational tone, as if you are speaking directly to the audience. Be honest and sincere, and don't be afraid to show your emotions. Here are some tips:
A eulogy typically lasts between 5 to 10 minutes. It is important to keep it concise and focused, as this allows for a more impactful delivery. Avoid overwhelming the audience with too many details or stories. Instead, select a few key memories and themes that best capture the essence of the deceased.
Once you have written your eulogy, take the time to review and revise it. Read it aloud to ensure it flows smoothly and sounds natural. Consider asking a trusted friend or family member to listen and provide feedback. Make sure the eulogy is free from grammatical errors and is easy to follow.
Practicing your eulogy is crucial for a confident and heartfelt delivery. Practice reading it aloud several times, paying attention to your pacing, tone, and pauses. This will help you become more comfortable with the content and ensure that you convey your emotions effectively.
Delivering a eulogy can be an emotional experience, and it is normal to feel overwhelmed. Here are some tips to help you manage your emotions:
Writing a eulogy is an opportunity to honor the life and legacy of a loved one. By reflecting on personal memories, creating a structured outline, writing from the heart, and practicing your delivery, you can create a meaningful and heartfelt tribute that provides comfort and connection to those in mourning. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to write a eulogy—what matters most is that it comes from a place of love and sincerity.
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A eulogy is usually between 5 and 10 minutes long. As you write your eulogy, aim for about 750-1500 written words (or 1-2 typed pages, single-spaced) — this should be about 5-10 minutes when ...
Do be aware of your time. A well-paced eulogy speech takes about five to ten minutes and is around 700 to 3,000 words. Although there isn't a hard time limit for a eulogy, being concise keeps listeners' attention and provides time for other parts of the service. Don't wing it. Even if you're confident about your oratory skills, the day ...
Steve Schafer, a pastor who helps people write eulogies, offers the following guidelines. • Aim for 1,000 words, or about six to seven minutes' speaking time. • Always write down what you're going to say, even if you plan to abandon your notes. It's a good way to gather your thoughts and make sure you're not missing any important ...
Set up a special folder on your computer to store all the material you need to write your eulogy. This is where you'll put your notes for stories you think you might use, scraps of poetry, and so on. Labelling everything clearly and putting it in one place will help when it comes time to write. 6.
Eulogy example for a parent. Talk about: What your mother or father meant to you and your siblings. What they did both for your family and a living. How they raised you and the values they passed on. Funny stories or touching memories that you'll always remember. Something they once told you or a saying they had.
1. Set Out Your Structure with Sections. Now that you have brainstormed your ideas, you can start forming the structure of your funeral speech. To some people, the idea of writing hundreds of words can be a lot, so being able to break it down into 5 - 7 logical "sections" of much less words can be really helpful.
Start the eulogy with a quote or poem. The opening lines should set the tone for the eulogy. Whether you're choosing a lighthearted route or something more somber, make sure the speech is heartfelt and respectful. Consider opening the eulogy with the deceased's favorite quote, lyric, religious verse, or a catchphrase they said a lot. Your ...
When it comes down to the eulogy you write, follow your heart and your mind. It will end up being a combination of your love, energy, and dedication; people in the room can sense that. In the end, the eulogy is a gift to the deceased, your loved ones in the audience, and you.
Summarize your relationship in a few short words. Talk about what she meant to you and how she influenced your life. Here is a eulogy example for your sister: My sister, Kim, might have been a little shy at the first introduction. But once she warmed up to a friendship, she always had plenty to say every time she talked.
Time how long the eulogy is. It should be 5 to 10 minutes in length. Immediately before you get up to the pulpit to speak, you should: Get a glass of water to take with you to the pulpit. While you are getting the glass of water, do the deep breathing exercise for 5 minutes.
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1. The Beginning: This is where you introduce yourself and your relationship to the deceased. Start with something that immediately engages the audience - it could be a poignant quote, a brief touching story, or a significant moment you shared. The opening should set the tone for the rest of the eulogy. 2.
Give the eulogy a beginning, middle, and end. Avoid rambling or, conversely, speaking down to people. You may have a sterling vocabulary, but dumb it down for the masses just this once. The average eulogy is about 3-5 minutes long. That should be enough for you to give a meaningful speech about the deceased.
My mother was the greatest and most wonderful woman. My mother, Lucy Marie Duran, was born on January 23 1949, in Mesilla, New Mexico. She was one of the eight children, five girls and three boys, who were …. Eulogy examples for an uncle. Today I stand in front of you all with a deep hole in my heart.
4. Start with a quote. It may be appropriate to start the eulogy with a quote from a song or a poem. Maybe you'd like to start with a passage from the Bible or Koran. There are plenty of lists of funeral quotes for a eulogy online, but a quote is always more meaningful if it was important to the family and the deceased.. 5. Establish a theme.
He had a good life, a good family around him, so let's celebrate that. Tim, who gave a eulogy for his dad. Read Tim's story. A good rule of thumb is to think about the person who died and their personality. Also think about the people who'll hear the eulogy, and make sure what you're writing is sensitive to their feelings.
Eulogy for a speech pathologist. Dear friends, family, and colleagues, Today, we gather to honor the life and legacy of Sarah Kwambe, a remarkable woman who touched the lives of so many people during her time with us. Sarah was not only a skilled speech pathologist but also a former professional soccer player who had to leave the sport she ...
Provide a brief biography of the person's life. 4. Include any favorite memories. 5. Make it clear how knowing the person improved your life. 6. Organize your material so it flows in an interesting manner. 7. Express gratitude from yourself and the family.
Being asked to give a eulogy by the family of the deceased is an honor. But it's also understandable to feel the pressure and be nervous about making you're eulogy, and what you say, just right. Who Gives a Eulogy. The eulogy is given by someone close to the deceased. It could be a very good friend or a family member.
Time yourself to see if your piece is too long or too short. A good guide is about 15 minutes. If you go longer than 20 minutes, you may have overstepped your bounds. If your eulogy is shorter than 5 minutes, you may not have said enough. Step Seven- When you deliver your eulogy, be sure to speak slowly and clearly.
2. Don't bad-mouth the deceased. The deceased may not be related to you but while giving a eulogy, you are not supposed to judge their behaviour or criticize any negative traits of the deceased. Any long-term grudges or questionable behaviour must be left out of the speech. A eulogy is no place to mock the deceased.
Here is a free downloadable fill-in-the-blank eulogy template along with a more detailed outline to help you shape your speech. Eulogy Quotes & Poems. Here are five beautiful and meaningful eulogy poems. You can use these in your funeral speech, or find many more in our collection of 101 Funeral Poems. Farewell. Farewell to Thee! But not farewell
Step 1: Brainstorm. Before you start getting organized with a tidy outline, it can help to brainstorm everything you want to say in the eulogy. You won't include everything from the brainstorm in the final eulogy, or in your outline. But the brainstorming process will help you visualize the type of statement you'd like to give.
A well-written eulogy reflects on the positive aspects of the deceased's life, shares meaningful memories, and conveys the impact they had on others. Here is a step-by-step guide on how to write a heartfelt and memorable eulogy. 1. Understand the Purpose of a Eulogy. A eulogy is a speech or written tribute that honors the deceased at a funeral ...